| Giving out your email
Posted: 1/27/2006 11:57:46 PM | | When someone pushes for your personal email from the start, do you find it offputting? I'm not one to hang around but I do think, 'What's the rush'? It would be different if messages were restricted.... | |
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| Giving out your email
Posted: 1/28/2006 12:09:06 AM | well initially, I would have disagreed, but being the veteran now of a few months  ,
I agree
I've talked to a few people, and added them. Only to realize after a convo or two, that they aren't all that interested. I try them once,if they don't initiate more contact, then I delete them! It's not bitter, I just don't see the point to keeping them on it!
So I say let the email dance continue, till you are sure it's a 2 way street! | |
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Posted: 1/28/2006 12:11:27 AM | I've only asked for emails when someone says they want to know what I look like.
I haven't figured out quite yet, how to forward my photo with the response in the private messaging. I realize that there is an option to keep your photo private, but if I respond to someone privately does and include my photo with my profile, does that not also make it accessible to all, for a moment, while I forward it in messaging.
That's why I ask for an email. When I ask, I say give me an email that you don't mind sharing.
I have images on my profile that are borrowed from others internet sources. These are just an extention of creative expression, nothing more.
I like the forums: starting a thread, responding to threads, reading them. I don't mind emailing privately too. I just don't feel the need to have a photo out there of myself at the moment....if I go to Glamour Shots or do something outdoorsy and want to show off my body I might.
The long and short of the reason that I ask for a private email is only if someone wants to know what I look like. But I only do this and ask for a private email after I've communicated a few times. Also, the person has to tell me why they want to know what I look like.
Did this help??? I guess I could have shortened it to Q: Why A: Because or Why not??
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Posted: 1/28/2006 12:17:46 AM | I just don't see why people insist on emailing and adding you to MSN!?!?!? We are on a free site that we can email on all we want so why bother exchanging external emails!?!?! If we hit it off on email here then we move to the phone, if the phone is still good then we meet....none of this long winded MSN nonsense.
I use my email for personal and friends, not for strangers I haven't a clue if I will see again after one meeting. So to answer your question it turns me RIGHT OFF when guys insist that we talk on email outside of here, especially if it is someone that lives close by.
Remember the telephone? that is what people used to use in the olden days to chit chat..why keep hiding behind computers if you are interested? 
@ Sandycheeks first off you need to upload the pics you want in the IMAGES section, then you'll see your photo list. don't tick off any of the boxes if you don;t want your pics to appear on your profile...when you email someone at the bottom of your email you will see all the little pictures you have on file privately so tick off the pic or pics you wanna forward with your email message and VOILA! ;-) | |
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Posted: 1/28/2006 12:28:17 AM | ^^^^^got any pics ya wanna send me S&B
don't answer , let me have my thoughts!
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Posted: 1/28/2006 12:30:29 AM | | I'm with you 100% sexyandbrainy. I asked someone why he was so keen to get my email and he said there was 'more room to write' - ha ha.... By the way, when I do give out my email I use a disposable one. I learnt my lesson after getting tons of nasty psychotic mail from someone. Ok I blocked him but he kept creating new addresses. In the end, I had to block the whole of aol. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2006 6:10:36 AM | Everyone really seems to have a different idea of how they want to communicate. There are advantages and disadvantages to each.
I’m not uncomfortable with any particular method and found I do have a preference for the phone. Some people can really get bent out of shape about it and overanalyze to death. I like the phone because it’s easier to communicate and get a feel for someone when you hear their voice.
MSN has the advantage being able to use file transfers. I like exchanging jokes, pictures and music. I have been able to see some great artwork done by women and send some music I’ve written. Webcam is also handy so you can weed out people that use misleading pictures of themselves. It’s too bad some people have created a stigma about it being vulgar by behaving inappropriately.
If there seems to be a connection with the first few emails I will offer my home number and MSN. Lady’s choice. By offering my phone number I’m showing that I DO NOT have a significant other at home. Married guys will not do this. The woman can always use *67 to block her number and protect her own privacy. | |
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| Giving out your email
Posted: 1/28/2006 6:24:57 AM | Yes - I am cautious too. Profile card is blank on MSN. I like to have to have chatted a bit with them on POF a few times before I give out an MSN.
POF IM works fine and see no reason why the personal email has to be the first question. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 10:23:38 PM | so can someone do anything besides harass you if they know your email address.
like personal info type of stuff? indentity theft?
i think it is weird too when people ask for my email address, but is there anything to really be worried about when you give it? | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 11:26:32 PM | Its usually to add you to msn, free flowing two way communication is better than the site's emails in my opinion, if you decide you dont like the person block them on msn and delete any emails...simple
Is there a risk, or anything to worry about from gicing out an email adress? no.
