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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/26/2006 3:43:02 PM | | yes i agree but you have to be strong enough to get thru the troubled heartache times your dealing with........each day does get better when you get up in the morning and the sun is shining and the birds are singing.......that gives you a whole new day to start a new beginning in life each day you wake up.........don't give up........something good will come up or out of it........accept suffering~it can stretch your heart to make room for greater love and joy.......good luck........ | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/26/2006 3:43:05 PM | It's nice to know you can see the difference. Pain hurts..... yes it does, but you will always have many people who do love you. Friends, siblings, parents, children even our cherished pets. These are the ones who suffer after a person does this desparate act. Nobody will understand why and they will all feel guilty. Reach out if you need to and cheer up things do improve. Ups and way way way downs are a part of life unfortunately, but like I said again. You are loved.
Blessings,
Witchy | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/26/2006 3:57:18 PM | hippoman-To every end is a new beginning. These are the roads we must travel in life, everything happens for a reason, So go with it.
Be happy with your self ..I know it's easier said than done but you have to figure things out ..find out what makes you smile and go do it.
We've all been through something I have ,my friends have and you would be so surpised at how proud you can be with your self knowing that you overcame a baad situation.
Suicide-- It's the easy way out...Fight the problem...It feels great to kick it's ass
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/26/2006 4:18:56 PM | You know everybody that has posted on this topic has all given great advice. I just want you to know that I myself have been where you are now and I have had a couple of friends there too. My best friend killed herself when we were 16 years old, at that time I went through a bout of depression along with hate for the guy that she killed herself for. Her family went through hell as well as everybody that had anything to do with her. I also had a guy friend that attempted to kill his self over his baby's mother. He shot his self in the stomach although he survived he is still in alot of pain and mostlikely will never be back to the way he was. I want you to know no matter how bad things get and no matter how hopeless you feel there is someone that is going to miss you with all their heart. Like the saying goes "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." that saying holds alot of truth.
I still hurt everyday thinking about my best friend, he pain cuts like daggars because to this day I can go to the grocery store and run into the guy that made her so depressed and he is going on with his life like nothing happened. The pain that I felt was so deep that the day of her funeral I spoke to him. I wrote a poem about the event and gave it for him to read, you know to this day I don't know if he ever read it but I do know that he can't even look me in the eye. I would really like to share this with whoever reads this as a memory to my very best friend Melissa.
Love's Curse
She couldn't stand the silence,
She couldn't stand the tears,
She couldn't stand her life
After only sixteen years.
He was her entire world,
She gave him all she possessed,
He did the same in return,
They were thought to be obsessed.
Their love couldn't be reached,
Couldn't be touched by any other,
They were all they needed,
They only wanted each other.
From two they became one,
They made each other whole,
They filled each others voids,
They filled each others souls.
Everything was perfect,
Everything was great,
Til one damning day,
They were told they'd have to wait.
Her parents were moving her,
To a distant place,
They'd be torn apart,
Couldn't see each other's face.
They swore they'd make it work,
Vowed to stay together,
Didn't care about the distance,
They'd be together forever.
She gave it all she had,
She did her very best,
But he still slipped away,
He didn't pass the test.
While she was thinking of him,
He had found another,
He said he couldn't do it,
He talked it over with his mother.
She was devestated,
Her heart was torn straight out,
She'd been such a fool,
She should have listened to her doubt.
From then on they stopped talking,
Never spoke again,
While he was with his new girl,
She was dreaming of him.
Every day she'd cry,
She tried to fight off the pain,
But the hurting never stopped,
Just shot through every vein.
Months went by since the ending,
But she only grew worse,
She couldn't accept what happened,
This was love's curse.
It finally overtook her,
She couldn't stand it anymore,
She grabbed a picture of him,
And snuck out the front door.
She walked into the woods,
Found a secluded place,
Kept thinking of the past,
And how she'd been replaced.
Hours later she was found,
In a pool of her blood,
And beside her they found,
His picture in the mud.
On the back read her reason,
Why she took her life,
What he did to her,
It seemed he had held the knife.
Though physically he didn't kill her,
He tore her soul apart,
It was obvious how she did,
It was from a broken heart.
REST IN PEACE
MELISSA
We
Miss You
And We
Love You | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/26/2006 4:52:25 PM | Go see your doctor as well. Tell him/her about how you are feeling and you will be prescribed something to help you feel more optimistic about your future. If what you are feeling is hoplessness then you are suffering from depression. You don't have to be on meds forever, sometimes only 6 months until you strengthen.
Take it from someone who knows. Also please mail me if you'd like to talk buddy. I can be there for you! | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 12:16:12 AM | Thank you so much Shoot. It really means alot to me to be able to share my story with others and who knows maybe it can help someone.
As for you Hippo if there as anything I can do to help you feel free to contact me. Message me and let me know, even if you just need to talk to someone. I will be here if you need me. We have all been through alot of things but that's life as much as I hate to say it. The thing that we need to do is come together so that it will enable you to grow stronger.
