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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/10/2006 2:40:04 PM | hmmm...good question.
For the most part? No, I wouldn't be interested. Then again, in some (strange) way you might be more approachable than a completely single person. It's really going to take someone special and understanding (probably a father already himself) to understand what you are going through, especially to be willing to possibly take on some responsibility in the forseeable future.
You just want to be sure that whatever the relationship, if it gets serious you need to let him know what your intentions are. Just for fun? Long-term? The pseudo-father for your unborn child?
You're in a tough situation, but not hopeless! Good luck! | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/10/2006 2:50:53 PM | | Thank you for that.. I'd have to say that if I were to "decide" what my intentions are or would be at this point, it would definately be for long term (which includes fun) As for the realtionship with the child, I suppose that would depend at what point I got involved with someone..how close him and I had gotten before the baby was born, etc..I would not ever expect someone to be a "father" to the child, but naturally, if they were around, they would definately be a father "figure"... I am just really doubting how any man would be attracted to a pregnant woman, especially because the natural assumption would probably be that a pregnant woman would be involved with someone, how would they feel about getting "intimate" with someone for the irst time when the are with child..and then even say it does get that far.. and gets serious..what would they tell THERE families etc???? SO many things to think of here.. | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/10/2006 4:50:21 PM | baby-bear
Don't feel glum about your situation. their are a lot of men out there that would date a pregnant woman.I have heard many men say that a woman carreing a child is extremly beutifull.Ther are also men out their that want kids and can't.Also if you are in a relationship when the baby arrives,well you know how a child can pull your heart strings.As long as men know you are single you should do just fine,but be sure you get a guy you can be sure of.best of luck to you. | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/10/2006 10:49:03 PM | | I would. I have in the past and he turned out to be a great stepson and I would do it again in a heartbeat as long as we all got along well. I have a friend that she let her son ruin her last 3 relationships. There was no discipline on him from her at all and when the guys tried to set boundries she totally over reacted and that was the beginning of the end for the guys. But if we all got along good, I'd certainly do it all over again. | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/11/2006 4:53:03 PM | | I do understand your predicament at 6 mo pregnant with my daughter i suddenly found myself single. I never even considered a relationship at that time but that's because i was trying to deal with a broked heart but i did have many many men hit on me, actually i have never been hit on more than when i'm pregnant. I was not comfortable with the whole dating while carrying another mans child and i would have to question the motives of anyone who is interested in you at this complicated time, but i know there are good men out there willing to welcome not only one but two people into his life. | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/12/2006 9:19:35 PM | Hi baby-bear:
It's really not a whole lot different than anything else; Some men will like it, some men won't, some won't care either way. I often tell people who are frustrated with lack of good prospects that it's not necessary that ALL men/women are into you, unless you're into being communal property. :-P Who cares if some/many/most want someone like you.. Just focus on finding that one-in-a-million One that's truly special, makes your head spin, and thinks you're the perfect one for them, too.
Good luck,
C. | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/12/2006 9:22:33 PM | I first met my childrens father when I was 5 monthes pregnant.......... he then took me and told me that he wanted to be this babys father because he was unable to have childrens due to his remission for hodgkins...... I gave birth and got pregnant immediately with his baby......
relationship is done now as he has passed away........but there are some awsome men out ther......... | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/13/2006 12:06:39 AM | To the OP,, baby-bear
And not to overly upset you but my seasoned advise would be:
To hold off on ALL relationships with new men, the "dating thing" as you put it
until after the birth of your child (and hopefully a healthy and safe birth at that)
Your body and mind are having tremendous and constant change / swings. And your
hormones are in/on or about to be on overload,
you will or about to feel emotions like never before - so why subject yourself
to another man and more complex issues...
Yea,, some men are into pregnant woman ,, some men do want to "save" a woman
sort of like a super hero.. Some have good intentions and yet some others may be caught up
in the moment and not in the reality. And yet some may even find it to be kinky / fetish..
Look BB,, you will not be pregnant forever and it will be best for you to find your NEW man and possibly a father figure for your new child after the child birth (and at that maybe a year) We are told to be careful on who we introduce to the lives of YOUNG children..
You need to be 100 times more cautious as yours is not yet born.. And please be careful
and overlly cautious if you do decide to get involved with a guy and he wants to put "his" name on birh certificate.
BB, as you now know nothing is forever and this is NOT the time to try and make those decisions....
I do wish you the very best  | |
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| SO, how many of you would get involved with not only a single Mum, but a pregnant one at that????
Posted: 3/13/2006 11:06:19 PM | | I dated while I was pregnant with my daughter. The father was a do nothing and a lot of the guys I knew before and after dating him knew what was going on. A few of them took me out on dates (even met one's parents and they knew too!), I had to turn down many of them! I even had ex-boyfriends calling me up for dates knowing the situation. I did end up marrying a man (while I was pregnant) that was a friend first, to this day we stay in contact (he lives in another state) and he is even my daughter's legal father as the real father never stepped up! Although we are divorced we have remained friends, he loves my daughter, and is even planning on coming down for my college graduation with my best friend. Anything is possible as long as the man knows the situation and is open to it. | |
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