| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 7:58:59 PM | We all know that attractive women can scare off guys. You know, the whole rejection thing and all.
But are women like that with men they think are really cute? Do they think, "OMG, I can't talk to him. He'd never want me"? | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:08:00 PM | | In a word.. " YES!!!" But I once bought the best looking guy in the bar a drink and told him it was " for looking so damn good" then I just walked away. lol.. I think I made his day.. he was all smiles. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:17:15 PM | | Isn't it all so confusing. I am terribly shy out of my work element. If I come into contact with an attactive man, I freeze, become very closed in and can't show who I am - it is horrible. What is so bad is that no one wants to be with someone they consider ugly but we all feel that we may not be acceptable to a person we feel is truly attractive. It must be the movies, lol.... setting us up with to think only people like Angelena and Brad can be together. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:17:57 PM | Hmm going out on a limb with this one. Don't know if I want it in my profile..lol.
Nonetheless, the answer is... YES.
Very physically goodlooking/cute men have the power of physical attraction.
However, what is TRULY devastatingly attractive in a man, is when he is not (even too consciously) aware of his own attractiveness. That kind of humility does my head in. Am slayed by it.
Another thing I've found. Really cute men don't seem to have as many issues with a woman's looks that much (maybe they are carrying the 'beauty load' themselves, who knows?) whereas its the plainer guys/less handsome men who are all hung up on a woman's looks (or apparent lack thereof and may even point it out to you). Why is that?
One of the methods I've learned when in the company of real goodlookers is... Just look past the physical and 'connect' with the real human being. See the real man and human within. Works every time. Completely gets me over my nerves, levels the field, and I and the guy are much more relaxed as a result. In fact, I've found that many men appreciate this sense of 'being seen for who they really are' and not being treated differently to anyone else.
Real confidence comes from within.
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:21:19 PM | | Lol, good advice. Now how do I over come the blushing at 46. Difficult to look someone in the eye when you feel how red your face is! | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:22:41 PM | It's a question to each individual of both sexes.
For me personally I don't have any problems talking to anyone. I'm just able to walk up to anyone and talk. Which is good and bad. Sometimes I may come off as the opinionated ****. But it call comes down to, I don't care if you don't like me. I like me. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:25:34 PM | Hi thealee
Well, what I do is this... work on myself first. Feel good, look as well presented as I can, know my own worth (not always based on looks) and focus, focus on the other person, regardless of their 'hunk' factor. Only reason I would blush is because I'm thinking purely of myself and my apparent 'worth' in the other person's eyes. If the other person - a guy in this case - is where my consciousness is, it completely deflates any ego/personal worth issues of my own.
Works every time. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:27:53 PM | | Yes, I agree totally with Jasminekai. I like me too, and that helps a great deal. Also communicates to the other person that I'm not overwhelmed by their 'gorgeousness' factor. Can hold my own... and most of the time, have no problem chatting with anyone either. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 9:35:29 PM | No me neither...they are still people no matter how good looking "you" think they are. Taste in looks is personal, people like different things--what's good looking to one person may be unattractive to the next...besides looks is a small part of the package. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:42:47 PM | | Most of the time I am because in my experience, the really goodlooking guys are hellbent on dating the really beautiful women. Believe it or not, I was quite attractive in my 20's and dated a couple of guys that girls would flirt with and drool over in my presence. Nowadays, I would never think of competing the thin, sultry Barbie types. LOL! | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:54:46 PM | Nope, not in the least. We're all just people, each of us doing the best we can with what we've been blessed to work with. Good-looking folks have insecurities, too, believe it or not. So it's never crossed by mind.
Course, I'm not the kind of person who's intimidated by anything, either...dunno'...mebbe that's part of it, too.
