| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 1/31/2006 2:14:04 PM | I know people with this illness who are single and want to go out on dates. My question is when would you reveal that you have an illness? CFIDS is a debilitating non-life threatening illness that can be "managed" through diet,rest,supplements, and medication. Obviously a PWC (person with chronic fatigue and immune dysfunction) who is in the begining phase of this illness would be to ill and emotionally lost (lost because CFIDS knocks you on your ass and you have no say in the matter) to even think about dating. But as years fo by PWC often
become stable and have learned to re-invent themselves ( by changing the focus of doing to being ) and want to particiapate in life and love. PWC do not look ill. So, would you date a person with CFIDS and when do you think a PWC should reveal that they do have an illness? | |
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| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 2/1/2006 8:46:23 AM | haveing the fibromyalgia beast myself i have run accross this delema
if you are interested in a person and have been talking thereis usually some where in the comunication that youcan slip this info into!
in myopinion its onlyfair to be up front
some people just cant deal with illness
and its not fair not to let them know what health problem messes up your life!
because if youfind the person that wants to stick around
eventually the problem will affect their life too
IMO | |
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| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 12/27/2008 10:47:06 PM | | I wouldn't not go out with somebody simply because they had a chronic illness such as CFIDS. Unless of course it was contagious. If somebody had a contagious illness then I would have to think twice about going out with them. Nobody is perfect though; everyone has their own flaws. That part of the question was easy. As far as when they should disclose that they have an illness is a little harder to answer. I think I'm probably a little more understanding about those types of things than most guys. If a woman revealed something like that to me early on, it wouldn't really affect my opinion of her. However, I think if a woman revealed that too early with most other guys then they'd probably get scared and run away. So I think it's really a judgement call. I guess a good rule of thumb is if she looks/acts ill then she should be up front and reveal it early on because the guy is going to be wondering what's wrong with her anyway if she looks/acts ill. If she doesn't look/act ill then she could probably hold off on revealing it until she determines whether the guy is going to turn into something more serious or not. | |
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| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 10/24/2009 12:19:04 PM | | If I liked her and found her attractive, sure, I'd go out with her! Not familiar with CFIDS, but, as long as it's not contagious and doesn't interfere with our ability to be intimate (which, from the posts here, sounds it does interfere), I wouldn't care about the illness, only the person. | |
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| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 11/1/2009 5:18:38 PM | pooks-it can affect your sex life (i'm assuming that's the type of intimate you mean) sometimes, purely due to energy/pain etc. But of course, all it takes it to be a little inventive and those issues can be happily skirted around.
Personally I've been quite lucky and not really known of anyone who's been put off me because of being ill. Although I'm sure there's bound to be some! But there are plenty who are willing to accept it, lots who are willing to research it so they know how it affects you, and some who'll do all that, do what they can to help you, and raise awareness of it themselves. Sometimes people are awful, but sometimes having a chronic illness can make you aware of the really good ones, too =) | |
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| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:37:29 PM | its not hard to date someone or to marry someone with a chronic illness
just realise there will be stuff you want to do but taking care of a loved one will be priority over all else
i look at one of the guys i work with he chose to date and eventually marry a woman who is basically dying now because he loved her and promised he would take care of her until the end
i respect this guy alot for making that decision
it is all about educating yourself on the condition and just being there for that person
i my self have asthma .. how should that effect ones decision? | |
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| Would you date a person with a chronic illness, ie CFIDS?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:24:08 PM | | Of course I would have someone in my life who had a chronic illness, since I was a caregiver to my husband for fourteen years. As long as the person has a great wit and an awesome intellect, thats a great start. And now I work with some of the best disabled athletes around who put many an able bodied person to shame. ~Beth~ | |
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