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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/20/2005 7:32:41 AM | | i think if they reject him physically, they would never get the chance to find out about his personality. and i think if hes out of shape thats why he would be rejected. i think in my case again its about the hair, think in todays day there more attracted to clean cut people | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/20/2005 7:39:21 AM | My guess would be attitude or personality. No matter what you look like if your attitude turns a woman off you are done. Of course then comes the debate on what a woman wants in the way of personality and attitude. "she wants a bad boy" "No, she wants a nice guy" Who knows what she wants?
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/20/2005 8:03:28 AM | The number one reason by far I used to be rejected when I was good looking was because I didn't agree with something the woman needed me to agree with. It usually happened in conversation where she said her opinion and I didn't agree, so she asked me what I thought and I told her, so she stopped enjoying my company. I can get along with anyone on the planet as long as I tell them what they want to hear. It's not even how you disagree that matters. Ipso facto. The knowledge that you disagree can't sit well. At least, not with anyone I've met so far. My ideas are generally so different from other people's because I have spent my time thinking about things. I mean, a lot of time and deeply, not just here and there once in a while. I also have an abnormal intellect, and a genius for patterns. This means my outlook is going to find the world looking different, and agreement is just not available to me. I have a great personality, I just can't agree with most people's opinion's of things. Because for the most part the opinions are contradictory and not much thought out. I don't need to be right. I just want my ideas to be accepted. I am not the one doing the rejecting. You're welcome to your ideas, why reject me for mine?
But now that I am goofy looking it doesn't even get that far. I get rejected for how I look. If I send my picture, I get rejected. If I show up for a blind date, she sees me, and I get rejected. You can have any of the qualities on Oprah's approved list, but if you don't have the looks to go with it, forget about it. This is because no matter what women say about it, when it comes down to it they ultimately put you on like an outfit and look in the mirror to see if you make them look like a loser. Part of what a woman wants in a man is for other people to look at the two of you together and think she got a good catch. If you're ugly, she can't think that. She has to find someone better looking or else she is "settling' for less than. I need a woman who can settle for less than.
I'm not complaining about it. That's just how nature made us. The number one reason I get rejected is looks. The number two reason doesn't matter anymore because it don't get that far.
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/20/2005 12:41:50 PM | lessthan - whoa...don't think all women are like that. you are beginning to sound like mflorh, painting all women with the same brush.
sure women have to be attracted to the person they're with. so do men. does that mean they automatically reach for eye candy? not at all. if that were the case, half the people that are married right at this moment would not be married. maybe their physical looks didn't automatically make people gravitate towards them but their sense of humour, style, attitude, intelligence, charm, charisma, confidence, etc. obviously did nab someone's attention.
and no, women do not always like to have something better looking on their arm than themselves. in fact, i know of plenty (including myself) that don't like being the "ugly" one in the relationship because it preys on their insecurities (ie. why is this person with me? they can do better than me, blah blah blah).
we all have our insecurities and hey, lots of people aren't attracted to me. i don't start thinking all men are shallow, all white men dislike dark skinned women, or the like. i just know that i don't appeal to a mainstream audience and you know what? that's fine with me. i'm looking for someone extraordinary, not ordinary. and like i say in my profile, stimulating and witty conversation turn me on.
btw, i post on the forums and have looked up profiles of men who i didn't look at twice but b/c of the level of intelligence and wit displayed on their postings, i wanted to get to know. unfortunately, they live too far away from me but i respect and am attracted to them simply for their intellect, creativity and ability to articulate.
good luck to you and keep your chin up...enjoy the dancing banana! | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/20/2005 12:44:46 PM | I never had a girlfriend, it seemed complicated to me, like ya theres sex is that all? maybe I'm special cuz I can controll sexual desire, or maybe I'm insane. My point is girls have said they like me cuz I'm cute, and can be funny.
