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Posted: 3/3/2006 12:54:34 PM | I have been seeing this guy that I met online for only about 3 months. We both had profiles posted, he messaged me, I blew him off, he persisted, we met... blah blah... started dating..
To make the long of it SHORT,, he still has his profile up on the dating site, has still been messaging other women, when I confronted him about it, he said that it was all innocent, so I let it slide since we had just started "dating". We did talk about not seeing other people and agreed that we would be just with each other. In the meantime, I have been getting nasty emails from someone telling me that he is no good for me, I don't know where they got my (work) email address from. They have sent me messages that he has written to other women, and when I confront him about it, he says that there is nothing in there that I should be upset about, that he isn't meeting other people, he is just chatting. I told him that if he wanted to keep a profile on a dating site, that we should part ways, and he continues to tell me that he will take it down... and hasn't yet... I want to kick his ass, but we have such a good time together that I don't want to ruin what could be a good thing over something as trivial as him chatting to other women? | |
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 7 | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:00:34 PM | | Hmmmm. Sounds to me as though he never takes your threat serious....kind of like a little kid, he will see how much he can get away with. You have two choices: continue to put up with his crap or ditch him. If you chose the first option, you can't complain. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:02:04 PM | Let me get this straight. You took your profile down and now because he is still messaging other women you put yours back up? I don't think you have a right to tell him what to do. If he wants to stay that's his choice. If you want to leave him that's yours. I don't think three months is long enough for him to know if he wants to make a life long commitment with you. You are already ruining a good thing by being demanding and saying things like you want to kick his ass. On the other hand he is lying so I'd ditch him!
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:02:36 PM | Chatting to other women doesn't have to be trivial.. and this promising to take the profile down and not doing it... as well..
You know this site IS addictive, or might be to some, and if you don't decide firmly to finish it once you've found love here you might end up getting fascinated by someone else.. and then someone else... vicious circle..
It's all about what are you ready to settle for? Are you having that much fun that his talking to other women will just stop being of a problem to you? Or will it make you so uncomfortable that it'll be better to let him just chat on here when you're gone... ?
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Joined: 10/27/2005
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:06:25 PM | I agree with message 13 but I also wonder how someone can sacrifice
their dignity just because a guy is fun to be with and has potential?
Certainly no man is worth being walked on and decieved..... ? is there?
what will he want to do next?
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:07:25 PM | | oh ya you like this guy it shows and thats fine if there was something that you thought was not right about those emails then you have a right to inquire about them as for your work email one question.. does he have it? if so then I would be looking at 1 of 2 things a jealouse ex trying to sabatage your new found friendship or it could be someone he has also been seeing and they found out the game he is playing.. I can only say its upto you. as you also still have a profile on a dateing site evn if you are just looking to hang out. but I dont know how long this has been going on betweeen the 2 of you... I would hate to see this guy get upset over me leaveing this message and some guys are like that but you have male friends he will have female friends .. in short sit down discuss this with him lay everything out on the table and decide together that it either over for you and him or for the others as you would or should agree to the same terms you deserve to be happy as does anyone else but games are for those that we leave behind | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:09:01 PM | No, we met on CUPID.
I disabled my profile, on the dating site.
I don't reply to messages from this one, as I basically have an empty profile, and
my profile does say that I am dating someone. I expect him to take his SINGLES profile down
because that is what we agreed to do, when we said we wouldnt date other people. When he emails other women, it is something like this.
he is messaging someone from a profile he had seen
"TO Milkitdoesabodygood" <- profile nick
"I can tell from your pic that Milk does do a body good"
crap like that.
He did tell me about a couple of girls that he emailed regularly, and told me that they all knew he was seeing someone... but when I got these emails from some unknown person that had his emails copied into it, it didn't look at all like hewas telling anyone about him seeing someone... LOL | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:11:24 PM | me thinks he is someone who is very good at "priming" women...
so he can walk on them.
You may find yourself with a bad ending with him.
As time goes on... you'll keep seeing each other... become further involved and he will
just keep chatting to other women.... so when he tires of you... he has 4 or 5 others he can go to....
he's a player... and it seems to be working on you.
if you allow yourself to have feelings for him... your gonna end up hurting.....
guys like him.... just have them take you out for a night on the town and dont
think twice about them afterword.
The second you allow yourself to care..... he will use you and walk off laughing
Do you really want a guy who has internet girlfriends?
that he emails regualrly?
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:14:29 PM | Well crap.. *grinz*...
I don't know when he would have time to see other women though.
We are together every weekend, and most of his spare time. He has three children
that he has during the week, and he usually calls every night, so I don't think he is
out with other women, I am confused as to why someone would copy and paste
his messages into the emails they are sending me. And I guess if they were snooping
through his email, they could get my address....
I think you're all right!!!! I should dump him.. this is too much grief for a 3 month
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:20:31 PM | | they've only been dating 3 months I would not say he's playing her, just keeping his options open incase it doesn't work out..Not that that's a good thing to, chances are he's unsure and that's why he's keeping them open..that in it's self really isn't a good sign..but one never knows...that's just how some ppl work..I myself do not keep my options open if i am seeing someone I focus on that person.. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:22:08 PM | start a thread and ask for some creative ways
to end it
:)
of course explaining why you want to end it.
you might end it in a way... that has some meaning and allows you to grow..
and avoid guys like that in the future.. as of course he isnt going to TELL
he is just keeping himself open for backups or anything..
you are seeing who and what he is by his actions.
so.... take it from there.
he is good to practice boundries on.... whatever you do, dont start to care for him
as a boyfriend until he proves he's your boyfriend.
He is currently a man still looking while getting some....
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Posted: 3/3/2006 1:22:17 PM | He is an attention hog!!..
Talking to all these women probubly makes him feel special!..
If it really bothers you that he is chatting with other woman, tell him it really bothers you!!,.
If he does nothing about it and continues to upset you, then leave!!
He isnt worth it!!
You say you have such a great time together..but I am sure that there are hundreds of other guys out there that you can have fun with, and they will be more then willing to treat you like you deserve to be treated.
start a thread and ask for some creative ways
to end it
:)
of course explaining why you want to end it.
That is ridiculous!!
You end it by saying..Its over and I cant see you anymore!!...You dont need or have to make it complicated!!
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