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/24/2006 10:57:27 PM | I once organized an impromptu "beauty pageant" for gorgeous guys at a bar in Toronto, famous for its "metal heads". lol I brought various good looking guys into the vip room where my girlfriends and I were the judges. There was a talent competition as well. The guy who won looked like Slash from Guns-n-Roses. Actually...it might have been Slash from Guns-n-Roses. What won him the title of best looking man in the bar that night was the fact that he bit a beer can in two. lol You can see, of course, why I don't drink anymore.
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:35:55 AM | | I am definitally intimidated...especially with the guy who doesn't know how hot he is. lol that means he has a great personality too. I always think I don't have a chance...haha and if I did that every one whould constantly be asking him why he was with me. ISSUES I have to work on I guess...but then again looks aren't the most important thing to me anyway. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:59:42 AM | | Society treats attractive people far differently then "not" attractive people... this comes out in a person's personality - And yes, the cynical female in me is generalizing, but the attractive men that I've dated don't seem to work as hard on the relationship - they aren't used to rejection, so they are in a different frame of mind and simply not too concerned. I've gone up to very attractive men to initiate a conversation; and most of them smile, say hello, then walk away. I definitely have a stereo-type of them, for sure... GQ boys are totally out of my spectrum as a rule now, unfortunately... and I'm sure none of them are crushed over the fact... | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 5:18:42 AM | | Jordannne....welcome to the club....little secret for you, the reason the say hello and walk away is because there was nothing left in thier vocabulary....been there, done that once to often. I'm with ya gf. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 12:58:46 PM | scorpitarious - isn't that something??
And iwarrior.... Speaking for myself, I don't think GQ boys are airheads - I have no idea of their intelligence as no conversation is ever initiated! They just nod and wave as they walk away...  | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 3:04:47 PM | | Jordanne......tell me, what type of conversation would be intiated? Seriously, when talking with girls if I don't have a good conversation with them the first couple of time's their most likely just going to become someone I say hi to...think about it, they want to talk to you but you half to give us something to talk about! or something that has u actually carrying on the conversation aswell.....if we have talked to much about ourself we know, and we don't want to seem needy by asking so many questions. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 3:33:35 PM | Ladies, you really just need to have a little more confidence in your self as a woman and in who you are as a person!
You know, I've got this really good friend of mine that I grew up with, he is absolutely, drop
dead gorgous.
He takes good care of himself, has his own home, Great job, he's a riot to be around, he really has it all going on.
So many of my girlfriends over the 35 years i've known him have wanted to go out with him so badly, but would never approach him because they thought that someone that handsome would never be interested in them. you'd think that someone like him would be going out with so many women. ..."If only", as he says. He told me, that if a woman liked herself and was proud of who she is, why wouldn't he? About 5 years ago he was at the Abby flea market looking at some tools and had this woman who was over weight and not all that much to look at, come up to him and ask him a question about this paticular tool. Well I guess she cracked a few jokes about the tools and really made him laugh. They started walking and talking for a bit then she asked him if he'd be interested in having lunch with her, and so they went out for lunch and had a great time together. As a matter of fact he enjoyed her company so much he asked her to dinner, well they went out for over 2 years. She told me once that it took absolutely everything in her power to ask him out, but what did she have to lose? well it worked. He told me that a woman doesn't have to be a 6,7,8,9,or a 10 to be sexy or attractive. sexiness comes from within and if you feel sexy, others will find you that way as well, also what he finds attractive and sexy is when a woman is happy and confident in herself. Just think of something clever or funny to get their attention, then dazzle them with you!! ...Just my two cents worth. Good luck and like mike says, "just do it, you might be surprized"!! | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 3:39:51 PM | | lol.....by reading and answering my question you and us hottie's (who r reading this) will gain a lot of knowledge...this is one of my BIGGEST questions...... | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:25:16 PM | | I turn into a complete idiot when I'm around good looking men. To answer your question simply: yes! All the time! I feel not good enough, not attractive enough, etc to talk to good looking men. Then I get blown away if one actually approaches me (doesn't happen often.. but it has happened) | |
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