| | Dating an amputeePage 1 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | | Have you ever dated an amputee? Would you if you had a chance? Someone that got a leg or arm amputated? What about amputation as a result from cancer like for woman having her breasts amputated or a man having his penis amputated? Are these people datable? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:31:47 AM | | what about someone confined to a wheelchair? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:32:37 AM | | Datable...sure. Would I date them?...I turned down a guy because he was missing HALF of one of his fingers. So, obviously I wouldn't date them. Everyone deserves love, I just can't give my love to everyone. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:34:00 AM | i have done that, and i must say that she was the the best. she never let the fact that she had only one leg stop her from anything. and i do mean anything | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:37:14 AM | | Yes I would if he had everything else going for him and turned my crank and tugged at my heartstrings. What's an outer apendage? On the up side, we'd get in first in line at Disneyland! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:39:25 AM | | Hey catch a star you are right thereis an up side to it. Look at all the benefits, always a close parking spot! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 11:40:46 AM | | I don't think it would matter. There are other, more important, things that I'm attrected to, and they're mostly in the brain. If that was fine, a missing limb or whatever would be minor. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 12:05:38 PM | | I'm VERY close with a woman who is a double amputee. Both legs at the knee. Doesn't bother me in the least. She's gorgeous, intelligent, talented, sexy, witty, and has a great sense of humor. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 12:18:44 PM | Excellent post Letscuddle......
I have never really thought about this type of a scenario, but it's a very good, thought-provoking question.....I remember in one of my junior college classes there was this girl who had half of her arm amputated for whatever reason(I believe it was from the elbow down). At first I never really noticed it, but then one day while she was walking past me I noticed her arm....She was a cute girl with a nice smile. I never talked to her or got the chance to meet her - due to my own shyness problem - but looking back on it now, I should have tried to strike up a conversation with her....And yes, I think I would have liked to have dated her and gotten to know her better....Her arm would not have bothered me at all......But I know some of my family would probably whisper behind my back about her if I were dating her...And that sucks! My dad's side of the family - my hispanic/Catholic side - are, for the most part, very good, nice people...BUT!!!! Alot of them just happen to be some of the most prejudiced and judgmental of people that I have ever met! LOL.....and I'm sure that if I dated a girl who was missing an arm, or a girl who happened to be African American or Asian or somebody "different than us" so to speak, it would cause ripples among them....And I'm not proud of that fact; I'm not that way, but my dad, my grandma, e.t..c are from the old school if you know what I mean...........
But I would date a girl like that with no problem....! Again, Great post you came up with..... | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 12:27:43 PM | People that suffer disabilities generally have bigger hearts to love and give. I think many that are in relationships with people with handicaps know, understabd and value that part the most.
In most cases, nothing is lost from the relationship, nothing is comprimised and in most cases the person is as independent, if not more, than a person without disabilities. If it were only a physical handicap like a 3rd nipple, 6th toe or missing appendage it shouldn't matter.
In the case where the person has special needs due to the disability that act on or impair the relationship from being "normal" you really have to think twice before accepting such immense responsibility. I care for 3 kids as it is now, they are my priority until they are adults. It just wouldn't leave room for more right now even if I was willing.
I do wish more people would open their hearts and minds to those people with disabilities. There is so much to learn and love 
Just my two cents,
Bana-dito | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 12:51:13 PM | | Once i met this girl while on spring break in Daytona. we were talking in the water for a short while, and out know where i relized she was missing a arm. nubbed at the elbow. She cought my double take, and told me not to worry..." it dosent hurt". We ended up hitting it off, and by the end of the night were were drunk as skunks in her hotel room. Next thing i know im pulling on her stub, while hitting it doggie style. I still talk to her once in a while. She lives in Ohio, with her husband. he is one lucky dude. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 1:29:56 PM | 'What about amputation as a result from cancer like for woman having her breasts amputated or a man having his penis amputated? Are these people datable?'
I know dating someone isn,t all about sex, but it plays a big role in getting real close to that person and I know you can still be intimate without penetration but there is a huge comparison between losing a breast and losing a penis!
I would date somebody with a disability or amputation but sorry sex is important to me and I don,t think I could survive a relationship that didn,t include FULL sex | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 1:59:43 PM | I did date a young woman in high school who lost a leg from the knee down and eventually used a prosthetic leg. She had lost in a car accident. The leg was pinned under a munched dash board to long and didn't survive. She was pretty and smart, great eyes. We had always got along wonderfully since Jr. High. I didn't feel sorry for her, I didn't treat her any differently and we had amazing sex since I never made her feel less then whole. Though we were not going out at the time, I wasn't planning on going to prom, was never into the whole school experience thing, she asked me to take her to it since no one asked her and I did willingly and had a great time. We even wound up dating again for about 5 months until she went off to college.
I also dated a woman who had a breast removed from cancer but we stopped having sex until she was healed and had an implant done to replace and it because she was self conscience about it, not me. I was aound 24 at the time and we were already dating when this happend and it didn't change how I felt about her in any way. We parted when I got stationed overseas for an extended period of time and she met someone else.
