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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 3/8/2006 5:07:22 AM | | Not meaning to be the pessimist, but I think its harder to find "True Love" at any age. We start out thinking we have it and then discover we don't. When we realize what it is, it gets hard to find others who finally discovered what it is. As we get older, we change the definition to fit who we are....and that makes it a little more challenging. "True Love" is so elusive. If you find it....hang onto it as though it were gold...because that is what it is. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 3/8/2006 4:33:29 PM | True love to me is staying with each other because you are like minded and care for each other even to the point one mate's body starts falling apart. True love comes from the heart not the hormones. Its truly a spiritual connection.
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 5/2/2006 6:40:56 PM | | True love is something that grows in time. When the sparkle dims, there are new ones to find. True love is staying when things get tough and not giving up without working on the problems. True love is making a promise and being fortunate enough to keep it. My beloved and I make a vow to be there for each other, when one of died. I was fortunate to be with him in his short, but fatal illness. The last words we said were "I love you" and he died in my arms. That is true love. I still believe there is more in the world for me. It may not be the same, or even remotely close, but I believe in unconditional love. That is true love. Win or lose, your heart is greater for the experience. The sun shines brighter, the wind is sweeter, and life goes on. | |
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Lolee
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 5/2/2006 8:46:31 PM | | I think you find true love just one time and I had mine we were married for 45 years and when he died I thought I was going to die.I think you can love agin but not like that, | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/9/2007 12:08:22 AM |
Is it possible to find "True Love" when you're over 60 or are men/women either too fussy or too set in our ways?
Yes. And more than once. Depends on your own openness. And *that* is your choice. You can *choose* to be too fussy; you can *choose* to be to set in your ways. In which case, you prolly *won't* find a mate, much less fall in love at all. But if you've done your work, sorted and stowed your baggage, and then actually go looking, it certainly is NOT impossible. And the rewards are incalculable. . . . .
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/9/2007 1:13:38 AM |
True love to me is staying with each other because you are like minded and care for each other even to the point one mate's body starts falling apart. True love comes from the heart not the hormones. Its truly a spiritual connection.
If you are 60 and still think that love is sex, then it's doubtful that you will find true love again. But if you have matured to the point where you realize that love is the like the quote above, then you can still find it even at 80 or 90......... | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/9/2007 7:54:33 AM | Ah ... another revival of a dead thread .....might as well revive an old saying or two.
If you give love ... you get love.
if your love is true you will have true love.
Don't expect to be loved ... when you don't love.
they all express the same idea .... believe. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/9/2007 7:44:51 PM | I worked in a facility where elderly people live in my younger days ... some of them found love , fell in love a their age. I knew a couple that got married in the facility at the riped age of of 80 's well she was eighty and he was a 75 yrs old. Yes they got their own room .. was cute, because at night the nurses had to put the beds together at their request..... now what did they have in mind ?  Yes it's possible I know a couple , she is 88 years old and he is 91 and they still make love . She told me he is still the sexy man she married 66 yrs. ago and the love of her life ... Now that is true love. They are the most wonderful couple I encounter and I work with.  | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:07:51 PM | I agree.......I have seen such wonderful examples of romance and love and yes, even being turned on by old people who we probably think are ugly but look beautiful to each other. And we are all aging. I didn't feel that I was aging at 50 or 52 or even 55 but I turn 58 this month and now I feel that I am aging. I look in the mirror and I'm shocked that I'm beginning to look like an old lady!  But then the guys I meet look like old guys, too........
I believe that the late 50's, early 60's are a time of transition where we have to learn to love each other in spite of our aging, we need to learn to love ourselves even if we are aging and we need to respect others who are aging.........because we are part of that group now! If we don't make that transition? You won't find love because you are looking for a fantasy instead of a reality.........
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/9/2007 9:15:36 PM | One must be happy with our selves in order to project it out... Beauty comes from within, we are no longer the beauty we were at age 18 , 25, 35, but with age comes grace, and wisdom.. I am sure there are plenty of men our age or younger , that appreciate the grace, and wisdom in a lady.. I am 54 years old ,but am told I look younger then my age. I work out and eat healthy food.. It helps that I work in the health field and see so many people aging before their age time. Because of the way they treat their body. I deal with people of all ages . My children 's friends always ask my age because they can't believe I am 54 years old. I am energetic and active for my age. They say my mom is younger then you, but looks much older. I exercise every day for one hour and do weights for my arms , legs, tights, butt, chest, and back( I am strong for my age) on weekends if I am home I work out twice as much. I started to work out 11 months ago and have surprise my family and myself at how better I feel and look much younger, I even let my hair grow long to the middle of my back, and feel much better. There is a younger man age 37 years old who has been asking me out for some time , we have been good friends for 4 yrs. But I don't want to date him. He just doesn't light my fire. I like to keep him as a friend I tell him why messed up a good friendship. My older son is 32 yrs. old. I 'll be dating a man 5 yrs. older then my son. I am basically a happy person so it projects through and makes people happy to be around me and I love people. I guess I learned to be happy because I am a Christian lady and my line of work has helped me to take care of myself also. Worrying just ages you stress kills you weakens your heart , being angry takes away three month out of your life. The Good Book tells us how to live a good life , also tells us what to look for in a partner, how to eat, and give our worries /problems to our Lord he will take them all and sat us free of worries. I believe that we human beings aged get sick and died early because of the worrying , over working ourselves , we take life seriously and don't make time for our selves . To relax , my way of relaxing is exercising going out on my weekends off or just staying at home with a good book , movie , walking at the beach, malls, or being around my beloved children or friends... I like to be around positive people . Negative people just drained the life out of me. I already worked with the sick, mentally, physically, emotionally, with people with illness... So I need to make them feel life is worst living not contribute to their depression more .... Life is so much better if you love who you are , work out , and feel good about yourself and enjoy your work I love my job ...... You will age with grace if you take control of your life before you get older...Never too late to start at any age , to work out... Blessing to all and good health | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/10/2007 6:31:45 AM | Don't know about the 60+, but do know about (my own) 50.
