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 raculad
Joined: 8/25/2005
Msg: 2
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practice makes perfect experiment more give him directions if it doesnt get better walk away
 MUSIC4ME
Joined: 2/10/2006
Msg: 3
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:04:35 AM
No, you find out what she likes, and well, do it for christ sakes.
 k.kong
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 4
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:05:08 AM
well, if after you practice, practice, practice, the game still is bad, and if the sex is essential to you, then cut your losses.
 LuckeeU
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 5
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:05:11 AM
How Do you get more attached if the sex is lousy?...lol..Leave because It'll never work In fact leave immeadatly..lol..
 LuckeeU
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 6
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:07:55 AM
But what if her poontang is all sloppy and worn out?..lol..Then what?
 Fry Lock
Joined: 10/4/2005
Msg: 7
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Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:09:18 AM
In my experience, it doesn't get better unless they were new at it; and you will eventually get bored with it, and look somewhere else; if you really care, talk about it; if not, do yourself and the other person a favor, and move on...
 Dovescry
Joined: 3/5/2006
Msg: 8
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:11:17 AM
Oh good god!
If the sex is bad or he needs viagra and is in denial about it.
RUN! Before you do, sign him up for a few subscriptions on how to please a woman in the bedroom.
 Blondeamazon
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 9
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:12:17 AM
May i ask how long you have been dateing? and how long you have both been intimate?
 MUSIC4ME
Joined: 2/10/2006
Msg: 10
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:14:54 AM
Here is a helpful suggestion, talk openly from the start, get to know the other person, not everyone will be great the first time together. I like to find out everything, and why not, if she is happy, then so am I.
 Nikki2306
Joined: 11/26/2005
Msg: 11
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:18:22 AM
Blondeamazon .... several months for the dating and intimate about 5 times.
 eddie0221
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/9/2006 11:22:30 AM
normally the first experience is not always a good one but after 5 times I think you need to communicate more as to what pleases one another. All women please differently and if you have an open relationship, it's not too bad to educate him on what tickles your fancy. After you communicate and It's still bad, go buy a toy. You can't always have your cake and eat it too.
 Nikki2306
Joined: 11/26/2005
Msg: 13
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:22:47 AM
Music... We did talk about it. I was "honest" about how it was or rather in this case "wasnt" for me. Selfishness in an intimate situation just doesnt cut it, there are 2 people involved so 2 people should participate.


Eddie... I think that is wrong... you should have your cake and eat it too! Ever aspect of the relationship should be something that you look forward to every day and if there is something lacking... you will end up looking somewhere else!
 Haleth
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 14
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:24:51 AM
MUSIC4ME is right, be open about sex. Of course you don't want to tell him, "Man, you suck!" But you can tell him what you like. Turn it into game. Simone says, touch me here. Do THIS...okay, do that again...one more time...Now THIS really rocks my boat!

I'll do that even when the sex is great. There's nothing better that a lover that knows your body inside and out (talk about a double entendre!), and since all women are different, there's nothing out of the ordinary in telling him what turns YOU on. When he sees the difference in your response, I'm betting he'll pick up on what to do pretty quickly. Or if he's an indifferent, insensitive lover, you'll find out fast.
 passionteman
Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 15
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:25:27 AM
OP: First, it has to be discussed to find out what the problem is and get the lousiness out and if it doesn't work out, then it has to come to a mutual end.
 Blondeamazon
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 16
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:26:02 AM
Several months yet only intimate five times?.........Right there tells me personally something is wrong........With the relationship still being preety much very new.

Communcation is the key but i am wondering if maybe he looks at you as more of a best freind than a lover. or as some would say FWB.......I personally have never been in a relationship especially that new where intimacy was lacking.

I think maybe you should sit hIm down and ask him how he feels not only about you but where the relationship is heading and what it is he expecting. Usually in a new relationship it is hard to keep ur hands off of one another. (FIVE TIMES! That alone would raise red flags for me.

There maybe some issues he has had in the past that he has not told you. I don't know but it sounds like you both need to sit down and have a serious talk before you make the final decision especially if you truly care for him/

Thats just my 2cents......
 oceanpearl202
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 17
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 11:40:14 AM
get rid of them.

OP
 Gallivanting1
Joined: 1/28/2005
Msg: 18
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 12:20:58 PM
Live with lousy sex? You're kidding right??
 buzzingbee
Joined: 3/25/2005
Msg: 19
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 12:22:55 PM
My opinion might sound selfish but - especially in the early stages - is passionate...one feels like being on a rollercoaster. Hm... if all "cylinders are not engaged or tackled...obviously some fuel" is not reaching them... then it is time to
Would you settle for less if physical side means so much to you?

buzz
 pepper2
Joined: 8/18/2005
Msg: 20
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 12:30:00 PM
yes it was
so I did
 djchaos2958
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 3/9/2006 1:06:41 PM
Well that is a good question, expressing what you are seeking in bed might help, if that dosen't work I'm gone. Sorry but even if everything else clicks, and the sex sucks then I don't want to have crappy sex. I have lots of friends that I click with, that I don't sleep with. Sex might not be the biggest issue in a relationship, but it has to be enjoyable, or why am I there?
 bristle
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 22
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 1:15:40 PM
I have left in the past because of bad sex. I offered to be a friend but since I was already emotional involved, friendship was too difficult.
 Sweet sensations
Joined: 9/5/2005
Msg: 23
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 5:15:20 PM
Last year I met and dated someone that I really liked and was very attracted to. The first time we kissed I had heard about this weird phenomena about making your toes curl and holy cow that really can happen!

After dating a few weeks ..... well the big night came. I wanted to be with this man. The build up and anticipation was overwhelming.

Well....
I've never been so disappointed in all my life.

So chucking it up to first time sometimes this can happen... I tried a couple more times.


It only got worse. I really liked him but the sex was the worst and the most terrible I'd ever had. Sounds awful I know. It killed the romantic side of our relationship.

As much as I liked him.... this is one of the times I have to say: Sex is also very important in a relationship.
 Omega X
Joined: 7/19/2005
Msg: 24
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 3/9/2006 5:18:45 PM
Definately. I'm a person that feels first impressions are everything and well, if the sex was bad at the beginning, it probably be bad again no matter how much communication is placed. It would be like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound. Different strokes for different folks.
 xoxMaggiexox
Joined: 3/18/2006
Msg: 25
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/2/2006 2:28:50 PM
Here's the deal... You can't judge lousy sex from only the first few times.. in other forums it's been outlined that especially woman.. and I don't doubt it men too... your uncomfortable.. I am with a new partner so i woudl hope that whoever I am with woudlnt just dump me cause of a the first few times you... mind you I like to date the person for a whiel befor jumping inthe sack so hopfully that will keep them around long enough for me to get more comfortable I woudl want them to like me for me.. and not my shotty bed escapades... and in return I woudlnt do it to a guy either.. usually if I am at that point in the relationship I liek them for who they are... besides ... practice does make perfect.... I like to tell a guy how Ilike it and what feels good and moreso what doesn't... sometimes a guy will try way too hard... and that sucks.. sometimes simple is what you need then you spice it up from there... Don't dump them right away at all if you can help it... things canimprove... a relationship is or shoudln't be solely based on sex... yeah it's important but not everything
 Mandrake48
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 26
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/2/2006 2:35:05 PM
Master pieces aren't created overnight!...great lovers aren't great without a partner. For two to become a masterpiece of lovemaking, time and practice are necessary to perfect the work of art.
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