Lisa | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 2:24:18 AM | I can't be poor boo boo and pink fuzzy bunnies.
Although it might SEEM like the end of the world you have to give yourself a reality check and take a look around at people who's lives really do suck. People in third world, people who have been raped, mutilated, lost thier families, have had their houses burn down etc...
If you can't deal with depression yourself tell your doctor. One in five people get it at some point in their life so no, the doctor will not raise eyebrows... heck doctors get it.
power to ya | |
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mogrl
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Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 12 | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 3:58:22 AM | | Been there, not too long ago, sleepless nights, anxiety attacks, ridiculous weight loss. Brutal. Cut deeper than I ever have before. Hang in there brother. It gets better. There's no magic Disney happy ending, but you will have a life again, trust me. And this is hard, but try and be grateful for the things that you do have. I found that helped a lot. It made all the difference sometimes. Hang in there. | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 4:20:42 AM | The feeling overwhelms you and leaves you feeling hopeless/helpless
Hippo,
My heart goes out to you...... I understand and know what you are going thru, I agree with the advice of others about seeing a Dr. ...... I know in my heart I would not be here today if not for medication, I can only add, that this heartache becomes even more unbearable the more you isolate yourself,...... the more you isolate yourself, the more overwhelmed you become with your grief. The best thing you can do is stay in communication with others, family, friends, strangers, anyone. After 2 years , I still take medication, still battle my own demons, but now at least I know there is always a light ahead, and though sometimes very dim, that light is life and worth fighting for. It took me a very long time to even want to try to communicate with anybody or be around anyone. Although I am one of the survivors you speak of, It is my hat thats off to you, you have found the courage and strength to start this thread and that is a good start to mending your heart..............like I said, communication !!!! Please feel free to email and/or stay active and in touch thru the forums.
Over the past 6 months or so, it still amazes me how many total strangers over the net, unselfishly reaches out for those of us that are in need of help, there is no doubt in my mind, there will always be people on here day or night, 24/7 to listen as well as advise....... maybe at some point in our life, we are all one anothers Guardian Angels.  | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:12:41 AM | I agree, I at one time could not understand and thought the people who did hurt themselves must have been unbalanced anyway.....not the case...although I would never hurt myself over a man, there was a time I was so overwhelmed that I couldnt take care of myself or my children and spent the majority of 2 months lying on a couch. The good news is that yes, you will get over the pain...and be better for it. You become wiser especially if the person you were with wasn't what they seemed to be. Good Luck!! | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:27:23 AM | | hippoman, Dude, I been where you are. get up everyday, look at pictures of yer kids, yer MOM,Dad,Friends other family who would wonder "WHY".Even look in yer dogs eyes &think what they would be thinkin if you just werent there one day. Take ALL yer weapons to the pawnshop (it just helps if theyre not handy). Its "normal" to THINK about it,even plan it.DUDE JUST DO ME A FAVOR........PUT IT OFF FOR TODAY......THEN PUT IT OFF TOMORROW....& THE NEXT DAY......CONTINUE. See where im goin? Itll ease. If you need to talk to yer Doc. he can give ya somethin. DO SOMETHIN MAN Buy a motorcycle, Go skydivin (tandem of course) Its just a permanent solution to a TEMPORARY<< | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:31:41 AM | | hippoman, Dude, I been where you are. get up everyday, look at pictures of yer kids, yer MOM,Dad,Friends other family who would wonder "WHY".Even look in yer dogs eyes &think what they would be thinkin if you just werent there one day. Take ALL yer weapons to the pawnshop (it just helps if theyre not handy). Its "normal" to THINK about it,even plan it.DUDE JUST DO ME A FAVOR........PUT IT OFF FOR TODAY......THEN PUT IT OFF TOMORROW....& THE NEXT DAY......CONTINUE. See where im goin? Itll ease. If you need to talk to yer Doc. he can give ya somethin. DO SOMETHIN MAN Buy a motorcycle, Go skydivin (tandem of course) Its just a permanent solution to a TEMPORARY<< | |
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Joined: 9/24/2005
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:49:46 AM | To get suicidal, it's almost like a crazy emotion in you has latched onto the person and you need them, when really, you don't, try to appreciate that, although this is quite strong advice, I can't even follow it though when things don't turn out how you want, thoughts can be a bitch!!
I've been totally beat before after loosing someone I loved but you shouldn't let it get as extreme as suicide, you were ok before you were with the person so that's where things should get too again, you just have to be a man suck it up and get through it, take a step out of yourself and take a look at things and try to even see the positive in it, it's nice that you care so much and have a good heart.
Best wishes though sorry if I sound a bit cold, everytime you have a break up its a test really but stay strong and keep really busy, talk to friends etc, don't sit there by yourself, it's really important to actively think of doing things that you enjoy (watching movies if you have nothing to do (its good!), getting out, eating well, working out etc), don't let your thoughts get to you. | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 5:57:03 AM | Hello, I hope today is a little better for you. Life is not easy for any of us. We have all lost loved ones due to death and separation.
