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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 1/23/2005 7:11:00 PM | yup, my ex was in the navy and away for most of our 10 year relationship most of the time he was away for 7-8 months at a time.
The distance wasn't what killed our relationship. It was other stuff. You can ask me about it hun. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 1/23/2005 7:17:16 PM | | I haven't been in one that has worked, but I do believe that it's possible that a long-distance relationship could work. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 1/23/2005 7:41:58 PM |
if ya decide 2 move closer 2 each other after talkin awhile then things might work out.
i agree with willinspring on that one. italian you already know what i would do. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 1/23/2005 8:26:33 PM | I don't think it can work, I like actually seeing and holding my partner, not typing to her, i dated a woman from Toronto area and im near Niagara Falls, the drive was about 1.5 hours, i did this prob 3 times a week after work, in like 4 months i put 50K on my car, after about a year she move to this area wher ein total we shared 3.5 years but still ended up not lasting,,, i also had the same thing with another woman from Hamilton, she moved here as well, and that lasted 3 years,,, so i think its a personal thing if you wan to actually be together or just talk,,
I guess lets watch what happens with Cross And Holly,,, I hope it works for them
the thing with this long distance stuff is you do not get to know the real person, you talk laugh, joke, then the first thing you do is meet finally, have a great night , it starts off with long awaited sex,, then after a day or two of that, you start to see little habits and things that talk doesnt show those little anoying things that get under peoples skin,,,
Maybe its just me but i think to get to know a person truely know them you need to be around them and spend time together, not a once a month meeting for sex, or every two weeks, ,, so to all these people having there internet long distance love Good luck it will be needed im sure | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 1/23/2005 8:57:57 PM | | Very well said shattered. I was wondering the same thing. I too think a relationship has to be more then just typing. Although you can get to know someone very well by doing this but "yes' I do agree about being "together". Thank you for your post! | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 10/15/2005 2:50:59 PM | | i recently heard that 75% of all long distant relationships don't work. I feel more inclined to believe that the percentage should be higher. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 10/15/2005 2:55:46 PM | | If it is 'long distance', then it isnt a relationship at all. Its like friends who fuk each other every now again when they meet. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 10/15/2005 5:14:07 PM | it's very hard for a distant relationship to work out. It's because it's mad expensive and there's less of a chance to see each other.
A non-distant relationship is so much easier for both parties. | |
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bbanks
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Joined: 3/19/2005
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 10/15/2005 8:19:25 PM | I was with my ex for 4 years, moved to virginia for business, she flew up once, we had a great time, 2 months later we are not together. Simple .... It does not work.
I even asked her to move up with me, but she couldnt leave her mother and father.
I should have stayed, she is a great girl, but obviously fell out of love with me now so who gives a shit. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 10/15/2005 8:31:13 PM | | Screw the opinions that I have seen on here...it all depends on how much effort you want to put into the relationship. If you want it to work, it will....if you are looking for a quick fix,,,it will not. You decide! An toalk to the recipricant what they want out of the relationship. Geez..oh..man...we are all adults here......... | |
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maa_97
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Joined: 7/25/2005
Msg: 13 | |
| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 10/16/2005 2:43:40 AM | | I had a couple one lasted a few yrs but we did live together toward the end and i moved back home.. the second one was a yr but didn't last... I still talk and email with my first one,.. we are still friends but as personalities go we are different and can really just be friends...but if both sides are workin on it ..yeah I think so....but think i found someone closer to me and all now.. i'm hopein anyways.. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/25/2007 3:41:23 PM | They are hard to keep up with. I have had a girlfriend from Texas for 2 months. We met on a Britney Spears site when we were teens and more kids at the age of consent were allowed to start going out with adults but still no marriage at 16.
I am going back to looking for long distant relationships because I am hopeless for the state of New Jersey or within 50 miles of where I live. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/25/2007 4:43:48 PM | Simple answer, Yes. Mine is working right now. We live 360 miles from each other and get together about once a month. We talk on another IM most every night and email too. For us the distance is not a problem. I don't mind the drive and he doesn't either. I am moving at the end of this year to where he is though. Then in April of next year.... let's just put it this way, Everyone will hear those bells !!!!!!
