| Tests to Disqualify Women/Men
Posted: 2/28/2006 12:27:39 PM | Do you guys have any tests to disqualify women/men?
I am generally turned off by women who are unintelligent, are overly emotional, or don't have a sense of humour.
My question for both men and women is: do any of you say any standard themes/lines to quickly size people up that you meet either on POF or in-person? | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 2 | |
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Posted: 2/28/2006 12:37:40 PM | | I would imagine that most do like everyone else. They look at the photo and make up their mind right then and there... A friend and I carried out an experiment once on a dating site and our theory proved to be true... We posted up two identical profiles word for word only the photo's were different. One was of an average looking guy and another was of a GQ model. You guessed it the GQ model got plenty of hits while the average guy got hardly none at all... I leave you to draw your own conclussions? | |
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Posted: 2/28/2006 1:06:34 PM | I am generally turned off by women who are unintelligent, are overly emotional, or don't have a sense of humour
Women feel the same way about men like this.
I know if he's interested when he drops me off, at the very least he waits until I'm in the house to make sure I'm safe.
The other way you can always tell if he's into you, is as he walks away, he won't be able to help himself, but he will turn around one more time, to check you out one more time.
Also when you first meet, if they're really into you their eyebrows will do a little up thing. Really fast, got to watch for it to even see it, but that's how I tell. Oh ya, and the big huge smile....or the goofy grin...
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Posted: 3/1/2006 6:31:01 AM | | This is a GREAT thread... I wish it had a chance to take off though. Nobody wants to tip their hand LOL | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 6:43:13 AM | When I meet a great looking guy and he cannot type or talk to me on my own level he's dead in the water. The intelligence just has to be there. I also look for some-one who is honest and does know what he wants out of his life. C'mon at least have an idea of where your going. We all need plans. I also like the easy going type who does not want to own or control others. Life is supposed to be fun. Or else it becomes a boring chore for us all.  | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 9:21:57 AM | | I can understand what people are saying about the intelligence thing, But when two people first meet and the attraction is present. I personally will trip over my tongue. When I am in the presence of a beautiful woman I get tongue tied and stutter and stammer for a moment. Then I appologize, somewomen think it is a game I play but it never fails. I sound like a babbling idiot at first. So be careful how you judge someone on the first conversation you have. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 9:30:12 AM | | Basically if the woman isn't her own person and can't have a conversation I'm not interested. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 9:39:11 AM | I get turned off buy guys who date me and then make racist comments about my race, seems like just cause i'm white and green eyed they think it doesn't effect me.
also guys who talk about how wonderful they are.. and how much of a catch they are.. that type of thing just bugs me to no end. | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 9 | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 10:36:32 AM | I loathe:
Regular users of illegal drugs
Arrogance
Accessory crazed 'like-oh-my-god' types
A girl dressed entirely of 'ganster' clothing with that bad ass look attitude of being better than anyone else with a mind molded from various rap artists and songs
Self absorbed types that don't seem to comprehend that life goes on without their mobile phone which would probably be closely linked to the accessory crazed types | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:05:56 AM | First in reference to msg 3:If a man waits until you get into the house when he drops you off this is not an indication of interest, it does however mean he is a gentleman.
Cyrix:With you on the accessorized women. They are really old and played out it seems, but nobody has told them or they just don't believe it.
Unintelligent and Close minded are at the top of my list really. There is nothing worse than being with someone who constantly replies with 'huh,what, or I DONT KNOW'....my skin just cringed.
A date once tested me on 'picking up the bill'. Now this isnt the norm circumstance as It was explained to her IN ADVANCE that I was not financially capable of paying for the entire dinner on that particular day(2 away from payday, budget, single father, blah blah) and it was communicated and understood days before. She had the option to wait a few days or continue with our date on the day in question with that stipulation in mind. She chose to not wait and when it came.....just sat and looked around, went to the bathroom and completely disreguarded what I said 2 days before. Luckily, I am not a complete idiot and did not bring ample means to cover the meal in the event that this would happen. I later asked her about the situation and WHY SHE DID THAT.... down the road of our rediculous relationship...she replied "That was one of my tests" | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 2:35:19 PM | I think tests that people do to give a person a yes or no are really pathetic.
How can you turn down someone just because they are not 'intelligent' or they act a certain way or have certain ideas and opinions. Everyone has theirs flaws. Chances are that they have other things that make them good.
Anyone who dismisses someone just because that person doesn't pass a stupid test deserves to be single. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 2:40:36 PM | tests....uh no.
It's a waste of time and just another "game" that people play. Be straightforward. Don't pull passive-aggressive secret tests to see how a person reacts.
