| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:16:02 AM | I mention this because a few times in recent days I've been contacted by women who dropped the usual "Liked your profile, check mine out and maybe we can chat" email but then had nothing to say afterwards. If I was interested, i would respond and perhaps mention something that was in their profile or make a comment based on something they had said about my profile.
But then it goes downhill. The next mail might be something like "So how's your day going?" So i'll tell them a bit about whats happening and ask the same. Guess what the response is?
"My day is good."
That's it, nothing else. Where do i go from there? They contacted me! Don't they have any questions? Am I expected to carry the conversation? If I think I might like them once the ice is broken, I'll try again with some other conversation. It could be about anything. Its not uncommon for me to write a nice 3-4 paragraph email to get the ball going. But again, I get a one or two line response. And it never leads into anything. Its like talking to a brick!
One of these girls the other night, I finally had enough of. After about 4-5 mails of nothing, I wrote saying she didn't seem very enthusiastic and sounded like she was just being polite with her responses so I wouldn't be bothering her anymore.
She wrote back, "Um, ok. :S "
Incredible. From the face on the end of the note, I can surmise this wasn't the response she expected but what are you supposed to do?
To those people whose conversational skills are lacking, work on it! | |
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uk27
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Joined: 11/3/2005
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:25:45 AM | | No - I really think people just don't make conversation well. In addition, if you try to converse with someone who may be e-mailing a lot of people - you probably will get half-assed responses. I think people are also intimated trying to put together a proper written e-mail. Maybe just laziness. | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 1:10:25 PM | | I mentioned this same problem in another thread a few days ago... women who act like they want to talk to you, then either a.) you are saddled with responsibility for providing the entire conversation or b.) they'll babble for an hour about every dammed thing they feel like and hardly show any interest in actually having you talk. WTF? Is this just a manifestation of a lot of females' tendency to be attention seekers, over-talkative, insecure, and/or self-centered? | |
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uk27
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Joined: 11/3/2005
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 1:25:13 PM | | I really feel your pain and have been coming across this alot lately. There is nothing more frustrating than having someone contact you and then only respond with one or two word answers or having nothing to keep it going after they have asked you typical questions like "where are you from?" and "what do you do?". I haven't decided whether it's because people are multitasking too much here or they really are about as deep as a puddle and don't have much to say. Come on boys, don't start the chatter if you can't have the conversation. I wanna talk and find out what you're about! :) That's why we're here, right? | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 1:30:42 PM | | I agree with UK27's assessment and I think that's a pretty outdated stereotype of women. Good luck with your search. | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 1:42:45 PM | | Yes i have to agree, i too will send out emails with lots of questions well thought out ones to show i have read their profile and that i am genuinely interested in what they have to say, only to get back "thanks". If they cant put together a few sentences in an email it doesn't bode well for any future face to face conversations, if we were to meet. Surely its not much to expect a few well thought out paragraphs to show that they have read ur profile and are interested. | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 1:47:53 PM | There is this idea i have about CO-RESPONDance... Which seems to be what we are talking about here.
I try to relate my emails as I pick through theirs. That is a good way to get some flows.
A hillarious email i have received was a short one and they asked "so tell me about yourself" and i have this HUGE PSYCHO DETAILED PROFILE 
Yup lots of busy people who don't even have a clue about themselves.
Hang in there buddy. If they are not attracting you then don't be attracted. It is a two way street. Patience.
I even don't bother with people with more than twenty in the "appears on their favorites list" because how come they don't purge it and delete some. They could not possibly be sincere if they are dangling twenty people along. Maybe i'll start a thread to learn more about that. | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 4:24:21 PM | | I feel your pain. My favorite is they actually write you first, and after you write out two or three well thought out paragraphs, just reply with two sentences...lol | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 5:26:55 PM | I don't mind the lack of conversation if they simply aren't into you, but then, why are they even bothering? I do have better things to do than wasting my time trying to pull some sort of conversation out of people. But that hasn't happened with me, usually if they aren't into it or I'm not feeling it, one of us will say it and its done. Next.
It's these ones who simply have nothing to say. You ask open ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer and you still get nothing. I'm doing this currently with a girl on here. She mailed me, i responded. Her emails consist of one liners. I tried to engage her on a couple of topics like movies, what she does, etc. I get the same one line answers every time and her spelling and grammar are horrible! Finally i stopped writing today. She's giving me nowhere to go here, nothing to work with. I'm sure she'll drop me a line tomorrow like she did today, "How are you today?"