Since I look at the person as a whole this doesn't bother me as long as it wouldn't effect the over all relationship in whole or in part. So yes I would date someone again who was an amputee.
As one woman wrote here sex is important to her, it is for me as well. Moving away from amputation would I date someone paralyzed and confined to a wheel chair as someone else also mentioned here? Yes as long as she was able to still enjoy a healthy sexual relationship and was able to be satisfied sexually. By this I mean climax orgasm. Sounds strange I know, but if my lover doesn't climax it takes from my own sexual satisfaction and I feel somewhat selfish. Oh sure during a quicky or something I can see us both not getting to that point and I fine with that, but I like my lover to enjoy everything as much or more then I do as often as possible.
Ok enough said.
Be well,
John | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 2:13:00 PM |
People that suffer disabilities generally have bigger hearts to love and give. I think many that are in relationships with people with handicaps know, understabd and value that part the most.
In my limited experiences, I've found this to be true. When I was 17, I dated a friend of my brother's that had lost the lower half of a leg in a lawn mower as a child. At the time that I was dating him, his older brother, who had saved his life that day, was dying from cancer and it absolutely killed my friend that he couldn't do anything for him, that he couldn't save him in return. It was heartbreaking. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 3:14:06 PM | I can honestly say no, if I come to you whole,I expect you to come to me whole. I had a date recently with a fishie that was missing all his fingers on his right hand but his thumb. He never told me he was missing fingers. The dinner date was going great until he uncovered his hand which he kept hidden in his lap. Then he put it on the table. Where I watched every vein throb for the next half hour. Then he put his right hand on the back of the booth. I saw the people in the back booth move away from his hand and the people sitting accross from them stare and talk about it. It made me very uncomfortable. The date would have never worked out because he wanted to get a hotel for the next date. I said no way. I hardly know you. He was only after a piece of ass anyways. So I am glad it didn't work out.  | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 3:27:01 PM | ' I hardly know you. He was only after a piece of ass anyways. So I am glad it didn't work out.'
Regardless of imperfections if he had no respect for you as a lady he shouldn,t expect a second date let alone a hotel.
I think when we first notice a missing limb we stare out of curiosity but I find if you just ask rather than stare and s you,re more likely to get an expanation.
Do people stare and chat behind hands just cos we have big noses,boobs,hips etc....
Different strokes for different blokes! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 4:19:12 PM | | I havn't... but would i ?... definitly. there's this guy that i know, we mett a few times, and i know he's very fond of me, I'd date him in a heart beat if i could. But sadly he's all the way over in the Uk. having his leg amputaed at the knee didn't bother me, he loved to joke around about it all the time. Aside from his amazing humour, his accent drove me nuts and his personality is the greatest. If i fell in love with him, i'd marry him on the spot! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 4:48:19 PM |
I can honestly say no, if I come to you whole,I expect you to come to me whole.
oh. my. god.
what a narrow minded person you are! How incredibly ridiculous! Accidents happen, if YOU lost a breast to cancer, how would YOU feel if guys wouldn't date you because you weren't "whole"?!?!? Then would you only date men who were amputees?!? Cuz, afterall YOU would no longer be "whole".
I had a date recently with a fishie that was missing all his fingers on his right hand but his thumb. He never told me he was missing fingers.
MAYBE....just maybe, it was because he didn't think it mattered and you know what? It DOESN'T!! He probably assumed you were mature enough to handle it....boy, was HE wrong!
Where I watched every vein throb for the next half hour. Then he put his right hand on the back of the booth. I saw the people in the back booth move away from his hand and the people sitting accross from them stare and talk about it.
I am going out on a limb here, but I am guessing they were talking about how YOU were sitting there like an ass staring at this poor mans hand for half an hour like he was a freak of nature!
It made me very uncomfortable.
YOU make me very uncomfortable!! Did not think there were people out there like you anymore! You are probably one of those people who stare and stare at beautiful little babies with birth defects....
The date would have never worked out because he wanted to get a hotel for the next date.
Again, probably because all YOU did was make HIM feel uncomfortable by staring at his hand!
OT -- YES, I would date someone who was an amputee, no questions. Love is love. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:19:45 PM | lol @miltownpr
I would consider that foreplay not full sex | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:34:47 PM | | I hope you people that said no were trying to be funny. How shallow can people be? I especially don't get it when ugly people are shallow. You'd think they would be more understanding. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:42:06 PM |
How shallow can people be? I especially don't get it when ugly people are shallow. You'd think they would be more understanding.
 well said!  | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:42:12 PM | hmmmm people are entitled to opinions hun!
It,s all light hearted I think, no need to attack we,re all adults | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:44:00 PM | | I don,t think anyone here has a disability or amputation so we may be sympathetic but how do we understand what they are going through?? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 5:50:34 PM | | Everyone is datable. If my man lost any and/or all of his limbs I would love him just the same. I dated a guy briefly in a wheelchair once, he was loaded from the car accident so he DROVE a sweet car and his condo was set up to accommodate his ailment! He couldn't walk but everything else seemed to work! I think it's fine! Each to their own i guess! | |
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