| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:16:44 PM | | I am so tired of this site. I seem to only be able to meet guys who are jerks. I have met a couple of people off here but they all have treated me like garbage. I honestly dont know what to do anymore. Im ready to give up i honestly truly am. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/7/2006 11:29:08 PM | | I'll reply....don't give up....there are so many men on here....with patience and lots of screening....your bound to find the right one... | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:40:06 AM | The right guy will knock you off your feet when your least expecting it.... Dont give up theres 'plenty of fish' out there  maybe the right one hasnt signed up yet. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:51:03 AM | i know what your saying..at any age its hard to find that right connection..the spark,the desire to want to ,meet again and whatever follows thats...but must be that connection ..good luck | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 5:41:18 AM | | I think maybe you need to take off a week or two. I've done it before, just don't log on at all. Go check out a new restaurant, go to the library, go see a movie, just do something else where you're out of the house. Here's another suggestion, do you have local POF get togethers in your area? If not, why don't you take it on yourself to START a local group. Go bowling once a month, easy to set up, do a picnic, go ice skating. You have the resources here to help you keep track of people and have a thread for your party. Whatever you do, DO something different, doing the same old thing day after day, week after week with no results is mind numbing. Try different things. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 5:43:24 AM |
try different things
oui good idea
perhaps you might want to post a smiling picture.
The ones you have make you look upset (no offense) | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 6:42:14 AM | Could it be the guys you are choosing or are attracted to on here??
I know there are guys that would treat you right, but you have to be willing to give them a shot to prove it to you. It might be the guy that is not all that attractive but probably has a good personality.
Don't let 1 or 2 guys ruin the whole experience for you, we are not all a$$hats like the guys you described.
Keep your chin up.
Bryan | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 7:16:38 AM | | Hey Hey...listen girlfriend. If anyone, man or woman treats you like garbage... count your blessings that you found out sooner than later. I too have met a couple of real jerks on here, it's not only you. If you're really sensitive, perhaps it's not for you. Or, toughen up....learn from these people and move on. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 7:29:39 AM | Shygirl.... Online dating is like a rollercoaster... with all the ups and downs and twists and turns.... yet we jump right back on!
Maybe you need to look at the kind of guys that you have met... and that you find attractive... see if they had anything in common... that you can stay away from! Maybe go outside your box..... and chat with someone that has the quailities you like.....
Try to see how these guys treated you like garbage.... and figure out how to make sure you don't put yourself in that situation.
Don't give up! DaYum If I haven't given up... U shouldn't give up! LOL (just trying to make ya smile!) | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 8:07:11 AM | Hi Sweety
I looked at your photos and you look angry and sad.
First, take some new profile photos. SMILE. I bet you have a pretty smile but you are not smiling in either photo. You have to appear approachable but in your photos you look unapproachable.
Get a digital camera and play, let a friend take photos and do several poses then pick the really nice ones. The model photos we see in catalogs are not done in a single shot. It takes a little work and manipulation to get a good photo.
Then talk to the people you get in contact with and learn something about one another before meeting, and always be honest. How can you be let down if you are honest, right? Exhibit confidence in your photo, in your conversation and in yourself. Know what you want and try to be proactive in determining this in the prospective young men with whom you speak. And never - ever- settle for less than what you want. Settling only gets you hurt and begins to crack your confidence when its time for round two.
Chin up! There is someone who will appreciate you, but you have to smile pretty so he can see your true spirit shine through in your photo.
Keep a good spirit.
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 8:28:20 AM | I love how the OP posted her first message and then 6 minutes later posted again, in capitals no less indicating yelling, how nobody has replied to her. Waaa waaa waaaa!! Everybody stop what your doing and feel sorry for me because I'm the only one going through this! Waa waa!!
I need a Midal. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 8:40:51 AM | | lmao @ joe....it's Midol not Midal. lol. Yes, you're right, men go through tough times too. Not enough attention goes out to the men. Sorry, on behalf of women like me. Sometimes it's easy to forget that men have hearts too. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 8:46:52 AM | Your right Joe...I want attention NOW....lol
This after a whole five minutes had passed...
