| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:26:11 PM | I don't think there's any way I can ask this without sounding ridiculous, so all I ask is that at some point, when I venture onto the current affairs or politics boards, this post be forgiven.
Alright, so after some time browsing around and viewing profiles, there's something I'm curious about. Now, unfortunately, we can't all be hot or have a great ass. It sucks, but thems the breaks. I've noticed a surprisingly large number of people have these as attributes they're looking for. Now, I know there's no such thing as a relationship with no attraction, but my question would be: to what point would you compromise? What, if anything, would cause you to overlook certain attributes that you're looking for? I'm curious.
Cheers,
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:36:55 PM | | hopefully you won't ever compromise...you won't be happy if you do. Been there done that and would rather be single than to do it again... | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:41:32 PM | | Definately don't compromise, but what I am looking for does not have to come in a perfect package | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:44:47 PM | | I won't compromise......I know what I want and will continue to look until I find him.....I was unhappy for many many years and won't be unhappy again..... | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:45:33 PM | depends on what issue you're compromising on. I'm very accepting, but there are definite no-can-doooz.  | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:57:48 PM | As far as personality, sense of humour, ability to communicate, goals and aspirations, I will NOT compromise.
As far as physical attributes go, I have never really been someone who has a "type" of guy that I like. I've tried 'em all!! (that didn't sound good, did it) 
So, short, tall, skinny, fat, who cares, if there is that spark, that initial attraction and our personalities are a match thats what is most important. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 6:26:38 PM | | I won't compromise on my feelings, standards or ethics... and I don't think anyone else should either. That being said, if you have silly standards then it's gonna be difficult to find happiness. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 2/24/2006 7:48:08 PM | | I have my no-compromise issues, my compromisable items, and my wishful items. Anything not on my no-compromise list is open to negotiation. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 11:39:30 AM | I have a question regarding compromise....
I am a big fan of rock. I am a guitarist, bass player and drummer and just cant see myself loving any other type of music than classic rock ( I love other types of music but rock is my favorite...)
I do not like dance music, even though I dance a little. There is this beautiful girl that goes to these dance clubs and I really like her, but I think that if I want to go out with her, she will make me compromise on my music, and that is the area where i just cant compromise....
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 1:40:40 PM | Juan, I think that there is give and take in everything. As long as she does not ask you to completely give up the kind of music you like, and you are willing to tolerate her's. Then go for it!
You know you could have an agreement that you will do one dance club a month if she does one rock concert. Even if she doesn't enjoy your music, I think that one night a month is not asking too much.
However you need to find something that works for you. I myself am a country fan, but I listen to just about everything because all my friends like anything BUT country!! LOL. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:05:48 PM | | I would be willing to go out with someone much better looking than I would normally, if there was a lot of money involved. But othewise, I hold fast to my standard. Me, here alone in my house, holding onto my standard, all alone. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:10:55 PM | I won't compromise much on the weight issue(general looks) and intelligence. Those two have to be at least average(intelligence more so) since I think I'm at least average :)
The idea is don't ask for something you can't offer.
Of course the third should be given, which is loyal and honest person. People who lack that, I'm not even friends with.
I'll compromise on financial level, educational level, past & previous relationships, etc.
-Solak | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:43:58 PM | | ~yup me too zgirl...totally been there done that...not compromising AGAIN...~ | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 3:58:12 PM | Dizziej,
Well she says that she likes some Aerosmith and Bon Jovi songs, but she likes to dance Salsa and i just cant stand it.
I just dont think I can compromise on the Salsa bit... | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 3:59:37 PM | Dizziej,
Gee whiz, You look a little bit like her OMG!!! this is sooooo weird.....'cause you are the only one who responded to my thing
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 3/30/2006 4:38:06 PM | If I like a guy and I find out he has a low sex drive, I wouldn't compromise. I had that guy before who was like that and I wasn't a happy camper, let me tell ya!  It felt like I was dating a roomie. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2006 9:12:40 AM | I just dont think I can compromise on the Salsa bit...
Well Juan, I can't be her, I don't salsa, yet!! But if you don't think you can do something she likes, then it's not really fair for you to ask her to do something you like. I fully and firmly believe that there has to be compromise in a relationship. If there isn't then you wind up in a situation like my bro and that's just sad!! (his gf is controlling and B*tchy most of the time and, well, he's so whipped he cut his all expense paid European vacation short because she was mad). Eventually you will resent the other person. I say remain friends and continue looking for your "perfect fish" who will enjoy the same things as you.
Then again, I'm still single and looking too, so who am I to give advice!! LOL, Good Luck! | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/3/2006 10:38:49 AM | | i dont think a person should ever have to comprimise. either it works or it doesnt. if you put 100% into and it doenst work, at least you know. if you have to comprimise, then you werent putting in 100% anyway(or they werent) and it was destined to fail. be yourself..sometimes easier said than done i know, but...... | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/3/2006 4:53:31 PM | It depends on the issue at hand.
NO Compromise: Divorced guy with kids--cannot deal with the complications. Conservative Republican--just way too many arguments waiting to happen. Overweight--just not attractive, at least to me. It's not fair to me or to him to "compromise" on these deal-breakers.
PLENTY of room for compromise: A different faith--we can enjoy the various holidays of a different faith together. Different interests--I might even learn a thing or two  tastes in foods--we don't have to order the same thing in a restaurant, and I can have leftovers or a snack if he REALLY wants to have liver and onions, something I don't like. Types of restaurants, why not swap off and take turns making the choice? What car to drive--weigh this out with the pros and cons.
Some things are just not that big a deal, and the my way or no way mentality is VERY bad for relationships. If you know the areas in which you don't want to compromise, then use those as deal breakers. But come on, let's not sweat the small stuff like what to eat or what movie to see, etc.
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/3/2006 9:18:53 PM | | I would compromise on a little extra weight. I'd be an ass and a hypocrite if I wanted or demanded a perfectly built woman. I'm not overweight, but I also don't have the perfect abs. Plus by choice I'm kind of pasty white. She wouldn't have to be completely hot as long as I fell for her personality and brains. But if she was just smokin', and her attitude was high maintenance, poor attitude, it'd get old really quick. I think I'd like a healthy body, keep cigs and booze down to a very dull roar. Eat healthy-smart, be easy or attractive in my eyes. Brown eyes are plus. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/3/2006 10:35:11 PM | | Physical attraction is fine but you could be with someone with the hotest possible body but a total ****/***hole? Would that be worth it? I think not. The person inside is more important and once you fall in love, you WILL find that person attractive even if others dont and you know what - if others dont find the person you are with attractive then thats too bad because you do and thats all that matters. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/3/2006 11:56:59 PM | | i would like to meet someone sexy and sweet. if she comes along and also happens to be very rich or owns her own brewry... -well i guess i could accept that. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 1:36:29 AM | juanchito26, how do you not like Salsa? Forget the music, watch the movements.
As for compromising, the only thing I don't compromise is chemistry. But don't tell anyone, in case some supermodel is checking my profile. In which case I am bad to the bone baby, rebel all the way. | |
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