Gah. No wonder no one on here wants to date. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 4:16:47 PM | | It depends on what you're interested in. If you want to get to know someone you get them to talk about themselves and spend time with them to find out what they're like. Hardly a "test". How can someone pass a test to find out if they're someone you'd like to spend time with or get to know better? If you find a test like that, please share. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 4:26:27 PM |
How can you turn down someone just because they are not 'intelligent' or they act a certain way or have certain ideas and opinions. Everyone has theirs flaws. Chances are that they have other things that make them good.
I could not agree more. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 9:18:56 PM | I do not RUN tests or setUP a test par se. However, when we are in a situation; I WILL watch and listen to see how she deals with the situation or challenge. (for sure!) I don't just say "so anyways"..that was neat and move on. I wait to see if what has just happened is up for discussion; if there is a good chance it would arise in our lives together too. If she is on that slippery slope, where I am almost CERTAIN She is on her way to doing or saying something that would throw me off; I do not stop her. I watch to see where her natural inclinations go. Doing this also lets me see the glory and beauty that is "her" if she accels and shows me that which I value and love and appreciate. Other times; you just knew they were going "that" direction; and watch them act in ways that you absolutely abhore and cannot see helpiong you get to your future goals at all!! In fact; you watch her show you how she will help to HINDER attaining and enjoying the life you are planning. (bye)
IT would be STOOPID to NOT learn how one reacts to a problem, or situation, that you get to together naturally. However; to MAKE a problem to see how it is fixed MAY get you to problems that, were you NOT to make them, would never have arisen...period.
Please note that THESE tests....are also used to see the traits in someone that blows my mind or re-enforces the belief that they would be fanastic as my partner. The situation which I may disqualify someone on are IMPORTANT to me, THUS, passing that proverbial test is just a way that I grow to respect them more.
However; to set up controversy or traps to see how they react? (no way; THAT is looking for problems. When you do this enough...well...you find em more often than not) But to judge based on something that occurs naturally? (of course!)
(In my opinion anyways)
Go with the flow BUT Flow as you go too (That's how I roll in dating)
P.S. Sorry about the redundancy and such. (not the easiest to read post; I'm sure)
How can you turn down someone just because they are not 'intelligent' or they act a certain way or have certain ideas and opinions.
Because the life you wish to live requires that their opinions and ideas do fit the challenges which will arise AND NOT clash against everything that you are and plan on being.
Close minded
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Posted: 3/1/2006 10:13:45 PM | Hi,
if a profile mentioned a deep devotion to any specific deity more than about 3 times I won't reply... she'll be far more into religion than a personal relationship.
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Posted: 3/1/2006 11:13:33 PM | It isn't a test so much as an acceptability.He must like animals.It will be my career and if he has allergies to cat dandruff it isn't going to work.
I don't like constant profanity.Sentences that are filled with bleep worthy words won't get much of a response from me.
If he drinks himself into a staggering,slobbering idiot,we are done.
He may have to live a life with me without children,unless he already has some.If he is big into wanting kids and don't have any.It possibly won't work for us.
God i sound horrible. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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Posted: 3/2/2006 3:04:14 AM | OH man... so many things can turn me off. I can't list them all, I'm not even consciously aware of some of them, until they happen. Some guys are unique and do some uniquely stupid thing that disqualifies them.
It's NOT all about looks. My former longterm relationship was with a NOT very great looking guy. Physically he was ...blah! But after getting to know him, and see that he really was a good man with many other characteristics I look for...his looks grew on me. When you love someone they become more attractive in your eyes. And...there were some other not-so-great looking guys in my past...but they were all decent, nice guys. Personality is infinitely more important that looks for a "relationship." I can tolerate not-great-looking (he must TRY to do the best with what he has though...NO guys who make themselves ugly.) And NO jerk-losers either. He11 NO !!!!!! Not even for a week. Not even for a day. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 3:13:13 AM | I have actualy been turned off in bed by an unintelligent girl. It was possibly the most shocking experience of my life. She was hot, interested, then proceeded to spew the longest stream of stupid I've ever seen.
Really made me reevaluate the people I meet, and choose to get involved with. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:16:48 AM | in response to msg 14:Its not the question of them being 'good' or 'bad'.Intelligence about something, is a requirement. Meet it...or you gotta beat it (scram). zero tolerance for it.
lol@extra talk..that goes for me too... | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 8:38:10 AM | | The first line that rings alarm bells is "I don't want anything complicated". Life is complicated. To me it just means I want to get for the least effort on my part. | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 25 | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 12:52:55 PM | Interesting dilemma with the intelligence question, and somehow I think some people are linking intelligence with areas that may not even reflect the person's intelligence at all.
The question I pose, is what if the person is willing to learn? The question in particular I pose to females, with the aid of the movie Forest Gump. What if the person you were going out with, was exactly like Tom Hanks in Forest Gump - clearly showing a lack of intelligence but a complete gentleman and sweetheart.
Some people here I believe are getting mixed up with wisdom and intelligence. | |
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