I just don't believe all men here are garbage..there is good and bad...men and women.
What you choice...could be the reason you are getting the unwanted attention you are getting...
First off you need to chill out...and then reconsider some things like coaster said...
Work on the attitude....cause if people can see it in your posts...bet they can see it and feel it in your emails as well. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 8:59:22 AM | Just something I read recently - It's pretty long but might help:
Your Attention must be on It, not the Lack of It:
The creative process is occurring whether you are consciously aware of it or not. Because of the variety and contrast of your experience, continual new preferences are being born within you, and you are, even without knowing it, broadcasting them as requests. And in the moment that you broadcast a preference, Source Energy receives your vibrational request and, by the Law of Attraction, offers immediate response, which you must then align to vibrationally.
The reason that you are not always aware that your desires have been answered is because there is often a time gap between your asking (Step 1) and your allowing (Step 3). Even though a clear desire has emanated from you as a result of the contrast you have considered, you often, rather than giving attention purely to the desire itself, focus back on the contrasting situation that gave birth to the desire. And in doing so, your vibration is more about the reason you have launched the desire, than iti s about the desire itself.
For example, you automobile is getting older and is beginning to require frequent repairs... and as you begin to notice its fading beauty, you find yourself desiring a new car. And as you very much wanted that feeling of confidence that a dependable new car brings, a vibrational rocket of desire emanated form you, and "Source" received it fully and responded, in kind, immediately.
But because you were not consciously aware of the Laws of the Universe and the Three-Step Process of Creation, that fresh, exhilarating feeling was short-lived for you. So, instead of immediately turning your attention toward your fresh new desire (and continuing vibrational harmony with your own new idea) you look back at the vehicle you currently own, pointing out the reasons that you desire the new car. "This old car no longer pleases me" you conclude, not realizing that in looking a at the unpleasing car, you are tuning your vibration back to it, and not forward to the new car you desire. "I really need a new car", you explain, pointing out the dents, the cracks, and the undependable performance of the old one.
With each statement of need and justification for a new car, you unwittingly reinforce the vibration of your current unpleasant situation, and in doing so, you continue to hold yourself out of vibrational alignment with your new desire, and out of the receiving mode of what you are asking for.
As Long as you are more aware of what you do not want regarding this situation, what you do want cannot come to you. In other words if you are predominantly thinking about your beautiful new car then it is steadily making its way to you, but if you are predominantly thinking about your undependable current car, your dependable new car cannot move toward you...
Once you understand that your thoughts equal your point of attraction and that the way you feel indicates your level of allowing or resisting, you now hold the key to creating anything that you desire.
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Okay, easier said than done, but interesting. The power of positive thinking and all that..
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 9:02:25 AM | | I can agree with everyone on here , I have been treated like sh*t also ,,on here and in life , But in no way am I going to blame all women cause I know one day I will find her or she'll find me, Change your pics hun, They look like you want to be used and will take what ever you can get , and I know you look good enuf to get what and who you want ,, Change your pics! SMILE! Act like you are somebody,, Not garbage and Not all men are dogs , women can be cruel too,, I knowfrom exerience,,,,, | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 2/8/2006 9:18:02 AM | I don't know if you believe that there is someone out there from everyone! You just have to be patient! It will all work out just have hope!! | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 3/11/2006 8:43:12 PM | hey
I realize that what we may say on here may or may not help, I don't know, but honestly from what I do know, you seem to be very honest and blunt and you seem to be a good person at heart. Someone RIGHT will surely come your way. Just keep your head up and I feel you will find that right guy. As soon as they realize the real you, the intelligent and open and honest person that you are will shine out and that is going to attract guys to you. I felt this way before too and it just takes a positive attitude continually and having more of a smile on your face that will make a difference in how that special someone will see you.
I wish you luck and keep your head up, I feel you will find the right guy for you.