There is no magic formula for getting over grief, if you are a person with feelings. It is better to be with the grief for awhile and recognize the cause of your grief is legitimate.
However, after a period of mourning, we must realize we are still here on earth and have to live to live a while longer. So we should try to make the remaining years as healthy and happy as possible. Not by denying our grief, but by making other things a daily part of our routine.
You need to move to the healthier and happier stage soon, by regular exercise, healthy food, fresh air, long walks, long talks with spiritually uplifting people. And you might want to consider getting a pet.
Best Wishes To You.
Many people on here are wishing you well. | |
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 6:45:28 AM |
People that actually do commit suicide are unstable and want the other person to feel bad.
I am sorry that you must have attempted to end your own life and in the process make somebody feel bad!!!!!!! (I assume you posted this because of first hand knowledge??)
I will agree with you on not being stable or in one's right frame of mind, but after many many hours spent in group therapy, have been taught, and come to believe thru others, the suicide rate would be much higher if not for two main factors...... #1 - Having a fear of Eternal Damnation and #2 - The Guilt We Feel upon Inflicting more pain over our death on Those That Care About Us, these actually prevent less suicides. Most have nothing to do with actually wanting somebody to feel bad ....... maybe I am just not understanding what you meant??...... no one that has not been there, and actually attempted, without warning- meaning no phone calls made, no reasons to alert anyone's suspicions or draw attention to yourself cannot possibly understand the feeling of hopelessness, the lack of desire and utter exaustion you feel In trying to cope, I will not say "Loss Of" but rather a "Lacking Of" Faith, I guess I should only speak for myself, but you struck a nerve , so in my own defense, I can honestly say, Yes, I could not have been more UNSTABLE at that point in my life, but never, ever intended for someone to feel bad or guilty as if they may have contributed in some way for my actions! I can only say , Thank God my plan had failed , and it was not my time to go. Calendar Dates were mixed up by accident by another party, and I was found.... so I do know a little bit on this subject, and after all I guess I should after a nice long stay in the hospital- (The kind where the doors are locked 24/7) and Group therapy along with individual therapy consists of 16 hour days everyday.
HIPPO, Everybody on here may now think Im a lunitic- LOL - My only regret is not seeking help on my own, which only resulted in a downhill plunge at a rapid speed...... sometimes people get too much on their plate without choice, then heartache can just be the icing on the cake.... There is no shame in asking for help or wanting to learn new coping skills if ever you are feeling the need, However I do NOT reccommend my way, but rather more of a voluntary type thing Im sure you will get much more out of it and in a much more reasonable time period! | |
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jimb77
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Joined: 8/30/2005
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| I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now.
Posted: 1/27/2006 8:52:02 AM |
that man will pay for what he did!!
First, I want to say This is an extremely touchy subject for me, as I once became lost and nearly succeeded in taking my own life..... Because of this, I seem to be disecting each and every word everyone has written , including my own, (U have no idea of the edits I have done to what I have wanted to say) this is about the third post I either do not understand or am understanding it correctly, which then is turning me into a real b*tch, which I cant stand myself, so why would anybody else be able to..........anyhow my apologies to all up front!!
I felt as though I could not believe my eyes at what you had written, especially after looking at your profile and reading that you had a twenty yr old son, I myself have an 18 yr old. and the female that wrote the poem says she is 21.
I have read the post and the poem 4 times , and still may have missed it , but I find where she states her friends age to be 16 at the time of passing, but cannot find the boyfriends age ?? Do you honestly think your statement I quoted you on above is really fair? By any chance he is close to the same age as was his girlfriend, this would definately NOT qualify him as a man in the first place !! I feel it obvious that the writer of the poem and her deceased friend both are/were mentally way ahead in years, then their actual birth ages. Besides, have studys not proven it to be fact that males mature at a much slower rate?
Granted, I believe the girl to be ahead of herself in years , but suspect it possible that being a teenage girl and being in love as deeply as a full grown woman was not only terribly confusing to begin with , but then had a family move and a break-up to add to her confusion, Isnt it possible that it ALL simply became unbearable, and way too much for her too handle all at once? Would you have said the same thing about YOUR son at that age , because his girlfriend moved away , so a few months later ,he has another GF , so he would be at fault for causing a suicide???????????????? How many teenagers do you think are truely in love? Or do they just feel as they are and is only a phase of growing up?? Do you think he probably dont feel any guilt or blame????? Do You think he has not suffered in his own way, especially as a kid??? If you think he doesnt, I would bet the roof over my head , that you are wrong, What is it he should have to pay for ??? just being a normal teenager or what? I just felt that to be so cruel coming from someone that also has a young son. I dont think he is to blame one I-ota for this sad unfortunate event.
I do feel better now, getting that off my chest!! I also tried my best to be as tactful as possible but felt the need to express my opinion. | |
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