oddsr
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Joined: 2/13/2006
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/19/2006 1:20:06 PM | I am left shaking my head after thinking that I might have found someone that really wanted to create a living breathing relationship. Its like my entire life was teleported back to highschool, pimples and Clearisil, not withstanding. Can I expect that there are some who have reached their 40's who are clear and concise with their wants, needs and desires?
Ladies...I love you all...but please don't send us one message and when respond as we believe you are indicating, shoot us down as the sex-crazed dogs that you know us to be...
I submit some excerpts from emails to illustrate. The first was sent by the party in question after we had dated for several weeks:
"Hey....been thinking of you lots and some of these thoughts have brought me to a naughty place ...but do I dare reveal that naughty side of me yet or let you discover it all on your own. I do have fantasies...some have been fulfilled and some have not and those which have not been I'm hoping we can enjoy together and not be inhibited by anyone or anything....just be totally free with each other.I love to have fun in the bedroom...explore...be passionate and I hope you do too!!! What I'm saying is that I'm not shy at all...I'm very respectful and I hope these things I'm telling you will not scare you away ...looking forward to seeing you very soon."
So whats a guy to think? Apparently not what I did...
The next is part of the final email after I said that I thought she didn't know what she wanted:
"Certain people take longer to find out how they feel and what is best for them and I am one of those people. It's sad that you don't have the patience and the maturity to find this out because I think you are a wonderful person and I feel we are compatible in many ways. It's too bad that 'sex' has to be the deal breaker because I do want to be with you and I do feel comfortable with you. The many relationships I've had in the past always started out sexually and I was hoping you were the guy that was different and didn't judge me that way but obviously I was wrong. Thanks for the laughs and I wish you all the best."
The last, is part of my response:
"If you wanted a different outcome to our relationship then
all you had to do was communicate what it was. No -----, I
am not immature and sex WAS NOT the deal breaker. Mixed
messages, however, are never the way to build an open
relationship. I acted the way that YOU indicated YOU
wanted, only to be pushed away. I too thought there was a
good basis for a great relationship."
So go ahead everyone...criticize, advise just don't throw bottles...
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marol
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Joined: 10/28/2005
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/19/2006 1:28:25 PM | | geeeze man, don't be putting out publically what someone has written privately to u, thats a game in itself and disrespectful, your old enough to know better | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/19/2006 1:45:14 PM | Hmmm at what age?
Well lets see. I'm 30 so, based on logical deduction I'll have to say 31 is the age we stop playing games.
J/K. Frankly I think age is a small factor to the game playing mentality. Just because one hits , let's say 42, doesn't mean they are mature enough to handle a relationship. | |
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oddsr
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Joined: 2/13/2006
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oddsr
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/20/2006 10:53:12 AM | | She sends you an email telling you that she has been having some "thoughts" about you and you write to her that it sounds as if she doesn't know what she wants? Sorry but I think from her email she knows quite well what she wants. Tell me, who is playing games here? This is so confusing . . . was there more to the email she sent you or what gave you the idea that she doesn't know what she wants? | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/20/2006 3:51:13 PM | | Playing head games is not an 'age' thing, so the question is impossible to answer. Certain character types like playing head games, and it doesn't matter what age they are. I've seen that type play games whether 15 or 45 years old. One of my ex's used to play games when I met her at 19; she's now 34 and still plays games (but a lot more subtle and sophisticated at it). | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/20/2006 8:11:13 PM | | Ryft, I agree with you. Some people will always mess with other's heads and hearts by playing games.It is a part of who they are. The main thing to remember is .. nobody can play us if we don't allow it. | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/20/2006 8:42:09 PM | | Well it seems to me you both had attraction and chemistry, but you are both a little afraid of taking it further and your communication is not helping because neither of you are really listening. Relationships dont just happen, they take effort, going the extra mile, learning from mistakes, stepping up to the plate and putting everything else aside. You both obviously are bi-passing the fact that you communicated very well to each other exactly what you both feel about each other and that is a "potential relationship". She may be a little unsure of your words, she has expressed clearly her past relationships were not what she wanted them to be and clearly doesnt want this one to be the same. She needs you to help build her confidence in you, thats if you really like her. Its not about games, its about people, two people, thats where the focus needs to be..Just my take, you asked, good luck :) | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/23/2006 1:40:08 PM | People in the west are very indirect in the method of communication and hence they tend to use gestures and body language more to suggest what they really mean instead of actual direct words. This was very confusing to me, (coming from the east).
However, I have found by observation that the older a single person becomes, the less likely they are to use mind games to control others and instead they just want to settle down because we all know the clock is ticking.
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 2/24/2006 5:31:01 AM | From our ancestral days in the bushes of East Africa to present day, the ongoing saga of the battle of the sexes continues on who can get the most of what they want with the least return.
I believe why modern human beings has progressed with 6+ billion people so far is due to one thing.
It is called "compromise".
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 3/28/2006 4:37:56 PM | They never stop playing games.
I thought that in my 30's (now) that men (I say men cuz I date men) would be tired of the whole game thing..nope, wrong on that one...it frustrates the hell out of me because I think, or at least have thought that we are too old for this, just say it like it is, dont' play, dont' lie...but sigh oh sigh...I'm just wrong wrong wrong
Not pointing fingers only at men, I know women do this too and I'm not saying that all men play games, just sadly, the ones I meet. | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 3/28/2006 4:59:44 PM | | I agree, I don't think people stop playing games simply because of their age. I know people in their sixties who don't show an ounce of maturity when it comes to personal matters. | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 3/28/2006 5:15:01 PM | | We must all be related... mine still plays games with me. Thinking back.. my mother used to actually make me break down and cry because of her headgames. Oh well... I won't type the word I just muttered to myself. | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 3/28/2006 6:01:45 PM | | It is all about the chase. I rather not bother with this type of emotion minipulation, I rather not get my feelings sh**ed on then, I don't let people toy with me. I don't toy back, not worth it. Life is way too short. | |
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| At what age do people get over playing games?
Posted: 3/28/2006 6:04:38 PM | | I have never played games with people. I think your just that kind of person are your not. That simple. Some learn in life, and some well don't because they don't feel a need to. So no set age, Sorry. | |
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