| Exposing phonies
Posted: 3/4/2006 11:23:21 AM | HELLO!!!!!!!!
I was wondering if there is any way to complain about members here. I want to expose someone here at POF as a phony! We were talking for a while, and she seemed completely normal and cincere. We agreed to meet five days in advance at a certain time and place. So I made sure I didn't make any plans for that time. At the specified time, I got in my car and went to the meeting place. She didn't show up. I went home, logged in to POF to find that the POF member in question had blocked me!!!!!!!!!
We had just chatted before I left, and then right after she blocked me. I was super pissed. What can be done to expose these phonies?
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| Exposing phonies
Posted: 3/4/2006 11:38:30 AM | | It doesnt mean she is a phony..she may have just lost interest. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:41:52 AM | expose her in the posts!!
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:43:28 AM | | I'm not sure how long the "talking for a while" was for you. But if it was for more then a few weeks, either she got scared or as your guessing, their a fraud. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:43:58 AM | | You shouldn't be calling someone a phony without any proof. Just because she didn't want to meet you, it doesn't mean that she is fake. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 12:12:44 PM | | There seems to be a lot of that going on . Experienced ot myself. Why can't people be honest if they very suddenly have a change of mind and stop diddling around? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 2:52:58 PM |
You shouldn't be calling someone a phony without any proof.
Do people have problems reading or something?
1) we agreed to meet.
2) we chatted just before I left to go meet, both agreeing that we were going to meet.
3) She did not show up.
4) I come home to find that she blocked me.
Jeez, only a woman would misunderstand. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 2:56:34 PM | There seems to be a lot of that going on . Experienced ot myself. Why can't people be honest if they very suddenly have a change of mind and stop diddling around?
I don't believe she had any change of heart, of got scared or any bullshit like that. This was clearly a deliberate misleading. This loser that I was in contact with purposely mislead me with no intention of meeting me. She got kicks out of fooling me, and then she blocked me after the gig was up. It was intentional!!!!!
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Posted: 3/4/2006 7:57:20 PM | | Many People also become extremely scared when it comes right down the line to actually meeting anyone and start to run & hide. Emotions and sensations come about they themselves are often not aware of. They panic. They freak out, then feel sorry for having mislead you, then too ashamed to even talk to you, so they try to make themselves next to invisible and just disappear. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:06:25 PM | | you got played, happens all the time, suck it up and move on.... | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:19:57 PM | | She may have just gotten scared. It happend to me when I first started internet dating, there are so many rumors of creeps, and creeps out there, if it was her first time, she simply froze up. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:37:03 PM | | Oh no! A person you never met, had only chatted to for "a while" over the internet, didn't show up for you. Maybe she sensed you deep insecurity and ability to harbour a grudge and ran like the wind. Stop acting like she cut off your arm. revenge never helps anyone. Also it shows that you give your enemies power over you. If you were truely strong, you would just shrug it off and keep on truckin'. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:45:42 PM |
Maybe she sensed you deep insecurity and ability to harbour a grudge and ran like the wind.
Her reasons are irrelevant. She is a phony. Something should be done about phonies.
Besides, I don't know why so many people keep trying to tell me she just got scared. Believe me, this is not a shy girl. And believe, I could sense that I was getting played because she was acting weird as hell. I went out on a limb, and trusted that she was going to actually be there. And of course, as I should have known, she was not. She did this intentionally.
revenge never helps anyone. Also it shows that you give your enemies power over you. If you were truely strong, you would just shrug it off and keep on truckin'.
It's not about revenge. I don't want to get revenge on her. I just want to expose her as a phony. She's not my enemy, she is a phony. | |
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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| Exposing phonies
Posted: 3/4/2006 8:52:07 PM |
Her reasons are irrelevant. She is a phony. Something should be done about phonies. She got cold feet. Quit whining about it, and move on. It happens.
How aggressive were you, when you were asking her to meet you?
She should be glad she didn't meet you, you're not a very understanding or forgiving person by the sounds of it. Kudos to her. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:52:37 PM | A phony is someone who writes in their profile they reside in a specific state, but never been or never lived there. I mean this girl, I really fell 4 her tricks; She tells me she's from nj and she's in UK in business trip cuz she's an art dealer; and that she is gonna be back soon; after 3months I ask her when she's coming back; she tells me she got a US money order and it will take her 40days to clear, but f I can help her cash it and wired the money back to her, she can be back within a week; Since we chatted for 3 long months, I tried 2 help, but OH boy!! she got me good: the jump, hook, sinker.
she gave me a $2500-money order, I gave her my cash, and put the mo order in my bank; by the time my bank told me the money order was fraudulent, that monster had disconnected her phone number and disappeared.