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Posted: 6/4/2008 12:00:39 AM | | Answer is - if you feel not so sure .... several e-mail addresses from several sources. Similar, yet different - and with notable similarities for my brain's long term memory sake, security codes. I have several use for when registering for different sites (ooops, I gave it away here, hehe, but not here) - mostly when I go on different forums that I frequent and there's a ENTER ME NOW contest - which I mostly ignore - but there's a certain time of year coming up in July where a few bicycling websites will be doing several contests for items related to the Tour de Bar - and so - they will get one of my "puppet" addresses. Now the task is to keep track of them. Or build 'em and forget 'em, which I tend not too. So keep a copy of the "congrats" kind of acceptance e-mail they send - usually has your ID and PIN number on it that you may have hastily entered ... and forgotten (as I have - easier than re-establishing a new ID when you need it NOW). | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 4:41:35 AM | | Does it come attached with a map to your house??? Whats the big deal about giving out an e-mail.You can always make a new one.......... | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 5:16:12 AM | I have set up an e-mail specifically for correspondence from POF, separate from my reg. e-mail accounts. For some reason it doesnt get used much......could it be its secondchancesnot lol
Some would rather just write on MSN, AOL or YAHOO as they dont sign into POF on a regular basis. I dont find it a big deal or annoying............... | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 8:06:50 AM | I give out my yahoo id because it's easier to chat then exchange emails all the time but yet i'm not sure about the guy to give out numbers. I don't use the IM thru POF it's annoying to me.
What worries me is when a guy likes my pic and asks for a bunch more then no response after that...where are my pics going? so I stopped that...you can see pics on any site i'm on...and can wait for any emails until we know each other a LOT better. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 8:32:18 AM | I keep all emails here for a long time. If a guy has my personal one then I felt comfortable enough to take it to the next step. When I first started the online stuff I set up a yahoo email just for dating but it got to be too much. Delete and block works on yahoo too
I just told everybody "No sorry I dont give out my email if you want to email me do it here." If the guy didnt understand or got rude...why would you want to meet him? | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 12:15:47 PM | When someone pushes for your personal email from the start, do you find it offputting? I'm not one to hang around but I do think, 'What's the rush'? It would be different if messages were restricted....
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Its not a big deal at all; if you dont like them you block them and you dont have to deal with it.
It's not that big a deal to be honest so I dont get why this is so outlandish. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 12:40:36 PM | | I don't like it when the first or second email suggests that we exchange email addresses. I like to get to know a little more about the person, just to be sure I even want to chat with them really. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 12:45:36 PM | | I'm with you. I can usually tell with the first few messages if they're interested and if it's worth it to add them.... | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 12:56:38 PM | | I vote with KissingFan, msg 14,,,,,,,,,,,I give out Yahoo ID because Yahoo Msgr is much more convenient to talk live than are Emails or this IM thing on POF. I see no prblm with ppl having your Email addy. U can always delete or block. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 1:05:47 PM | | I dont see anything wrong with giving out emails. Or yahoo aol or msn screen names sometimes it is just easer to talk that way. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 1:16:36 PM | | I learned the hard way that it isn't that harmless. I didn't realize that yahoo puts your first AND last name in the brackets next to your screen name. Not until I got a card in the mail from a psycho on here that I had never spoke with except through yahoo e-mail. Creepy! Once someone has that they can find out anything they want to know. Trust me..found out the "psycho" had (3) felony convictions and being chased by (4) women for child support. This guy pushed hard for an outside e-mail address and I think getting my first and last name was the main reason. Not paranoid..just sayin. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 1:23:00 PM | I USED to give out my email until a few stalker type fellows took it upon themselves to add me to facebook . Facebook of course has your real name and personal information on it along with your real family and real friends usually.
Most people give out their MSN and use that for their facebook accts. So, I find that's why they want to add you to MSN. So they have the email acct that you use facebook on, so they can use the find friend feature there to find out your real name and information about you. Since then I don't give out my MSN to anyone anymore.
I've thought about making a new email address for MSN for POF chatting only but then decided against it. I figure if someone is patient enough to chat through POF for awhile then they're the type I'd like to meet. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 1:26:48 PM | well if someone pushes for ur email and u don't wanna give it out then they don't respect ur wishes...so move on...
now i don't look for anyone on here now but when i did i refuse to send messages back and forth on here or use the im service cause msn is so much better than playing the message game...why have to keep loggin on here to communicate when u can use msn instead | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 1:55:36 PM | | My guess is that on msn it's easier to contact someone. There is no "friends" list on this site so it's not as easy to just click on someone and try to communicate. As far as e-mail address goes - and this might be true for msn too- some people can't or don't want to access a dating site at work. I can't access it from my work computer. It's blocked. If I have someone's e-mail, I can communicate that way. Besides that, I can't figure out why the big push because this site is easy to communicate on. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 2:00:19 PM | | I do not give out my e-mail address anymore, because it is such a pain. I do not IM either. I do find it off putting when someone pushes for an e-mail and telephone number right off the bat. | |
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