| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 5:53:45 AM | I wanted to know how many people out there are over the age of thirty and never been married?
I seem to meet a lot of nice guys, that are either separated or divorced at the age of 30 , a little younger than thirty or even thirty something.
Just wanted to see if I wasnt the only one .
Funny thing is I feel a little out of place..
I do have a daughter but never been married. By the time I had my daughter I was 28 and to be honest didnt think I could of children.
So while I am just getting started in raising my daughter, the others seem to be in their prim and ready just to have some relaxing fun.
Tell me what you have noticed.
Thanks Daisy | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 7:51:39 AM | I'm over thirty and have never been married. I guess it's just the way our culture is these days. A lot of people spend so much time with schooling or looking for the right job or living the single life. Next thing they know, they're in their late twenties and they're not married.
People these days seem to grow up by themselves, meaning that they're complete independent individuals if and when they get married. Generations ago, people would get married while they were still growing up, meaning that they would become more of a couple and less independent.
This is just my standpoint and how I see it, mind you. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 11:17:42 AM | | I never got married. The first time, the bus broke down on the way to the church. The second time, I stopped to help rescue children from a burning house. The third time, it turned out the woman was secretly in love with the minister who was to perform the service, which she sobbingly confessed only moments before we were to be wed. The fourth time my friends talked me out of it so I would be free that weekend to help them move a piano. By the fifth time everyone knew it wasn't going to happen given my track record. So far I have remained unmarried, despite my best efforts. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 12:11:12 PM | I'm 39 and never been married
I just never found the right one yet | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 12:34:15 PM | | 39 and not found the woman to have kids with . had a girlfreind ( if you can call it that ) for 4 years . My wallet thanks me and so do the credit cards . SHE wanted MORE money then I could make . | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 12:38:28 PM | In these days its not abnormal to never be married and have kids. There are all types of situations now, unlike it was back in the 50's when people were more about socially controlled roles.
In a great many ways this way is better, especcially for women.... we have more choices and not forced to stay with men who were just awful.
Your doing great if your raising your daughter by yourself.
I have noticed that there are guys over 50 and even 60 now wanting to have babies or they have them. Now that would be a little funny if your out meeting people and meet a guy in his 50's with a baby ! yikes..... it seems rather unnatural to me
I don't know, these days anything goes, you just have to find someone who shares your ideals and goals in life | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 4:19:17 PM | | I get exactly what you are saying daisy. I have never married or had children so it makes me feel even more out of place sometimes. I would love to go to a family or social gettogether where just once, I wasn't asked when I am going to settle down. The answer is the same for me as it was with them..when I find the right person to do it with! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 4:50:29 PM | I have never been married, but have been asked by a few old girlfriends to do just that.
My reasons (in my opinion) were good at that point in time when they asked:
1. I wasn't mature enough mentally (I was out partying every night).
2. I wasn't financially stable (In my opinion).
3. I wasn't ready to have a family (I had a daughter later on anyway).
4. I didn't think we would be able to stay together "Until Death Do You Part".
Maybe I'm an idiot for thinking this but I have seen many, many people around me get divorced. I just want to be sure before I make that type of commitment. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 4:57:55 PM | | I'll be 42 on Monday, and I've never been married or had kids. A couple of long term relationships, and one I was thinking of marrying, but never took the plunge. Also, I've been so busy over the years with career and building my company. I am actually not that unusual either. I have noticed though that most of the holdouts like myself are married by 50. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 5:01:26 PM | I was married twice. You are welcome to have either one of them. 
Seriously, I wouldn't get hung up on it. Marriage is just a legal form of the committment that is in your heart. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 6:24:28 PM | | Spoken like a true woman that's been married twice already. Some of us aren't that cynical yet. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 6:29:07 PM | | I am trying to avoid the feeling of being a failure. *sigh* | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 6:53:20 PM | | I'm over thirty and never been married. Was close but things didn't work out. I guess I just haven't found the right one yet. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly thats for sure and I want to be with someone for a while before I even think of marriage. Have a good day all... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 9:08:19 PM | 33, two kids, different dads, yep I'm one of them... go ahead attack.
Never married. Don't think I ever want to be. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/18/2006 9:42:55 PM | I'm 30, never been married, engaged a couple of times. I left a guy 3 days before the wedding. I don't have any kids.
my motto:
Live with them, until your sick of them!! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 12:38:34 AM | I have never been married since I never stettle on anything in my life. Maybe if I find the right one...
-D | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:18:00 AM | This is for all you girls 30 years and over... and for those who are
turning 30, and for those who are scared of moving into their 30's...AND
for guys who are scared of girls over 30! This was written by Andy
Rooney from CBS 60 Minutes. Andy Rooney says:
As I grow in age, I value women who are over 30 most of all. Here are
just a few reasons why:
A woman over 30 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask,
"What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think. If a woman
over 30 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining
about
it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something
more
interesting.
