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Posted: 2/26/2006 12:57:06 PM | I know of one that has been going strong for a number of years now. Initially there were just a M and a F then another F was added. The M is king and the two Fs serve him. It is a sick relationship for most looking on it but the three say they are happy. I have seen proof that this isn't so.
This type of relationship, IMO, can only work if one or more of the individuals are weak with low self esteem as their are bound to be jealousy issues and someone is bound to get hurt.
Not something I would ever be willing to venture into in the long term. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 12:57:59 PM | I have been in a relationship where we had threesomes with the same girl every time we wanted to do it.....it was great...me and her were really good friends, and I didn't happen to be jealous of her...which i think is the main reason women don't want to have threesomes with their men..they think that their man is going to want the new woman....I guess everyone is different. However, I am no longer friends with this woman i speak of, so technically it didn't work out....only for the time being  | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 12:59:50 PM | i think one could work dependent on the people and their nature of being jealous or protective. i've never been in one and dont know that id ever be interested. good luck and congrats to those who r in one! | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:03:33 PM | | you mean three people living together and being monogomous amongst each other? dont know, never tried it but three people participating in sex at the same time may be more comon than you think, lots of folks may not admit to it because it is considered taboo by many but I have participated in a threesome that was mutually enjoyed by all three of us and we all agreed that it was better then sex between two could ever be. I say dont knock it till you've tried it. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:07:09 PM | | **Cresent** was your sexual relationship a factor in the "fallout" or was it somthing else? | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:09:42 PM | I'm talking about a relationship, Not just sex, but a real Monogomous relationship between three people instead of just two.
EDIT: what dreamer said.... | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:09:53 PM | | ^^^I would say no it wasn't a factor of the fall out, but however, i don't think it would have continued forever | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:11:04 PM | | We both had boyfriends at the time, but never were swingers, we just did threesomes with the guys seperately, i think if anything they may have been jealous....we were all good :P | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:15:03 PM | I've never been in what I would consider a "threesome relationship", but there was a time many years ago when I was involved in two intimate relationships with two different people at the same time. By the way, both of the women knew one another and knew I was seeing both of them, and they were both OK with the situation. I wouldn't have done it otherwise.
I wouldn't do it again. I didn't have enough time to do justice to either relationship, and even though both said they were OK with the situation, I felt that both held back in the relationships.
The funny thing is that I broke up with one of them because on the nights I was with the other, she was cheating on me with a guy named Carry. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:34:33 PM | I can't speak for others... there may be certain personalities that can more easily work with such relationships...but in my experience it doesn't work. Jealousy always seem to become the downfall of such relationships as it seems most human beings crave the feeling that they are special and exclusive in the eye of the one they love...
But who knows, it may be possible?! I have yet to meet anyone that has been successful at such relationships though...
I believe threesomes as ciscurmstancial events can be strong relationship builders (just as they can be the demise of great relationships too...) but threesomes as actual relationships ~ personally, I wouldn't be able to take it. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 1:45:51 PM | It would be fun to try, but very hard to keep.
As for just sex, thats something i'm dying to try. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 6:46:44 PM | aman442 wrote: The funny thing is that I broke up with one of them because on the nights I was with the other, she was cheating on me with a guy named Carry.
but why should you expect her to be monogamous to you if you were not for her? | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 6:51:30 PM | | I don't know if co-habitating in a permanent threeway relationship would work for me. The only people I have met that did this were very odd personality wise so that kinda scares me off. i do know that I would have no problem with having a bi gf who had a gf on the side. Just so long as she was open and honest about it. I know I wouldn't suffer from jealousy issues if it was occassional but I don't know if I would be happy with the gf spending more time with the other girl than with me, then I would feel like they were the couple and I was the third party. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 6:54:58 PM | I'm not wired that way
If three people want to be involved then it's okay by me, but it's not my thing | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 7:54:34 PM | | I have a female friend who is dating a couple ( another guy and girl) and they all seem happy so far. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 8:34:35 PM | yes. I do believe it can work.
I believe if you have a huge amount of trust in the two other people involved, then anything is possible.
I think circumstance is key.
I think its rare.
I think people are consumed with jealousy.. therefor alot of times it doesn't work.
But I know.. and have known people in these situations.. and it just takes the right kinda people. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 8:46:37 PM | | I don't think an actual threesome relationship exists. Even when they say it is, I think it's still just sex. I think that one of the people in this relationship, one of the girls if there's 2 girls and a guy, or one of the guys if there's 2 guys and a girl, would leave after a while because the feeling of sharing someone with someone they like will creep on him/her and would be turned off after a period of time. On the other hand, that person who happens to be the only guy or girl in the threesome is having a selfish great time, sord of like having his/her cake, having a cherry ontop AND eating it too. Just not fair and everyone eventually will long for 1 partner only, in a monogomus one on one relationship. If this wouldn't be true, a 3 some relationship would be just as common as one on one. If not than even more, that would be the norm. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 8:54:41 PM | I think.. that you have a right to ur opinion
I also think.. that things aren't always the way people "think" they should be.. or could possibly be.
Not every one gages their relationships the same.
People are beautiful creatures.. with so much to offer each other. And if you believe.. that a relationship involving three people is always based on sex. then you are wrong. dead wrong. And I can tell you that from experience.
Alot are. But dont say all.
that makes you wrong. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 10:05:08 PM | Yes anything is possible given the right circumstances.
Today in some parts of the world same sex marriages are sanctioned with all the rights of a hetero marriage......this would have been frowned upon in the19th century...and still is in most parts of the world today.
In the decades to come I would not be surprised if a marriage certificate had 3 names or more on it ...
I had a 3some twice with the same persons (My filipino GF & another girl who is her goodfriend) that was nearly 2 decades ago.....it felt uncomfortable after the 2nd time so we stopped..... | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:03:48 AM | | I think it can work. We have tried a couple times. Once it didn't work because we met the woman online and she came 1/2 way accross Canada to live with us before we even really knew each other. Rushing into it was the problem andfound out there was not real conection. The second time would have been good. But, she found out she had breast cancer before she moved in. She backed out because she didn't want to put us through that. We are still friends, and see here periodically. We all have a special bond with each other. Someday we willl find the right woman for us. Everybody thinks it is all just about sex. We enjoy the sex part but there is so much more to it. We're still looking. If you are interested, we don't care where in the world you are. We want and need a woman to love and live with us to complete our relationship. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 6:21:46 AM | | two company threes a crowd ...now crowds can be fun but everyone needs that one person to join with..... but thats just my opinion | |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 10:50:04 AM | I was in one for awhile, and it worked very, very well, and ended very well when one of the people found another person with whom they wanted an exclusive relationship.
Often in these polyamorous arrangements, there is a primary relationship and a secondary relationship, and that is clear to everyone involved and that's the way they actually want it, for any number of reasons. The hardest thing is to find someone compatible (it's usually difficult enough to find ONE compatible person, so finding another is usually a matter of luck and timing) and noone can have jealousy issues or it can't work.
I dont' know if I'd do this again - it can be a lot of effort to maintain even though the rewards are great. | |
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