Take care | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 3/12/2006 5:18:32 AM | Sorry to say there's sleeze bags everywhere around and it's a shame that there are way too many.. Just the other day I talked to someone that said I was the first in 1.5 years (on PoF) she had a normal conversation with.... :D
So keep looking, i'm sure there's at least more than 1 guy on this site that isn't a total sleeze bag... :D | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 3/14/2006 2:46:46 PM | | I really do wish you luck ok. You will find someone just for you. Just have more of a smile on your face and people will see that and be attracted to you more. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 3/14/2006 2:51:38 PM | {Just something I read recently - It's pretty long but might help:
Your Attention must be on It, not the Lack of It:
The creative process is occurring whether you are consciously aware of it or not. Because of the variety and contrast of your experience, continual new preferences are being born within you, and you are, even without knowing it, broadcasting them as requests. And in the moment that you broadcast a preference, Source Energy receives your vibrational request and, by the Law of Attraction, offers immediate response, which you must then align to vibrationally.
The reason that you are not always aware that your desires have been answered is because there is often a time gap between your asking (Step 1) and your allowing (Step 3). Even though a clear desire has emanated from you as a result of the contrast you have considered, you often, rather than giving attention purely to the desire itself, focus back on the contrasting situation that gave birth to the desire. And in doing so, your vibration is more about the reason you have launched the desire, than iti s about the desire itself.
For example, you automobile is getting older and is beginning to require frequent repairs... and as you begin to notice its fading beauty, you find yourself desiring a new car. And as you very much wanted that feeling of confidence that a dependable new car brings, a vibrational rocket of desire emanated form you, and "Source" received it fully and responded, in kind, immediately.
But because you were not consciously aware of the Laws of the Universe and the Three-Step Process of Creation, that fresh, exhilarating feeling was short-lived for you. So, instead of immediately turning your attention toward your fresh new desire (and continuing vibrational harmony with your own new idea) you look back at the vehicle you currently own, pointing out the reasons that you desire the new car. "This old car no longer pleases me" you conclude, not realizing that in looking a at the unpleasing car, you are tuning your vibration back to it, and not forward to the new car you desire. "I really need a new car", you explain, pointing out the dents, the cracks, and the undependable performance of the old one.
With each statement of need and justification for a new car, you unwittingly reinforce the vibration of your current unpleasant situation, and in doing so, you continue to hold yourself out of vibrational alignment with your new desire, and out of the receiving mode of what you are asking for.
As Long as you are more aware of what you do not want regarding this situation, what you do want cannot come to you. In other words if you are predominantly thinking about your beautiful new car then it is steadily making its way to you, but if you are predominantly thinking about your undependable current car, your dependable new car cannot move toward you...
Once you understand that your thoughts equal your point of attraction and that the way you feel indicates your level of allowing or resisting, you now hold the key to creating anything that you desire.
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Okay, easier said than done, but interesting. The power of positive thinking and all that..}
Well about that comment , I think you had some good points, but some are just questionable and all round silly (no offence). She just needs to develope a more positive attitude and just be herself and just understand that there ARE people who would be willing to get to know her and that NOT ALL guys act like creeps.
None of this "law of attraction" rubbish. That don't work alot of times and those kinds of laws are often broken. lol | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 3/25/2006 9:33:48 PM | My favorite saying:
There are a billion men out there and a million looking for me...
Don't give up, you'll meet jerks along the way, you'll meet friends too.
But Mr. Right will find you. | |
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| I dont know what to do anymore
Posted: 3/25/2006 9:49:59 PM | Im A Good Man
Youre too far away for me - Otherwise I'd Hook up With Ya - I Feel the same way You do - I Dont get many hits at all and have been trying this internet thing for about a Year now - so I know how You feel & When I Hear about all the Jerks out here spoiling it for Sweet Guys like Me It Really Angers Me - Sometimes it makes me realise why I can't attract a woman on this site because all I hear about are all theese A-Holes on here
Sorry To Hear About all Your Bad experiences - I give up all the time - I get fed up too - But I keep picking myself up because giving up has left me alone for Years
If Ya Wanna Chat Sometime - I'm all 4 it .... Too bad I wasnt still down in Scarbourough - I Would show You there is still good men out here
This ones gettin lonely too | |
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