A woman over 30 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is,
what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 30
give a hoot what you might think about her or what she's doing.
Women over 30 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with
you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of
course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they
think they can get away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what
it's like to be unappreciated.
A woman over 30 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women
friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best
friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women. Women over
30 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she
knows her friends won't betray her.
Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a
woman over 30. They always know.
A woman over 30 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not
true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over
30 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are
forthright and
honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk or if you are
acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with
her.
Yes, we praise women over 30 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately,
it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman
of 30+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of
himself with some 22-year-old waitress.
Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when
you can get the milk for free". Here's an up date for you. Nowadays
80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not
worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:34:33 AM | | almost 42 here and never married, only 1 girlfriend when I was 12 and no relationship of any sort since then. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:38:23 AM | 23 years old i do not know
rather you say i'm getting
closer, to age of 30.
Still not married never have
been married and look's like
i'll, have a kid before i'm married.
Why are alot of people not "in" to
the married deal anymore it seem's
like, alot of people just gaven up
on the whole "marriage deal". | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:59:41 AM | Broken soul,
Trust is the main reason. We live in a world where it has been acceptable to lie for so long that we as people, can no longer believe what others say to us, in order to make a reliable decision on whether or not we can live with someone. ON top of that, if we do get married and it doesn't work out because of someone not representing themself accurately, when we get a divorce, the only one that comes out with something left to show for, is the liar and the lawyers. The honest person gets taken advantage of by the well practiced lawyers and liars. So, therefore it is becoming safer and less costly to stay single or not remarry.
---Robert | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 3:07:20 AM | Hello stranger
I guess i'm odd/werid because i do wan't to settle down and get married altho i know marriage should have came before this little one, inside of did but i'm happy and i know
i will try my BEST make my little one happy and make sure him/her has what they need.
I don't think it's right that people get married and find out they can't live with one another after "tieing" the knot and wan't to take it to court, and sue for "rights" or get money out of the other one.
So many people do not realize what they have right now and how good they have it and
once it is gone there is NO way of, getting it back or even fixing thing's.
I wan't to share something with you "RoberT"
You Was My Angel
When you was alive it was so hard to get the word's to come out, i wanted so bad to tell you how i really felt.
Everytime i tryed to put the thought's into word's and tell you, it was like i frozed or i stuttered whenever i tryed to tell you.
I just gave up on trying but now when i think back on the time's that i have tryed to tell you and it felt, and seem's not that hard.
Now you'r gone forever and i will never get a second chance, to say or do those thing's.
When you was alive you made my life whole, you made me feel like i had something to live for.
You made me happy you made me smile from the inside out, before you came along i was lost.
Without a trace you showed up and you picked me back up on track, i would give up everything just to have that day back again.
The sadest thing is i knew and felt like you was "the one" for me, and i screwed up.
I'm sorry that i have let you down, i would have gave anything to be the one that died.
When you died a huge part of me died right along with you, but i know i can not be with you not right now.
That day will come when we will see eachother again, I'm sorry that i let you down. I'm sorry that i can not be up there with you, i miss the time's we shared i miss how you made me laugh and smile.
You made me feel like i had something worth living for, and i did that "something" was you.
I know i need to get over you'r death, and move on but how can i.
When my whole world just came tumbleing down on me, and the only one that can put it all back togeather is you.
You'r not here even when i need you the most, you was like an angel sent from above to watch over me and help me get through my problem's.
I thank god each day for what he has did and sent me, you was my angel and i should have treated you better than i did.
I'm so sorry that i let you down, i just pray that you forgive me.
I will never forget you i love you, and i knew just how lucky i was to have found someone like you.
Just remember something there will never be another you, someone like you only comes into my life one time.
Please forgive me and always remember that i love you, and always will!
Rest In Peace Jeremy Hazlinsky.
I know he's in a much better and happier place, than haveing go through
all the pain he went through and the rough time's that came his way. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 4:52:12 AM | | I'm 38 and have never been married. And I must add...I am happy about my choices in life. As I look back, if I ever married any of the men I have had relationships with, I don't believe they would have lasted, or if they did last, I don't think I would have been a happy person. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 4:57:10 AM | I can agree with you "dog mommy" because i almost got married to my ex
boyfriend and i look back on that now and thank god it never happend.
I know i could not spend the rest of my life with somebody like him who
wasn't, happy and let an older woman in her late/late 40's "rule" his life.
He was sleeping around when me and him was dateing and liveing togeather
and he never had the "balls" to, tell me or at least "talk" about our problem's.
Not all men are like him and i know there are alot of men who are
not like my ex and that acturly, care about another's feeling's and
i'm glad there is men who acturly want's same thing's in a realationship
as the woman does. | |
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