| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/16/2006 5:45:03 PM | Guys, after you make an initial email contact and if they aren't interested in getting to know you, would you rather get an email telling you they're not interested or would your rather not get any email back at all?
Also, when you get a lot of emails from people and you feel really bad because most of the time you know you won't pursue it, what is the polite way of telling them you're not interested? Do you consider it rude when a woman deletes your email without reading?
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phos
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Joined: 11/27/2005
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Next1
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Joined: 2/7/2006
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/16/2006 6:32:35 PM | Stating up-front what I am looking for and having heard from her as to what she's looking for, is a good start. Then, if I don't meet her expectations (or desires) then yes, I'd rather know asap. Out of respect for her, I would dothe same.
As to how, something like this:
Even though you seem like a warm person and I want nothing but the best for you, I feel as though I need to persue another relationship at this time. Good luck with your search. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/16/2006 6:34:19 PM | I would rather hear back. If it the first email I sent you you will not hurt my feelings
Just say something like Thank you for your interest but I looked at your profile/read your email and am not interested. Any further emails will be deleted and then blocked.
Short simple direct, you don't have to explain any thing else and you can use it as a form over and over again. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/16/2006 7:07:27 PM | I don't get it, you are here to meet people, find someone you are compatiable with, attracted to... how can you do this if you are sending "sorry I am not interested emails" all the time... I sympathise with some of the girls out here that must literally get 50 or more emails a day, how are they to find what they are looking for when they are notifying others they are not interested...
No response = not interested, I love simple math... | |
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Joined: 5/18/2005
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/16/2006 7:24:33 PM | I personally don't always respond to all first contact because sometimes you get someting very generic like 'wanna chat?' hey holla at me...and think to myself "WhY"
Now I do think it would be nice if you have actually started some sort of correspondense with somebody and then all of a sudden NOTHING--that is when I would like to know what is up...we are all on here to meet people and if somebody meets somebody else more power to them we are only another emaill away from somebody else..... | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/17/2006 12:56:59 AM | Personally, I send a reply of some kind to all msgs. I receive, but that's the way I am. When I send one, It's usually in the form of a compliment about something in the profile, or a related statement,(Never a Hey baby, lol) It's nice to get a response, but if you see that your message has been read, and there's no response in a day or so, it's pretty obvious that they were not interested, so get over it and move on. This site is called "Plenty of Fish", not "A Fish in A Barrel", so rebait your hook and cast out your line again,
with a little patience and some bait worth tasting, you're bound to get a bite sooner or later. This is not rocket science! | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/17/2006 9:14:09 AM |
It's really sad to see this question even come up. Whatever happened to common courtesy?
Any authentic inquiry deserves a response. Period. Maybe not one that says "give me your credit card number and watch my webcam", but anything else.
I respond 100%. No ifs, ands or buts, although sometimes I do take a couple of days trying to figure out what I can say that's diplomatic and not hurtful. I receive about 2% response, often saying nothing more than "not interested". (which is better than nothing)
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Joined: 10/27/2005
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/17/2006 9:18:27 AM | I want a blunt, straightforward, honest REASON for the lack of interest. It's extra nice when a woman will lay the reason(s) out clearly, but without a mean spirit or a bitter attitude from past relationships.
The only way to grow in being the type of person who is desirable to the opposite sex is to know what you can improve on. If people reject or ignore you and won't tell you WHY they're not interested, (unless it's clear from their profile), I think it's VERY inconsiderate.
When they ignore you, say "sorry not interested" or something equally vague, you go away in turmoil, debating in your mind your top 15 possible areas that you might need to change. If they'll be kind enough to be honest, you can narrow it down to one. Otherwise, you might try to change yourself in a way that is exactly the wrong thing to do with relation most women.
BOTTOM LINE:
Do for others what you would like them to do for you! | |
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Cybury
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Joined: 12/13/2005
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/17/2006 9:59:22 AM | Email- for the love of all that is holy, send a bloody email. Dont be coward... simply say...
" I had a lovely time, but I don't think we would be a good match, I wish things were different but sadly you can't pick who you have chemistry with"
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"YOu are a nice girl, but I don't think you are the one for me. I hope that you find the right guy because you are a great girl. best of luck to you, and this is my loss"
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" I am going to be a priest. I thought I could change, but I cannot. My heart belongs to God.. or something along those lines.... "
Anything is better than nothing. Nothing makes us wonder. No girl likes to wonder. | |
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| a Poll: After an initial contact, would you rather get a rejection email or none at all?
Posted: 2/17/2006 10:00:26 AM | I want a blunt, straightforward, honest REASON for the lack of interest. It's extra nice when a woman will lay the reason(s) out clearly, but without a mean spirit or a bitter attitude from past relationships[/unquote] Sweetie, what if you emailed a gal and she wrote back that she didn't like people who lived in Colorado;would you move? I'm trying to make a point here...if everyone starts doing that, pretty soon the only ones that will dare use internet dating sites will be perfect people. Since THOSE don't actually exist, it would spell the demise of internet dating. See there what you've done now  Danceswithwolves1 has broken the Internet! LOL  Cindy O | |
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