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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 1:59:48 AM | jennifer_1957,
on your next public outing, look about for the most repulsive man specimen you see and imagine yourself 'giving yourself' to him body and soul with relish. Swapping bodily fluids, and becoming as one. Do it over a few days and the icky feeling you get is negative chemistry. Use your imagination and you should feel a difference between your response toward the thoughts you have about those you find attractive and repulsive. If you have no response - you either have no imagination or you're in need of an indocrinologist.
Regarding your question if it's possible to have attraction with no chemistry: the chemistry is the operation that happens: either attraction or repulsion. Like plus or minus in math.
It's an analogy - since we're 'chemical beings' they call it chemistry. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 4:11:47 AM | It's possible to "value" everything about another person, want them in your life, care about them, choose to accept them as who they are ... and STILL not sexually desire them, for all kinds of reasons --
Too -- "Chemistry" can exist at several levels -- not just physical desire. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 5:08:01 AM | true chemistry is rare!
I've only had it a twice in my life.
both times had nothing to do with sex! Not even a thought about it, just being beside them.
it's a "glow " you feel inside
you smile thinking about them
it can turn the most confident person into a stuttering fool
you light up when they walk in a room
minutes seem like forever, and forever seems like minutes
that is what I seek, and will only accept in my life! | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 6:27:52 AM | Chemistry is a slang term for an imaginary mix of sexual attraction and romantic destiny. Electricity is when you feel excitement, and chemistry is when you get along. These are factors related to being soulmates. When you meet your soulmate you will feel the electricity, and find you have amazing chemistry. This happens somewhere around 13 or 14 years of age.
Later as an adult you simply meet people you like and get along with, and maybe go on to have a close and meaningful relationship. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 8:01:59 AM | I disagree. Chemistry is physical attraction. It is necessary for an intimate relationship, but far from sufficient if the relationship is to work over time.
I always carefully screened my online contacts before meeting, so was confident there was compatibility. Upon meeting, the physical attraction issue would be decided within minutes, if not seconds. If not there, no chemistry, no matter how good the compatibility. At that point, though, there was the possibility to be friends because the compatibility was usually still there.
I do understand what you're getting at with the wider definition of chemistry, but I think it confuses the issues. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 8:30:46 AM | Zen, then why rereading a card sent to you, 6 months earlier, still makes you smile. Or hearing a voice mail she left for you, melts you?
I do believe that it is instant and immediate, but it grows SO deeply from there, when it's right! | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 9:07:34 AM | | sambuca, the chemistry can persist, and grow into love. Those good feelings can even persist after a relationship ends - some call it nostalgia. I was speaking of first meeting, when chemistry is established. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 4:04:30 PM | Chemistry - When the first time you see each other its like BAM! You know you want to get them alone somewhere and just get down to it! They're on your mind for days. You're on their mind too. You're both casually asking people about each other. Eventually one of you cracks and makes the phone call that gets the ball rolling.
And it has nothing much to do with actually liking them either...you can have that kind of chemistry with someone you'd never actually go out with, but they have a way of sneaking into your fantasies and staying on your mind even when you don't want them to. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/28/2006 4:53:56 PM | | It is indeed a glow you feel for another. but be mature enough to know whether there is a potential there. In other words, don't be so besotted by the glow, that you miss other important things. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/29/2006 3:21:35 AM | chemistry.....hmmm
Its only happened to me once and of all things a job interview. It was instantaneous and caught me by such total surprise I will never forget it as it was almost indescribable. I felt like flames were shooting out of the top of my head for all to see (it was a panel interview no less).
I suppose it was just some sort of intense physical reaction but wow was it special in spite of the circumstance.
If I could have that feeling again under the right circumstances.... all I can say is that it was magical. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/29/2006 6:58:37 AM | Chemistry sounds magical, and I suppose it is because it feels that way.
But chemistry is hormones.
Initial contact, but now I have a thought, as hormonal levels vary, if you met someone on Tuesday and felt nothing, (for a woman) and then met someone on the following Saturday, if the reaction could be different?
Chemistry, for me is the dealbreaker.
If I can see what color the walls are, no thank you. | |
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| Chemistry between a man and a woman...What is it?
Posted: 1/29/2006 7:07:03 AM | | Wow, Look -- dealbreaker? I would question that (of course you don't have to). Using my own definition of "chemistry," if someone "stirred" me in any way -- could be intellectual, spiritual, physical, mental -- they are partnered to you in some way -- I don't think you should dismiss it. Not saying you have to base your whole life on someone, but "listen" to what stirs you -- could be a great connection in some way or another. Trust the "stir" and inspiration even if it make you question your basic assumptions and drives you a bit crazy. | |
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