| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:08:25 AM | Heteroflexible, bi-curious, polysexual, ambisexual, pansexual,
pansensual, polyfide, whatever ... Are you a member of the "post
gay" generation ?
Here is an interesting article on the changing attitudes towards sexuality,
particularly bisexual/homosexuality:
http://newyorkmetro.com/news/features/15589/index.html
The teens in this article seem utterly full of themselves, but I think
they are an exaggerated representation of a culteral shift. One I'm not
sure I like.
I really never thought I'd be considered conservative.
:)
When I was young ... we were all still a little nuerotic about sex, we
would never discuss it so casualy and matter-of-factly in mixed company.
Of course, there were the more livid and explicit discussions with
trusted friends, but even those were charged with a feeling of the
illicit. Having sex was still a big deal. Having gay sex was a HUGE
deal. Either way, there was a great sense of excitement about the whole
thing.
I predict that pretty soon having sex will be just like shaking
someone's hand. It will as mundane and ordinary as going to the movie
with someone.
Maybe I'm just old and conservative, but the point is that I sort of
miss the uptight, nuerotic, and repressed attitudes of old. Truth be
told, those attitudes simply made sex more fun ! What happens when all
the old taboos are finally gone for good, among the in-the-know liberals
and the hip, anyway ? Where is the fun in slicing your ass with a broken
off bottle and sticking a dildo up your butt if such behavior is, well
... ordinary ?
It's not out of shock or indignation or rightousness I say this. On the
contrary, I think we should save sex while we still can ! I just want
sex to be controversial and exceptional again. I wan't it to be
exciting, extraordinary, forbidden, taboo ... even perverted at times !
The last thing I want is it to become just ordinary. | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:46:04 AM | I cant wait for sex to be as ordinary as shakin hands. (Hey how ya doin? oh my apologies I nutted on your shoe).
I think I would just get my girl to dress up like Minnie Mouse & spank me with her dildo or something before I resorted to doin a guy in the ass though. | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:47:17 AM |
I think I would just get my girl to dress up like Minnie Mouse & spank me with her dildo or something before I resorted to doin a guy in the ass though.
 running out of here to go find minnie mouse costume.....
OT -- I am too freaky for sex to ever become ordinary!!!  | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:49:53 AM | Jenn Make sure that comes with skirt, stockings & high heels lest we forget something.
Oh yeah roadhead is mandatory. | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 8:55:28 AM | Well, the whole point is that freaky is now pretty ordinary.
I mean ... in the old days you could dress up in leather and gap and hangcuff your paramour, and that was considered pretty freaky ... but for this new generation, homo/bisexuality, threesomes, BDSM, fetishes ... it's all just good fun.
I long to capture that wonderful feeling of being a deviant again !
I guess I'll have to get my girlfriend to shit and piss on me while I'm wearing a baby diaper or something.
Hell, in another few years even that will be passe.
The thing about liberals:
They may be right, but why does it seem they always take the fun out of everything ? | |
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Posted: 2/3/2006 8:58:37 AM | I guess I'll have to get my girlfriend to shit and piss on me while I'm wearing a baby diaper or something.
I'm glad you don't have an avator for us too look at. EEWWW! | |
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Posted: 2/3/2006 9:40:36 AM | ^^ yes, no kidding, thank you for not including the pic!!
OT -- roadhead, although more common is still so super fun to do....I understand that alot of what is happening now in my generation is just getting to be the "norm" and not so taboo anymore...thats why I like my men older....they are still of the thinking that it is outside the norm to be fukked with a strap-on -- makes it a little more freaky and exciting for me | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 11:39:35 AM |
Youre scaring me Jenn....I said whip, dammit whipped with the dildo
Yes, I know what you said darlin' -- we would START out with the whipping....THEN......!!
See! Somethings are still freaky and outta the norm for some ppl....real12luv included!!  | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 12:29:11 PM | my wife would lay there for her **** to be eat and then stick you****in here and she would not move. that got boring and i have not touched her in 6 years.
i use excorts now for fun. she can't figure out why i never want her | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 12:30:51 PM | THATS ^^ why you claim to have slept with 358 ppl -- you are PAYING for it!!  | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 12:49:37 PM | I didn't even know sex could become ordinary... what's up with that?
