| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/10/2006 9:22:31 PM | Chemistry is an illusive quality, as difficult as it may be to define, it can be just as simple. Yet, to some of us, it can be a mystery. If one possesses the ability to listen to their physical instincts the answer is simple, but what if we are not that intelligent?
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/10/2006 9:28:40 PM | LACK of intelligence in chemistry to me is defined as:
a) there is none and you wait it out to see if it CAN exist
b) it exists and you don't do anything about it.
I wouldn't date someone if there wasn't chemistry. Why waste your time investing when you know (because we have gut instinct for a reason) that it wouldn't work out in the end. All aspects of a relationship need to be in place for it to succeed. If a piece of the foundation is missing, it's doomed for failure.
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/10/2006 9:51:42 PM | | Sexual chemistry if not there in the beginning can surface in time if your willing to wait it out provided you can connect spiritually and emotionally otherwise...i think you would continue to date unless the sex became too tidious or too wierd for your emotional well being | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/10/2006 10:49:50 PM | If the person was interesting , and I enjoyed their company , sure . So called sexual chemistry sometimes has a habit of sneaking up on you .you can like the person , enjoy their company , then want to know them better. This way sometimes lasts a lot longer .
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/10/2006 11:34:36 PM | | Sex IS chemistry. Its part of the whole pheremone, she gets wet, you get hard from scent thing. Sex isnt, by any means the most important thing in a relationship. However, a good sex life is crucial to any serious, long term relationship. Without the sparks, your riding on the rails, just waiting for the ride to eventually brake down | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/11/2006 7:55:32 AM | | As long as two people have an openness and a trust between them, then chemistry seems an afterthought. Even those with chemistry fall away from a relationship for lack of communication. If given the chance, I beleive a chemistry could be found through the couples' willingness to try new things and find a middle ground as to what they like. This theory that it's supposed to be uncomplicated is what gets most of us in trouble and wondering why we're alone. Of course, it's not supposed to be easy to connect to a new lover, especially when you've been hurt by the previous. If we work at it, in time, that love, lust, and all other things involved should come to be. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/11/2006 7:59:20 AM | I think not......Chemistry is the mystery of a perfect blended Secret of Passion!! It would be wise to keep it as Freindship and if it's meant to be things May change...But rearely do...
I myself had tested exactly Why chemistry is with some and not with others...Simple it's just about passion...If it's there or not....2 people's Passion are never the same!! | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/11/2006 8:29:50 AM | First off why do you have to live in Ontario? Ok now seriously.
Do I believe sexual chemistry can take time to develop in some cases as someone mentioned in another post here. Sure, but then if it isn't there to begin with the chances are slim it ever will be to any desirable degree.
You ask, " If one possesses the ability to listen to their physical instincts the answer is simple, but what if we are not that intelligent? "; and my answer to this is if you aren't that intelligent chances are your sex life and that of your partners isn't going to be very satisfying. After all for me chemistry is driving force when I make love to my lady. It drives me to do things to her, tease her, make sure she is ready to reach the edge with me and come back down before we take it over the top. It is that chemisty that drives into one anothers arms, hopefully every chance we get.
I also think sexual chemistry is an important part of our romantic nature as I know it is mine. It helps instill that passionate side of me that just wants to give her a kiss just because, or watch a movie while she leans against me with my arm around her. As well give that someone that special look lovers sometimes exchange if you know what I mean.
So in my mind if you aren't in touch with yourself sexually, and refuse to acknowledge or are unable recognize when there is sexual chemistry between yourself and someone else any real lasting relationship chances are not that good unless there is really something there to fill in the gaps of a truly satisfying sexual portion of a relationship, and I am not just talking about a sexual relationship here so you know as I know these do exist.
On another note I have had and do have sexual chemistry with many women, but it doesn't mean I or we should act on it. I think it is sexual chemistry that plays a part in two friends of the opposite sex who flirt with each other a lot to do so. Real sexual chemistry is a part of our instincts. A carry over from the cave man days in some ways. Men are more driven by it then women since men tend to be more driven sexually, again a carry over from the cavemen days. Oh don't get me wrong. I know plenty of women who are just as sexally driven as most men. LOL you ladies just hide it better.
Ok I am done with my rant! Have a good one all!
Be well,
John | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/12/2006 3:11:19 AM | | CHEMISTRY is UNSTABLE. Sometimes it's there with THE GUY. Sometimes it isn't. You all know this is true - we've been in relationships where, sometimes the guy is just awesome, and sometimes we're like "what the hell?” I think we need to use a different gauge to rely on, but ladies, I'm sorry...I don't know what that gauge is...Or I wouldn't still be single... | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/12/2006 7:09:54 AM | A little off topic but....
I've heard the point argued before that love is really only a chemical reaction that we feel in close contact to someone we find attractive for some reason...whether that is looks-related or because of intelligence, sense of humour...etc..
Regardless this chemical reaction that they call l"ove" is quite similar to a panic attack...you get hot, sweat, can't breathe...your heartrate increases, you may feel dizzy or emotional...
Personally I think that kind of reaction can be portrayed as love or lust...(there is a fine line)...but this was a clinical study so thought I'd put the info out there... | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/13/2006 10:09:39 PM | | sexual chemistry is very important! you want to be excited to see that person. it can take time to build, look at some couples, one of them are amazing looking! but to start off to get to know someone, usually people notice their physical appearance, and decide pretty quick if they are going to be together. it's difficult when you meet someone and are undecided, you become friends, in a sense, and one wants more. i think it's best to be honest, but in the same sense, to hurt someone, it's difficult. good luck! my 2 cents :) | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/14/2006 3:28:25 AM | | i must say for me the relationship cannot go on, it actually happened to me with my last girlfriend...no chemistry sexually at all and i almost could not believe it because she was quite attractive!...i stuck it out for a while(couple of extra months waiting to see if it would appear), but in the end i just couldn't do it anymore...i find it to be one of, if not, the most important thing in a relationship. | |
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| If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone?
Posted: 2/14/2006 7:06:41 AM | No! It will always bug you. My buddy married a girl he wasn't turn on by and he is miserable. He has not had good sex in years. Now, the balance point to this is this: are you being realistic? You are very attractive. I would spend days in bed with you :) But, you are 43 now. I'm almost 41. People age, and it ain't always a good thing 
I would not continue to date a gal who didn't get me hot. I just can't.... | |
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