| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 9:53:36 AM | | I am a big believer in following the gut feeling you have inside about things. My heart seems to win over that deep down gut feeling when it comes to relationships. Following my heart has caused me so much pain in relationships. How can I shut off the heart and listen to the gut feeling that tells me......this isn't good for you. Why do we want what we can't have... | |
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Lutra
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 10:07:13 AM | | I'm probably the wrong person to respond to this...I am an emotional individual and I follow my heart in almost everything I do. Because of this, I live with great passion and an incredible capacity for love in my relationships. Does this open me up to be hurt? Of course it does. But life without risk isn't really living. Sometimes my instincts are right, and sometimes my heart is right. It's a balance, and they can both work together to ensure that I stay out of trouble. ;-) | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 12:18:58 PM | | Heart? Head? Heart? Head? Hard question but I agree with lutra the heart wins!!!!! | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 12:24:58 PM | I for one, vote brain. I am too rational to let my heart win. Not saying that those who let their heart win are irrational...because trust me, I'd love to be that way. But, like most, I've been hurt too many times and have entrusted my brain with making my decisions. Unfortunately it has caused me to push a few great guys away...all because I "rationalized" things in my brain instead of letting my heart pull me through. Scared.
So really...although I vote brain--it seems as though Im thinking of switching to heart...and here we go again...I have to decide whether or not to go brain or heart when trying to decide whether or not to use my brain or heart...LMAO
God...help us all!
Cheers | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 12:25:15 PM | I agree with lutra you must take risks and chances in life. I wear my heart on my sleeve and always am open to getting hurt, but true love now you can't put a price tag on that. The hurt goes away eventually but it is better to have love and lost then to have never loved at all.  turns to sometimes but there is always  when the love you share is  so heart, head go with the gut and listen to your heart for it is always worth the risk. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 12:25:29 PM | | I feel ya, I wear my heart on my sleeve, I havent learned how to shut if off either | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:41:03 PM | Gut is for those first meetings. Gut is what makes you fear the worst in those moments that can't be explained. Head has no place in matters of the heart. Head thinks in terms of logic ... and what is more anti-logical than love. Just my 2 cents.
Steve | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:50:31 PM | one day i kissed a girl, 3 years later I buy her a ring to find out she has been sleepin around as I'm workin in the bush. Never again...... trust everything but your heart | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:54:31 PM | there is so much pain out here
you want to meet someone for the company
get to know them
see were it goes
why jump so fast
rush, rush, rush
can't anybody just wait
gut or heart
it does matter
time will tell
relax and enjoy what you have now
i am learning too | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 1:57:00 PM | I tell ya.... it's good to know I'm not the only one!
My circle of friends has me believing that I am the only mush out there that is willing to look at people with my heart instead of tons of skepticism.... | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 2:29:26 PM | I used to say "I believe in love." I'm not sure, anymore. I hope I get it back, because without that belief, I would be callous and jaded. I don't want to be either.
Maybe that is why we don't shut off our hearts when the little voice inside says "this isn't good for you."
*sigh*
Some day. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 3:44:35 PM | Ouch that is hard. Especially if your heart is looking for something beautful and meaningful with another. I have had the same problem and it's amazing the things you will overlook when
you just see a forever in another person whom you are in a relationship with.Next time Im gonna try to be more fair to myself and I hope you do also becuase it's no worth the feeling of betrayl when they stomp on what you have hoped for. It's gonna take somone laying prostate in front of me yelling I Love you!!! lol for me to see it next time lol. Time to change my outlook into a i will believe it when i see it aspect and try to be more objective in the way i see things with my mind and not my heart. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 9:17:50 PM | | I give kudos to heart-like -mine it is good advice and i will take it for myself!!! He is so right and I have enjoyed my time here on POF but will soon be taking a break.. Want to slow down and wait!!!!!!!!!The best things in life are worth waiting for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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ZeXy
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Joined: 7/31/2005
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/5/2006 10:30:16 PM | | Trust it, no. Follow it, yes. In every life happiness and pain play a part. Not following your heart leaves you wondering only about what might have been. Sure there may be pain as what your heart wants, may not be true. But I'd much rather feel the pain of a lost love, than the cold bitter pain of loneliness of one who has never tried. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/6/2006 12:23:35 AM | | well, i just went through the most heart breaking break up, to tell the truth i was dumped. she told me so much sweet talk, like i was the one she was looking for, she wanted to marry me, and loved me so i fell for her. Then we move in together(we were in different towns before) and things were too fast and sudden for her to deal with, she cant adjust fast and make the best like i could, so then she starts calling friends and exes saying how bad this town is and then leaves me stating shes too confused and needs time. then she tells me t3 weeks after shes seeing an old ex cause he has a nice family, i thought wtf am i chop liver, i fell so hard for her and for her to just leave me so sudden for no good reason, i gave alot of outs, i wanted it to work, i felt abondonded. so you ask me do i feel like using my heart again, maybe but i will be alot more skeptical now and catious before falling in ove again, i want honesty, good communication and loyalty. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/6/2006 9:04:28 AM | | What if your gut and your heart tells you the same thing? My heart hurts, my gut hurts, everything hurts. How can I shut off everything? Guess, your right cant have what we want. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/6/2006 9:11:18 AM | I always do without thinking, I go with the base thoughts, whether they be 'run away' or 'keep this feeling going'.
I dont know whether this is following my heart or not, but it does get me into trouble, and a lot of pain. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/6/2006 9:28:44 AM | Seems to me, when heart's in the driver's seat, and we're coasting on that emotional high, is when we feel happiest in any relationship. It's when head takes over and we start questioning, the wheels fall off the ride....
Steve | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/6/2006 9:48:02 AM | | I guess I just don't understand why the heart would want someone that is very bad for the person. Sometimes I think there is something wrong with me to love and desire someone who is obviously not good for me or cares about me. So far I am sticking to what my brains says and hopefully those heart pains will fade away. It is sure taking a long time though. Thanks for the replies. | |
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| Should we trust our heart?
Posted: 2/6/2006 10:56:57 AM | | Follow your heart... but make sure your heart checks in with your head regularly lest your heart choose foolishly. Only your head knows WHY your heart feels what it does...and sometimes your heart feels things for selfish, hedonistic, insecure, or defensive reasons. | |
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