~RF~ | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 12:53:20 PM | | Sex does become very ordinary very quickly sometimes.....Too bad not all people are willing to "change it up"......some just get set in their ways... | |
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LL3
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Joined: 9/10/2005
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 1:00:39 PM | | Welcome to a lot of "our" worlds....Male and female...Some just forget to grow and change with the partner......or aren't able to.....I don't care what anyone says....as much as sex is a large part of it, growing, changing and maturing with your partner is integral to a long lasting relationship. Be it sexual or just in general.... | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 2:21:12 PM | The whole problem with sex is that it becomes staid and boring because you both accept the same crap time and time again... Firstly, monogamy is unnatural. Learn to deal! Then again... Infidelity is wrong. Ain't that a bi--tch?!
I'm almost 40... There is NOTHING that I wouldn't "consider" doing if it turned my mate on. That is not to say that I WOULD do ANYTHING... I would just approach it with an open mind. You can always say no... But if you're such a prude or macho freak that you're not willing to listen; You've failed in Lovemaking 101. "Be approachable." It's a sign of respect for your lover.
If you just wanna date a woman because she's got cable TV and a Barcolaounger; and she blows you in that barcolounger and feeds you beer in that barcolaounger and lets you pi$$ in the empty cans... That's not romantic... That's not sex...lol
Now! If she has a barcolounger and an imagination, wouldn't it be more exciting if she wasn't afraid to say... "Baby, turn me upside down on this bloody chair and spank my ass while I drink your beer through a straw and sing "There's a Hippo in My Bathtub" by Anne Murray."
It's wierd... but it might be exciting. If you get turned off by it... Or if you pretend not to hear it... It's your own damn fault that sex is getting boring. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2006 2:51:41 PM | Now! If she has a barcolounger and an imagination, wouldn't it be more exciting if she wasn't afraid to say... "Baby, turn me upside down on this bloody chair and spank my ass while I drink your beer through a straw and sing "There's a Hippo in My Bathtub" by Anne Murray."
Only if she was dressed up as Minnie Mouse & whipping (whipping Jenn) me with her dildo.....
I'm with you on this Algernon.....If sex is boring its your own damn fault | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 5:54:03 PM | It isn't sex that becomes boring..
...it becomes the person who is boring.
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Posted: 2/3/2006 6:16:05 PM | You're right in some respects, but people shouldn't become bored with one another. If you're with someone, you're with them because they enticed you with personality... Sex is such a small part of a relationship it's ridiculous... The whole thing is that sex should be used as a tool to heighten sensuality. It's a process; like the format of a novel: There's a beginning: Some playful flirting over dinner with friends. There's a middle: You whisper sweet nothing (or dirty nothings) into each others ear, and maybe cop a feel under the table. There's a climax: "When I get you home I'm gonna bang you six ways 'till Sunday." There's an ending: You bang each others brains in.
The format has been around for 2000 years... It translates well.  | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/3/2006 6:23:42 PM |
If you're with someone, you're with them because they enticed you with personality
Yes, but what if you're with someone who does not.
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Posted: 2/3/2006 6:36:45 PM | I don't know, maybe I'm an idealist... maybe that cloud does have a silver lining. Maybe the glass is half full.... of shit. See, I'm not so lofty after all.
But even so, I just don't think sex has to get old, stale, used up, past it's prime, boring, or utilitarian. It's just not in my blood, sorry.
See, I've got the sextastic taint running through the blood in my man veins, you know the kind that kicks ass.... Well, anyway I think it's all in your mind and since you can readily control your mind on a daily basis (yep it’s true) you should have no problem making it fun and sexy cool all the live long day. By-the-by, if you don't think that, then you have already lost. | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 2/7/2006 6:10:15 PM | I am not a man that suffers from a lack of imagination.
Threesomes, butt plugs, getting blow jobs under the bar, letting the girlfriend use the strap on while I'm dressed in drag, cocaine and transvestite hookers, sex in public, BDSM, sticking safety pins through my penis, suspending girlfriend from the ceiling, etc ...
I think maybe the problem is society puts so much emphasis on sex and love, and it's simply hard for them to live up to all the hype. These young kids are probably right. It aint such a big deal.
The difference is, I didn't feel that way till I was older and jaded. Now, kids start off feeling that way. | |
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| When sex becomes ordinary
Posted: 9/1/2007 4:10:28 PM | | Dang, after reading some of these, I'm thinkin maybe I walked into the wrong forum. I wanted to see what was to be said about this topic, but what I am hearing is sounding alot like blame toward one or the other (maybe even both) people. What I'm wondering is how many who have "boring" partners ever take the time to discuss it with them. Maybe ...and you can laugh if you want...they don't know there is a problem. Maybe they were taught they aren't SUPPOSED to enjoy it, and YES that still happens folks. Or, maybe like me, they went through something sexually violent and need help from their partner and are afraid to ask. There are so many things that could be in play, but I can tell ya if two people TALK it helps. | |
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