One has to decide what they value.
This following (msg 8) is so well said that it gets my vote:
If you give love ... you get love.
If your love is true you will have true love.
Don't expect to be loved ... when you don't love.
Next time someone purports to want to share time and they begin with "I hate..." in all its forms, maybe best to extract one's self. Plenty on the planet have appreciation, an encouraging sense of humor, and even own (inside) "stuff" that has them happy including a willingness to share those pleasantries.
Deciding whether any thing so simple, so profoundly effortless as natural appreciation is worth your while is still a decision. So many regularly refresh their negative tallies, have such glee demeaning others, (apparently) base strength on demeaning generalities (just read the forums). If one's mind is FULL of what's not good enough, guess they get exactly what they demand. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/11/2007 9:15:18 AM | I truly do believe it is a fact that finding love over 60 is possible. If not, why would any of us be here? I know I have a lot of people who I love in my life and those who love me--I was going to say what we (I) am looking for is a lover. But, that is not the word to describe what I hope to find - at least in the commonly used way.
Is age an issue--maybe--but keeping an open mind on the age and location and just who this special person will turn out to be certainly gives me reason for positive thoughts.
Someone is looking for this gal--I know it! | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/11/2007 7:52:56 PM | | I don't know about "true love", but I do think it is possible to find a wonderful companion to share things with ..... whether in a dating relationship or live-in relationship. I think the key is mutual respect, caring and sharing. And that can happen at any age. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:15:37 PM | I think you can find true love over 60. It probably would be a "different" kind of love than what you may have had with your first love, or someone you had children with. I don't think you can expect it to be the same, but I believe the love can be just as "true".
I suppose you can have a fantasy love, if you try to imagine too much into it. But if it's really grounded in reality, I think it can be a beautiful thing,.....at any age.  | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/11/2007 8:16:47 PM | Gosh I would hope to finding love after 60, seeing I am way over that..
I believe love can be found at any age, although the older we get, the less the chances become merely because of age. I can relate to people of all ages, from 40 thru 90, but as far as dating is concerned, my luck isn't too good .   | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/11/2007 10:01:17 PM | .
It ain’t the age, it’s the urge. 
In the past couple years, I know of three couples in their middle sixties who were married. There’s also another gal-friend who is 67 and most definitely considering it. I talk with these people a couple times a week and all are very happy they did it again.
Truly, when we’re talking about folks who are naturally active, I don’t think that age has much of anything to do with it. All of my friends (mostly married) are very active people. They are often out and meet a lot of people. For instance, when we go to the gym in the morning there’s a full house and everyone there is over 55 years old. It’s a good mix of men and women and I think about half of them are single. Better yet, we have to move along briskly because many of them have to go to work, so it’s always good, fast workout. Then, some of us stop for a quick breakfast afterwards, so there’s usually some socializing, too.
On the other hand, there are a lot of single women around my age whose only interests are cooking, TV, table games and the grandkids. A night out for them is for bingo. If they try to play golf, they’ll ride a cart. Yet, some of them are on places like this wondering why they can’t find a man. Maybe we should mate them up with the (also) slothful couch-sitting guys, eh?
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/12/2007 11:04:58 AM | | I believe wholeheartedly in a fairytale ending. I'm 52 and I believe you can find true love at any age. I think the secret is believing in happily ever after in order for it to come true. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/12/2007 1:21:10 PM | How pessimistic you are! What would prevent two people from creating a loving intimate relationship after 60? I am way more capable of having a great relationship now than when I was 20 or 30. I have more wisdom and skill in that department now. There are more mature men who also know how to create a loving relationship with wisdom and skill as well.
We all deserve to be fussy about our spouses and yes it would take some adjustment but why not? As long as we are interested in working a being in relationship then it is not only possible it can be the love of our life. However attitude is all. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/12/2007 10:40:30 PM | As a matter of fact, I get better and better at it, lol! Finding it, recognizing it, and being able to live it out. I wouldn't have my 20's back for anything. And truth be told, there are men out there "of a certain age" who have learned the same.
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/13/2007 6:21:59 AM |
I think the key is mutual respect, caring and sharing. And that can happen at any age. I think that's it in a nut shell! Although, personally, I think "true love" can be found at any age as well.
Smiles.........I'm not 60 yet, but I am a die hard romantic and I'll always believe in and be receptively open for "happily everafter"............sometime in my life! | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/13/2007 4:38:06 PM | I think it's easier to find happiness in love when you're over 60.
You're richer, smarter, wiser, and not distracted by the concerns of career building and family raising.
At last you can focus on one another--and all this without parental interference or the fear of an unwanted pregnancy.
Life can be sweet after 60. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:27:53 PM | i guess thats what i'm looking for,is more of a companion.i like the togetherness of going places and talking.i was married to an alcoholic,and for years it was just a one sided relationship.he loved that jug way more than me.but i finally wised up and figured out that it's my turn now to maybe have some happiness and trust in someone.so i'm going to keep looking,maybe i'll get lucky and find that man! | |
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