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 5:29:35 PM | the act of holding a conversation with another person is a lost art. i feel its pathetic and it shows lack of intelligence. IMHO - it also means your about as useful as "t*ts on a bull". pretty much meaning your not very smart at all and proably cheated on everything possible just to survive highschool and college and would be humiliated if you actually had to use your education and brain to, dare i say, talk to other human beings. its a major turn off for me and makes me thing im talking to someone who had an stroke or some kind of brain malfunction and then the person just so happend to have speech and though parts of the brain removed making them an halfwitt. ( this is not a knock at disabled people either, because, yet again, THEY THINK FOR THEMSELVES). i'll agree with the OP. having to carry an entire conversation is annoying, frustrating and makes me think your a very unintelligent. if i dare even contemplating setting for someone like that, or even contemplating having children with that person, i'd might as well throw my life away because, it would be a total waste.
theres some food for thought. go ahead and choke on it.
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 5:37:55 PM | | I have run into the same thing. It bothered me enough that I edited my profile asking that anyone interested in emailing me has to carry their end of the conversation. I must say that the medium might be part of the problem. Some people are better talkers than writers, and others may not be proficient on a keyboard. I try to take that into consideration. | |
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Joined: 12/12/2005
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:09:26 PM | | I agree with coal harbour! No kidding, your on 20+ fav lists & the rate my picture,sure they want a sincere relationship. They just want to play the Im more popular than you game:) | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:16:35 PM | i agree...i dont lack the conversation part..
matter of fact..i get the ones that say add me..then i say hi...we exchange a few words then hes off to lalaland...an i seem to babble on ...cause their busy on the internet somewhere else. ugh!!! i hate when they waste my time..duh
can anyone hold a conversation...lol....anyone?  | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:19:06 PM | Actually, most of these people who are on all those lists have never even spoken to the people. Its simply a matter of someone liked your pic and added you to their list. Or it could be that they liked your profile or something you said in the forums. Currently I'm on 12 favs but i've spoken to maybe 3 of them. I'm one to remove myself from lists if the person never contacts me and i'm due to do so, but alot of people here don't. Its an ego boost for sure to be on alot of lists. It doesn't take long to remove yourself from some lists. They like the numbers, it massages their egos, don't doubt that!
I was mailed by this beautiful blonde woman a couple of months ago. We exchanged email address' and started chatting on msn pretty much right away. What a waste of time! This girl could barely string together a sentence much less contribute to a conversation. Obviously someone who has always gotten by on her looks and never had to develop a personality. BORING!!
But ya, i think i'd be wary of someone on alot of lists too. However, can they talk? I don't care how good looking or popular you think you are, if you have no personality, you're of no use to me. | |
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SBS13
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Joined: 2/21/2006
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:25:16 PM | i think sometimes people get busy and forget, like i do.
However, I do think it's strange when someone makes contact with you, and then expects you to direct the conversation, or only talks about themselves.
It's like someone calling you and saying hi, then excpecting you to talk to them not the other way around.
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 6:34:42 PM | Yes I notice that also. With both guys and gals I have meet in my life some just don't know how to hold a conversation OR they only know how to hold a conversation about one thing. lmao . Me personaly I tend to talk or write to much and then end up being the only one to be talking because when I want for a responce I get a yes or no answer no matter that the question I asked had to deal with something they said they like to do.
Yes I have a lot of interests and like to talk about anything that someone wants to talk about. If I don't know anything about the topic I ask questions to get a better idea of what its about. But then I have had my poems on the web flooting around and published also. They tend to go from (excuse spelling errors) phylisofical to down right silly. I also have writen some where I was given a topic by a friend or who ever and then tend to just blow through it without much thought but made it seem like I spent forever on it.
Well from what I have seem its a matter of most people don't want to put a lot into what ever is going on. Then complane when it isn't going right. But thats just my opinoin. Well I better stop here or I may have a few hundred more paragrphs writen lmao .
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AMAN2
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Joined: 2/5/2006
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 8:47:48 PM | | I find the most boring people are those with only ONE interest. These people only can talk about that one passion of theirs. That's rather DULL if you ask me. Having many different interests makes life fun, and it's easier to converse with more people with different interests. | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 9:53:27 PM | yup.. tough crowd out there. Sometimes I feel like I'm at a comedy club, on stage, blathering away and NO ONE is laughing! If you do come up with something reeeeeeeeeally good then they'll grace you with a "ummm, yeah"
On the positive side I figure it's like an early warning system.. if you bore me via email you'll probably bore me face to face too.
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 2/28/2006 9:58:23 PM | was mailed by this beautiful blonde woman a couple of months ago. We exchanged email address' and started chatting on msn pretty much right away. What a waste of time! This girl could barely string together a sentence much less contribute to a conversation. Obviously someone who has always gotten by on her looks and never had to develop a personality. BORING!!
try a brunette...hehehe | |
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