| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:30:44 PM | Dont get me wrong, i am totally willing to share my porn, burn it for someone, send it to someone.
but when i watch it, i am always by myself.
my new guy wants to see the types of stuff i like to watch, lol, i cant do it. i would find it too embarrassing. i get embarrassed even trying to describe the different kinds i have.
i have seen one of his vids, and OMG, it was so lame and boring, lol. i think mine would really surprise him, lol.
how do i go from using porn as a private personal thing, to enjoying them with a partner?
And guys, would there be any kind of porn that would bother you to know your woman owns (besides animals and kids, i dont own any of those)? lol, and no its not my homemade porn, thanks okie. | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:33:33 PM | I know my latest girlfriend had an issue of admitting her enjoyment of porn to others,,,
But now I can't stop her online antics...LOL
I would think, depending on your new relationship,,,it will be easy to share, If you trust him to be non judgemental and accepting as you as a person, then sharing should be no problem. :-) | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:34:27 PM | whatsmynameagain, i have midget porn. Its quite funny, in the one scene, this man is obviously travelling for work, and he puts a big suitcase on the bed, unzips it, and out comes this.."little person".
Too funny.
Becky, before you show your new guy the porn, tell him what is involved first, so he doesnt get shocked.
What are we talking about her? Heavy bondage or somthing? 
are you afraid of scaring the poor guy? hehe :)
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Posted: 2/21/2006 12:34:39 PM | Hmm interesting question....and I always thought it would be better to share it with someone...actually I know that we are all very visual people although in the area of relationships I think it is best to leave the porn out and be pleasantly suprised with your mate or special individual.
I guess you should feel happy that he wants to share it with you...it seems that you both can communicate, don't ever be afraid of who you are and your likes and dislikes...I'm sure he'll enjoy your choice as much as he enjoys you....
Have a great day.
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:46:36 PM |
What are we talking about her? Heavy bondage or somthing?
lol, well sorta, some i have are like that. i cant tell him, but sure i will tell you guys, lol.
for example the last one i got that i really like. starts out as a sleep fantasy thing, than it turns into bondage, than rape. bout 40 mins long, if anybody has seen it, dont tell me how it ends, lol, i have never made it through the whole thing.
would that one be tooo much?? | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:47:19 PM | Start with a drink or two and ease him into it.......
AS long as its not way way way....out there....Im sure he'll be game | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:48:56 PM | I think it would depend on where she was sitting....  If she was sitting in the right position I think it would be rather fun  | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:49:19 PM |
I've always wanted to see midget porn Midgets have porn...wow...ROCK ON LITTLE PEOPLE  | |
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Joined: 2/21/2006
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 12:54:41 PM | | Only you know your man, and your relationship...so only you know if its to much. Me on the other hand, would say bring it on,,so I have a better idea of where your sexuality lies, then we could push your limits in real life.... ;-) | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 1:02:46 PM | I see that your embarassed to personally share your sexual interests when the person is there with you. Perhaps you fear rejection over the things that interest you or you have fantasies about.
Thats not all that uncommon Becky, its very hard for us to expose ourselves, our deepest or darkest secrets to the judgemental eyes of the people we care about. Its all about trust at that point.
Just the fact you have something to share is great. Work on that trust level and before you know it you will both be enjoying those odd porn tid bits sooner than yoiu think!
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 1:10:09 PM | Could it be, that you are concerned he will think, that the type of sex you like to look at may be the type you want to have ? And you don't want to at all.
We do need to understand that there is a difference between our fantazies and what we want for ourselves in reality.
I look at car wrecks just like every one else, but I don't want to be in one.
It's your private collection and your fantazies, you don't have to share if you don't want.
But it would be more intimate if you did. | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 1:41:32 PM | thanks for all your posts guys, definitely making me think about it.
what about if i burn a cd of some of my favs and give it to him to watch when im not around?
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 1:53:37 PM | My biggest problem is that rather than get computer porn I prefer magazines. Those things tend to build up dammit and I don't want to just put them in the recycling box in case the garbage men see it. Its sad really I know.
OT Becky just let him watch your stuff when you aren't around, if he never mentions it again but stays around then it freaked hm out a little. If he goes away and never cmes back it freaked him out a lot. If he seems very excitied then I think you will be able to get over your concerns and sit there and watch it with him. If the last one happens make sure you have cleared about a days worth of time because then i think the sex will be explosive! | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 2:07:27 PM | | Hmmmm, you guys are making me remember how long it's been since I've seen some good porn! Anyways, back to the question: If you don't want to share it with your boyfriend, than don't! It's okay about being shy about it. I am still like that. Until I get to really know a guy, I don't share my porn. | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 2:18:48 PM | It sounds like one of your secret fav's is rape fantasy/bondage? You should ask him what he doesn't like. That will tell you what you can introduce to him. If his porn was lame in your opinion, then he might be open for further exploration into areas he hasn't went which would be a good thing for you.
About your shyness, if you want to controol it instead of letting it controll you try these steps.
Shower with lover. Bath with lover. Do it in a room where you can walk around naked to get something like a glasss of wine or water or something and remain nude.
Next offer to masturbate your lover. Tell them to tell you what they like. If they don't masturbate, teach them by you doing it. Ask them to masturbate you. And even if they don't do well, by now you will have pretty much grinded down the shy thing so you can put a porn in and watch it together. Watch the porn while you start foreplay and continue into intercourse. Soon you'll be able to ask them to masturbate with you (if they like masturbating) while watching a video. | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 2:20:47 PM | | My porn is something i enjoy personally as well. I don't mind watching it with my partner but i can't enjoy it as much. | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 5:35:45 PM |
starts out as a sleep fantasy thing, than it turns into bondage, than rape.
I've never been into porn, so maybe I'm not the best person to address this, but even the suggestion of that type of pornographic material seems offensive to me. Staged rape? I couldn't imagine any rational, mentally sound person - male or female - enjoying this.
Back to the OT: Just be upfront and honest with him. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't like it. He has that right, just as you have the right to find it sensual or sexually stimulating. | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 6:49:31 PM | ^^^right a guy not into porn
What kind of warped metrosexual BS are you trying to passoff here. Even the Pope was known to take a peek once in a while
However, porn comes in many flavours. The vanilla stuff is...well...just to vanilla for me. I like the off main stream kinkier stuff Becky is eluding too
A guy thats not into porn....too funny | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 6:53:32 PM | | Um...bandito..my ex husband was NOT into porn...however I was...try that one on for size...he was highly offended by it..and didn't like to watch even r rated movies...of course I didn't realize this before we got married. Some guys don't like it...others do...no big thing. :) | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 7:23:18 PM | ^^^^yikes! well no sh*t sherlock, thats the first time I heard of it.
okay my apologies to any male posters out there who dislike porn. Like its less than 5% of the male population.
Sorry to hear smile with your eyes you got stuck with one who didn't, my ex didn't either although she didn't reject it when we were not married either
I think she started taking offense to it when I joined the Kay Parker fan club | |
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| Shy About Sharing My Porn
Posted: 2/21/2006 7:32:34 PM | | Ok Becky, the first thing you need to do, is send me some of your porn. I am a licensed pornologist and would have to study said porn first to determine the degree of offensiveness. After careful and extensive viewing I should be able to make a determination on if said guy would be offended and to what degree. I can then post my findings here or deliver them to you in person, which might be better. We could view the porn in question together and I could point out which parts may or may not be deemed offensive to the whole of the male of the species. This is a very important study I am doing here and you should be happy to be a part of it. | |
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