| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:03:06 PM | | I can't tell you how many times I have had a great first date, the guy seemed to have a great time, and then I never hear from him again. He says he will call, but then two days later, I see him here checking out the profiles again. I am not talking sex here, just a nice evening. I don't come off as needy, because I am not! I am thinking that I may have found a nice guy for a relationship, then nothing...come on guys, what gives? | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:15:27 PM | | I have to agree with that wholeheartedly, but why lie? Why be charming, act happy, and then just act like you never met? I have also noticed a trend toward guys expecting me to chase, or pursue them...that will be a cold day in ... | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:20:39 PM | | Men are like that by nature. Most of the time they don't want to lead you on if they lack the same level of interest. Instinctively, men will always be curious about what might be waiting for them around the corner. They're wired to procreate, therefore they will always have the urge to keep searching for a better potential mate. My advice to you is to also keep looking and connecting with others. Who knows? Your next connection might even be stronger than the last one. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:22:09 PM | What I don't understand is why they don't even want to remain friends. It's like if you're not dating material to them, that's it, they're gone.
It would be cool to go to the movies or just hang out, you know, what friends do, but apparently not what they want. That's what I found anyway. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:28:33 PM | they dont ask for a second date..simply because they didnt feel a connection!!..
It happens to women too!
Just move on with things!!
and something extra to think about..... the only reason you see them looking in POF again..is because you are in there looking as well!!
PS ..paradise...How can someone remain your friend when they werent really a friend to begin with?? They were just someone you were chatting with on a date site. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:34:52 PM | | Actually I was on POF because I had a message...but maybe I also went on looking for HIM...would be more than happy to get off this and every other site for one sincere guy...a dying breed... | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:35:39 PM | It works both ways Judy .
I cannot begin to tell you how many good first and even second dates i've had only to not hear from them again , and not from p.o.f. eithor.
A guys perspective .
- Maybe the guy was looking for it, and when he discovered that you were a genuine Nice Girl ( what they actually exist ?) , he bolted rathor than face the music.
- Maybe he was an actual Player , figured that you would be to smart for him to play you , so he bolted.
- Maybe He was just looking for something that suited himself, and although as good as a catch you might be , you just didn't suit him .
- Maybe he's gay ( stupidity i know)
-Most men act like they know what they want , but in actuality they don't have a clue, perhaps he was a little scared , too intimidated or what ever .
_ Maybe he's a Gay controlling playing male nympho that cannot think straight ( ok i threw that 1 in )
I'm not trying to come up with excuses , i know persoally if i had a few good dates with someone that i'd potentially want to have a relationship with , i'd be man enough to tell her how i feel , and also tell her if i wasn't interested.
Just a guy's perspective.
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:41:31 PM | I guess its called being a coward and not letting someone know how you really feel.Sadly there r people like that in the world their one and only purpose in life is to look after ME NO.1 | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 4:49:28 PM | Undecided - still want to sample that menu
He's really not into you
He's shy
His phone bill didn't get paid
He has RAM (random access memory)
He's come down with a bad case of alzheimers
You actually got set up with his twin brother
He forgot your name and is embarassed
He got lost and has never been found | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 5:24:26 PM | | Well for me if I don't feel that "connection" on the first date, I more than likely won't pursue anymore. There are many times that I have had really fun on a date but I just didn't feel that closeness to her and I just wouldn't feel right asking her out again, because I don't want to lead her on. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 5:45:26 PM | Okay fine then eric0022.....if you're not interested then why not be decent &/or brave enough to let her know that you had a fun time BUT you don't feel that chemistry needed to continue.
All a girl wants is an honest guy not scared to let you know one way or the other. Seriously a guy/girl should NOT say they'll call if then don't intend to do so!!
Trust me Eric I agree that if you don't feel a connection then you won't pursue but don't you think you should atleast let the girl or guy know just simply out of being conciderate??
Geeze am I the only one who thinks that way!!?
P.S. Too bad more guys didn't have the interest &/or "balls" to say something about this very important & interesting topic. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 5:51:06 PM | | runner girl, I think that you have hit the perverbial nail on the head...guys like this (the majority in my online experiences) have no backbone whatsoever...how unattractive is that? They don't post because they know if they are guilty of it then they are nothing more than a coward...it is a matter of common courtesy...thanks to the guys that did voice their opinion... | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 5:55:36 PM | | If she had such a good time and she figured he had a good time, then why is she not asking for the second date... why is she waiting for him to call... It takes two to tango, and I am sorry, snooze you lose... | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 6:09:55 PM | | is that the way it works now all about laughs? The men expect the women to do the chasing? isn't that just laziness on his part? He said, and I quote " I had a great time, we will keep in touch this week, and get together next week." Now where is the missing piece to this puzzle? | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 6:15:12 PM | Who said anything about laziness... perhaps you are afraid to put yourself out there and ask for fear of rejection... perhaps he went on a date with someone else and decided they were more suitable to what he was looking for... time to get off this kick that the guy has to do all the asking, if you want, go get it...
And as for your original post, you never mentioned
He said, and I quote " I had a great time, we will keep in touch this week, and get together next week." | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 6:23:05 PM | My thought for the missing piece of this puzzle.
Maybe either man or lady doesn't have to come out and ask the other person out for a second date. Maybe all that is needed is the communication from either side that they would like to see the other person again.
Or is my thinking the reason why I don't get many second dates? | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 7:28:00 PM | I thought i went of the majority of reasons, but then again i have to agree with what the other guy said, about men wanting women to chase . Hell we live in a society where many things are exeptable , why not have a woman pursue a man that she wants .
Ok so i'm a little old fashioned , but just a little . If i was dating someone that had a lot of interest in me, yet i couldnt read the signals , i'd want her to make things a little more clearer. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 7:37:57 PM | @OP: Hard to say in your case, but if I had to make a judgement based on your
profile, I'd say that you don't like to share anything about yourself and may
give off the same sense to your date. Maybe he doesn't know what you're about
before meeting up with you and feels no connection with you. | |
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| What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 2/16/2006 7:38:14 PM | | from friends of mine, that i've only dated once, i found that the only reason they didnt ask me for a second one is because apparently i'd been sending signals i wasnt interested (most of them totally misread them). i think girls, that if ur interested, u should be asking if the guys want to get together again, and plan ahead. also, i know we all have phones, why not check in with the guys??? just because they're out checking out other profiles doesnt mean anything...it was a first date. until the relationship is exclusive, i say search. | |
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