So my advice is this, if u wanna chat with some1 out of your state, that's your choice. However if at anytime someone wanna involve u in a money transaction( no matter how long u have chatted; and no matter what they tell u about having no relatives to help them), they R up to no good; stop talking to them  | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:53:12 PM | Right, because if she revealed herself as a phony before you gave her this great trust of showing up at a place, then you would still be posting this?
People get stood up all the time. Next time bring a book, if she doesn't show, you can hit on the waitress or someone else or just read the book. Or if she does, then the book can be a conversation starter.
People are dying all over the world and you can only get worried over wether or not someone shows up to a date. geeze. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 9:06:46 PM | | Maybe she did show up and saw you and changed her mine about meeting you.. Doesnt make her a phoney.. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 9:18:50 PM |
Maybe she did show up and saw you and changed her mine about meeting you.. Doesnt make her a phoney..
That's exactly what I was thinking!
I had a look at your profile. What if she thought you were the Sunfish? Then, when she found out you weren't as you described yourself....she bailed.
It's been said here. Getting stood up happens to people often. You have no way of proving that the next meet won't be met. Move on.
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Posted: 3/4/2006 9:24:03 PM |  maybe she showed up and you did look like your pics so she left...
for whatever reason... she ditched you... move on... no loss...
doesn't make her phoney... just makes her uninterested... | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:01:17 PM | The mere fact you are so upset needing to bust her chops to supposedly 'protect' others (by making a thread on this Forum about it) from such abuse or anything that could be equated with vengeance, is almost a dead-giveaway there is something not right about you. My guess is you might have violent tendencies, out-of-control personality, vengefulnesses, but based on your reactions so far, I would not recommend you as a top candidate for dating. Your response to a stood-up date are on the verge on being scary.
I would give more credence to your reactions if you felt crushed or hurt, but when I notice hostile feelings toward her, I immediately question your Integrity.
This kind of thing happens all the time, and those that really need to make a huge issue out of it, still had another card someplace.
I don't believe anything anyone posts here anyways. As far as I am concerned you are full of it until proven otherwise. Likewise, I believe she sniffed you out for who you really are, trusted her intuitions and ditched you.
Post a Pic on your profile of yourself. Then we would be in a far better position to reply to your 'Original Post'. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:24:49 PM | 1. I agree that the OP is overreacting. These things happen. They suck, but best to take a deep breath and move on. Buddy, relax - you lost nothing. She probably saw you, chickened out for whatever reason, and left. Sh*tty, but part of life.
2. I remember a thread about an incident like this a while back, where a woman was stood up in this exact same manner - expressing the same level of anger with being "conned". There were about 2 1/2 pages of threads in response - some of them saying what people have said here....that he probably just got cold feet, etc - but most of them told the lady that he was probably a player, superficial, untrustworthy, etc. Interesting to see the difference in responses between the threads.
3. A few of you are taking the OP's angry response - and somehow forming the conclusion that the woman who stood him up somehow "sensed" all this about him and bailed. Ummm, how did she do this without even meeting him? I agree with y'all that he shouldn't be getting THIS upset over it - but you people are making some pretty uninformed judgements.
One of the few things I don't like about the forums is the tendency for people to "pile on" with negative responses. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 6:17:52 AM | "I could sense that I was getting played because she was acting weird as hell. I went out on a limb, and trusted that she was going to actually be there. And of course, as I should have known, she was not"
Sunfish - Much as I hate to admit it - this happened to me too
altho it did not make me angry - Why? - I didn't listen to my instincts - the same thing you stated above - you sensed you were getting played but still went out on a limb and trusted someone.
That in my eyes would be a bad judgment call on our part, not the intended date
take your victim hat off and keep fishing or do some serious soul searching | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 6:32:53 AM | Well i suggest chalking it up to experience. Lesson learned. Perhaps in the future to ensure this wont happen again. Get your prospective dates phone number. If she is reluctant to give you this information and is agreeing to meet this may throw the "red flag" up. Even if its just her cell number.
By her showing willingness to give you this information you can rest assured that the possibility of you being humilated waiting may not happen and you could follow up with her to find out what really happened afterwards.
Me myself would rather talk on phone after emails to prevent this could happen to myself. Show genuine interest and follow up from there.
Hope this helps! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 6:48:39 AM | man! if i started exposing the men who stood me up . blew me off and either or had girlfriends or wives when they said they didnt id have to have my own website .. suck it up butter cup and move on  | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 7:00:15 AM | I guess she was there but you didnt attract her physically..... or you were so good looking she sh*t herself and left because she was lying about who she was! | |
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