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 jerryspringer
Joined: 3/5/2006
Msg: 1
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I know it would be a big problem if I were 25 and she were 16, and no problem if I were 98 and she were 89. But I am 38, and she is 29.
 psylvr
Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 2
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 1:54:33 AM
its only a problem if the 2 of you let it be one.
 Calculating Infinity
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 3
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 2:08:13 AM
*Shrugs* Personally I wouldnt date someone 9 years younger... Shit is crazy.
 go99
Joined: 12/30/2005
Msg: 4
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 2:57:31 AM
apart from chemistry- what the F....sex is sex and luv is luv. if yoo can get it -go for it, and if you both get luv .....kisssssssssss
 Skooby_Doo
Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 5
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 3:07:42 AM
too much for what ? I mean if your just gonna date the girl , just go and find out what she is like and see what gives. If your asking "is the age difference too much for the long term" then the answer is no - age is just a number and like the previous post says luv is luv , bruv ,just go with the flow till the river runs dry eh ?
 Hambone352
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 6
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 3:39:05 AM
Actually, I personally know a 38 year old man that married a 27 year old female friend of mine.
 Hambone352
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 7
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 3:39:53 AM
Me, personally, I think as long as I am in my 30's my age range will start at women 25 years old.
 Dog Mommy
Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 8
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 4:57:27 AM
The decision is an individual one.
 thai_paradise
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 9
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 5:19:41 AM
I'm dating a man 8 years older than me and I think he's hot! I don't see any problem if you're just dating, especially if you share similar interests. If you really really love each other you can overcome any age difference. To me more than 10 years is pushing it, unless you fulfill each other's psychological/sexual void. I think you being 38, and she 29 might pose a problem when it gets to the point where you pop the question, because you might not want to start another family. And since she's 29 and probably never had a family she might want to have babies. Are you ready to raise children way into your sixties? You should be honest and upfront with that.
 fristknight
Joined: 2/10/2006
Msg: 10
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 7:57:18 AM
age doesnt matter if you both enjoy being with each other
 Sweet sensations
Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 11
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:08:10 AM
...and your problem is?
 terminallycute
Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 12
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:18:08 AM
"True age is defined by attitude and demeanor, not by the amount of years one has lived"

(my favorite quote)

As long as you both are legal adults..then have fun!! enjoy each other.
 mansmurf
Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 13
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:34:01 AM
If you're 20 and she's 11 that's a problem. Other than that it's trivial.
 AnnudderVoice
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 14
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:38:40 AM
LOL - no way should it be a problem. My parents had an 11-yr spread and got along wonderfully until my father's death. My ex & I had a five-yr spread; obviously that didn't work out so well.

It is what it is - if you find love, hang on to it.
 Soul_Mates
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 15
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:41:05 AM
I've been with/dated ppl from 9 yrs my junior to 9 yrs my senior.

I think it depends on the individual personalities of the people involved, their maturity levels and what they each want out of it.
 delytful
Joined: 11/8/2005
Msg: 16
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:43:04 AM
I once dated a man that was 9 years older than me, and broke it off because HE was so frickin immature.
 annieocean
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 17
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:43:05 AM
as long as she and you love each other,are on the same page in life and want the same things together..sounds fine to me..why worry about age..give all you got,be happy and best of luck to you both...
 ~ V
Joined: 4/11/2005
Msg: 18
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:44:30 AM
I have never found it to be a big deal, personally me speaking I like 10-15 difference.

Then again sometimes you find a really immature 35 year old and some really mature 23 year olds.

Like someone else said, it's only a problem if you make it out to be one. If someone can connect with another person who is decade younger then so be it.

I was reading somewhere that the divorce rate among couples with a 10-15 year difference are lower than that of couples with a 1-3 year difference. Interesting.
 sweethart2579
Joined: 7/8/2005
Msg: 19
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:45:31 AM
I feel that if the maturity level is the same, then it is ok, provided you are both of legal age. I tend to date within 10 years..older than me that is...guys that are younger than me? they have to at least be 21.....obvious reasons there.
 wntrwnd
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 20
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 9:32:25 AM
I'me older than my profile (pof mistake) I've dated 25 to 66yr old women, a bunch inbetween, my attitude is if you can get the date and have fun with each other, go for it! But you have to remember dating and marriage are two completly different issues. My attitude requires a lot of soul searching for a younger, older, marriage to work. lots of variables, mental and physical, and beleive me they will pop up, just logic, and my 2cents worth.
 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 21
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 9:34:36 AM
Depends when the age difference is and if there is TRUE love there or not. If the age difference is in there 30's and up for example then it's ok, as long as there is true love there.
 The Anti-Date
Joined: 8/29/2005
Msg: 22
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 9:53:20 AM
As long as you both have things in common then there shouldn't be an issue. I have dated men up to 13 years older than me and 5 years younger. I have found with younger men that they want children and that part of my life is over, but again, as long as there no major issues and you're happy - go for it!
 CountrySugar
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 23
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:02:39 AM
I don't see that as a problem...as long as you care about each other who cares what anyone else may think...

My bf is 8 years younger and it's not an issue for either of us..
 4loorplay
Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 24
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:10:54 AM
Its a proplem if your 90 with a billon in the bank and she is 20 swinging around a pole.
 Iron Wolf
Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 25
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:11:38 AM
9 years...big deal! Just be happy.
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