Long distance works for some and not for others. I just thank my lucky stars I found him and he found me, distance or not !!!!!  | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 16 | |
| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/26/2007 7:52:02 AM | any long distance relationship can work very well only if both people want it to work.
i have had several that worked out great until they ran there coarse.
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/26/2007 4:01:31 PM | Yes, but its not very likely.
I was in one about 8 years ago. A girl I met in California, while I lived in Texas.
We emailed, and talked on the phone at least daily. I could only afford to fly out to visit her about every 75 days or so. She could not afford to visit me and she had a very young daughter to take care of. This went on for about 7 or 8 months, and then she just started dating guys locally. She said it was too hard when she needed someone and I wasn't there. I totally understand this.
I have known people who started with LDR's and have been happily married together for years.
I don't think I would even start another LDR. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/26/2007 4:55:36 PM | I think they can work if the end result is that the two choose a final location to reside together. You can either move to their town, they can move to your town or you both can start new and choose a new location. The key is having an open mind to uprooting your entire life and all of what that means. It is an eventuality as the relationship grows.
I know from experience that not talking about it early enough as well not having an open mind to all of the possibilities while discussing things could come back to bite you. Being blinded by the "new" relationship haze also does not help either. But be honest and make a commitment to talk about it and truly be open to all options to make it work and you should be successful.
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/26/2007 5:05:49 PM | | I've had two. One I only saw him twice a year. The other I see twice a month. Both worked out fine. You just need to be faithful and trusting, and your partner needs to be the same. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 11/27/2007 8:04:04 AM | Whether a long distance relationship can work depends on the person.
It didn't work for me.
I'm a guy who wants the woman in his life to also be a close friend too.
Which means that besides planned dates, I want her in my day to day life in a spontaneous way.
I had relationship with a woman who lived 75 miles away.
There could be no spontaneity, even at this distance.
After a time, it does begin wearing on you.
Everything had to be planned ahead.
Just to go out for a simple supper in the evening during the week was a planned ahead 150 mile round trip, not counting going into town and back to her house.
Then because of work the next day, you only got to spend a few hours together at most.
I didn't like it, and neither did she.
But YMMV.  | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 12/12/2007 2:10:36 PM | I just got out of a long distance relationship back in October. We met online in June, chatted and talked on the phone, and finally met in August. I live in Ohio. She lives in NY. I drove up to see her thrice (one of my favorite words). First of all, it was very expensive for me to go up there, even though I drove and stayed at her place the third time. Second of all, it is hard enough getting to know somebody, but it is even more difficult when you spend several days at a time with them, practically 24 hours a day. Third, I started to see signs in her behavior which I didn't like. Eventually, the stress of not being able to see each other took its toll on the both of us, so we ended it.
I guess in some cases, it may work, but somebody stated that most of them don't work and I agree. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 12/12/2007 3:20:12 PM | | I had a strong real-life relationship that went to a long-distance one. In that case, it did work because the long distance was temporary and because we had a strong real-life relationship first. If you have no real-life foundation, then no, a long-distance relationship will never ever work. I know because I've tried. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 12/12/2007 10:43:34 PM | Long distance relationships bring up a lot of issues different from a normal relationship. Wheather or not they can work depends on both of the people involved in them.
If you can handle the distance and that is not an issue for you, or you can both work past it then theres a good chance it can work. People do it all of the time when in the military or jobs that make you travel a lot. Personally i've never been in a long-distance relationship that's worked, but thats because i cant handle long-distance relationships. If either of you have doubts about it though, i would suggest taking a break and seeing other people for a time. If its meant to work out then you'll end up with one another again, if not then at least you tried. | |
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| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:02:44 PM | I guess they can....but so far I haven't found one that does...guess they can for some people,....but then anything can work if both people want it bad enuff...just my oponion..... | |
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tecnic
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Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 25 | |
| Can long distant relationships work?
Posted: 12/16/2007 1:22:33 PM | | it all depends i was in a long distant and it lasted for a year i lived in ireland the the girl lived in the ukraine and was one more problem the girl coulnt speak english that will allway be a problem but if you want the anwser long distant relationships dont work | |
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