So why am I posting if I havent been there? cuz one day soon I'll get rejected, and it will be because I'm not the best talker, or dunno how to play the game. See we all got something that turns people off, with guys whatever turns them off will mostly be physicall, for women it will be something about personality. The girl is emotion bound, the guy is the same but he doesn't show it very well, I figure women get hurt faster thats the difference. | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/20/2005 12:52:59 PM | Well, um, (cough, sputter) no I didn't mean all women were like that. I had narrowed it down to the group that rejects me based on how I look. It is my theory to explain the actual experiences I have had. The broad (no pun goes unintended) sweeping nature of my comments come from a habit of making declarative statements but that are still meant to apply to the case at hand. It is a failing of my style and often gives the impression as this has, which was my mistake. I think of women as a fairly large group of people, more than athousand at least, made of individuals who have diverse views. Then I extcat a subset who share the trait 'rejects me 'cause i'm a goofy looking fuk', and make broad sweeping statements about them, as part of my theory. See, it's localized idiocy, not universal.
If it ever turned out there was some other reason for my being rejected I might have to look at something I can actually change, and that sounds like work.
So for today ALL women who have rejected me have done so because they ALL prefer to have someone their friends would not weep at the tragedy of seeing her with.
Your point is well taken and I sit corrected.
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 10:57:47 AM | let me start off by saying this-----most men put so much stock in a picture that they fail to see the beauty of the person behind it----that is why most women reject men----
a picture is worth a thousand words--but if any man was really honest with themselves, theyd realize that any one can put anyones picture on here and its not really theirs...
i myself do not post for that reason--- i tell them what i look like.. i dont have any reason to lie about it and if they dont want to meet me for that reason.....be honest enough to say so----i expect honesty as well.....
then i give a phone number to see if theyd actually call ----most of them do and its been very gratifying to meet them after 2 phone calls---if they dont take the time to get to know me, then they are not worth meeting and then i dont waste myprecious time---or theirs---i know what im looking for and what i want out of life and it goes without saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder..., that is the only way ill meet someone and if neither of us likes what we see , then we go our separate ways and no one gets hurt---so give some of us a chance ---i make it a point to meet everyone i talk to if theyre in driving distance of where im at---i feel its worth the effort to make a new friend but thats me... im a very friendly person----ill be back in ny in the month of may and id like to meet you---if youre willing---you can check me out if you want//// my profile is in here and on several other dating sites---im very popular and l like to know its because i gave them a chance to show me the real them-----looking forward to any response to my post----
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 11:23:35 AM | let me start off by saying this-----most men put so much stock in a picture that they fail to see the beauty of the person behind it----that is why most women reject men----
If I rejected men because of that, I'd be a hypocrite. Looks are very important. If a guy doesn't look strong and ruggedly handsome, I'm just not interested.
By the way, my dream guy is "Grizzly Adams", so maybe I'm just different. | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 12:33:29 PM | I reject women who are sarcastic 24/7 about everything.......it's very frustrating when trying to discuss any issue and have it derailed by sarcasm.......sometimes it's ok.....but c'mon?....24/7 ?
....it gets tiring quick is all.....
...also, a woman who seems to date a different guy every night turns me off fast.....lmao! | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 6:22:57 PM | okay counting back from 10 reasons i would reject a guy for would be:
10 - hates animals
9 - is too dominate
8 - is mean, nasty, rude, or arrogant
7 - we have nothing in common
6 - does not work
5 - does not like the country
4 - does not like kids
3 - personal hygene
2 - personality
and for my number 1 answer...................................drumroll please?????
1 - has a wife/girlfriend | |
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| What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for?
Posted: 1/16/2007 6:29:28 PM |
Without a doudt ppl get rejected beacuse of personality
Not sure where you are from then. 99% of the time women reject men based on what they see, not what he is like as a person. If she likes what she sees, then she will give him a chance and most women put up with arrogance in a man. I find that today women find arrogance attractive compared to respect.
Some women said to me that arrogance shows a man is strong and she feels more "protective" with a man like that. A man respctful is a sign of a weak man who is just boring. Makes sense somewhat. | |
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