| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being "stalked" so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 3:44:49 AM | Yeah....DUH!!
Ok folks.......this is the 3rd man in the past year how has said he couldn't give me his home number or his cell number because he is being "stalked" by a former lover. One was a former wife.
I told him that was a line. He didn't like that answer and denied it was so.
So...the guy seems really nice...but I keep getting this gut feelings that something isn't right in fairly land.
How about the guys that told me they had cancer and only a few months to live......to sleep with me mind you.....and then.....poof, they disappeared, but I always ran into them years later. No cancer.
I just want to know how can one man new man can have TWO women "stalking" him at the same time. Doesn't that mean HE is creating this kind of turmoil.
I remember I had a boyfriend once where we fought all the time because it was like he gave too much at times and then he would pull far, far away. (typical Gemini)....but I am too sensitive for that kind of roller coaster.And it drove me batty!! I adore harmony thank you.
So the guy could be great....and he may not be married....but I also said if he is being stalked then I am putting myself in danger with a lunatic stalkern eh?
So men.......what do you think? I don't want to judge...but this kind of stuff scares me. He told me my inution was wrong...and honey....after hearing that my whole life and practically having a nervous breakdown from a ex who contantly told me I was wrong in my perceptions....I think I will stick with my gut. and forget hit,
And hey buddy...if you read this...really sorry...but I can't get over this type of situation. It just seems a bit weird for me. Get it taken care of....then call me.
Could is possible be completely true???
What to you think people?? I really want to know!! | |
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marol
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Joined: 10/28/2005
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 4:21:57 AM | karenlee,
he couldn't give me his home number or his cell number because he is being "stalked" by a former lover
This fails the "smell test". In what universe does that make any sense? 
one man... TWO women "stalking" him at the same time. Doesn't that mean HE is creating this kind of turmoil.
Intuitively... YES! Perhaps he believes having stalkers makes him more desirable. 
What do I think? I concur...
something isn't right in fairly land
Run don't walk. | |
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 4:29:52 AM | OMG............I smell MARRIED or at the very least PLAYER.........
Rule of thumb ladies...no numbers....no talk!!
Cancer.........well they would be way to busy
looking after themselves to be on POF, trying
to get laid or anything else for that matter.
Instincts are ALWAYS right...................
If a man is being stalked and they have his numbers, he will
get it changed quickly....if he doesn't want to give it because
of past experiences, well then....make sure there are things
you can verify about him before you make a committment
to meet him....besides, if that's the real case they wouldn't
be as inclined to be on here in the first place now would they!
RUN RUN RUN..... ......as fast and as far as your little feet can
take you........and don't stop till you get a number!!! lol
Just my advice!  | |
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TishaG
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Joined: 11/13/2005
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Joined: 2/21/2006
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 7:52:23 AM | Sounds like a guy I know on here..........very familair.....He is just looking for sex off here....and refuses to give his number because he don't want any femaLES CALLING HIM...lol
a guy off here gave his resturuant number .. told me so he could be protected from the pcyhco's..( the doors are always locked there you buzz to get in..)
But never his cell...........
I say run away from anyone who says he is stalked ....they are 100% lying to u  | |
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 8:06:07 AM | | Sounds like he is not only lying, but trying to build himself up to be some kind of overwhelmingly desireable man that other women can't resist, just to boost his own ego. Funny how many guys try that one. If it were even true, and he were living in such great fear, most would want other people around for protection/witnesses. | |
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 9:00:02 AM | Hi Karen,
I think your guts are telling you right. Some guys find fulfillment in one night stands, temporary relationships, etc. No guy truly fears being stalked by a female, no matter how much in reality he is being stalked, because it's against his ego to think such. It's probably just a line that many "playas" have found works, because women in our society have been introduced to the very irrational fear that "stalking" is very commonplace in our society. It is one of the feminist mantra propagations to convince women that their sexual identitiy in the past has always involved having to be the victims; assaulted for years by a man's unchecked testosterone, and sadly, most women buy this demagoguery without question.
Because this fear that men have stalked women as part of their masculine identity is irrational, and no such evidence exists to ascertain it, women must burrow themselves very deeply into this paradox that men stalking women is all that commonplace. Since this amounts to no more than glandular reasoning, and involves no real evidence to support it, women find themselves in the position that they must religiously keep their dander up towards any men who show them any genuine interest, no matter how frustrated and lonely they are. But a clever, industrious "playa" will always find a way around this self-erected barier, taking advantge of not only a woman's lonliness, Karen, but a woman's self-destructive ostracism of the masculine sex.
Another argument that seems to clasp this into place would be that men and women's roles in life need to be gender-neutral. Since women are always suckers for the hucksterisms of equal treatment, they embrace the egalitarian fantasy that equality means like-treatment. Because of this, women are automatically induced into believing that men can be "stalked" by women as well. As long as women cling irrationally to these two equivocations, "playas" will always find a way around the walls that women have put up around themselves like the theiving jackals that they are, while leaving the honest, decent, and caring men out of their lives.
Karen, I just don't know how to tell you this any plainer. I don't sugar-coat anything for anybody anymore, because #1 it is a complete waste of my time, which seems to be getting more precious all the time, and #2 I owe allegiance to no one but myself, since I have no wife that drags me around by my disproportionate sex drive. It doesn't mean I won't stick my neck out for someone else, and give them an opinion. It just means that the coexistence of emotion with logic hasn't been married up in my life. I don't know if you find this offensive or not, but at this juncture I really don't care. It was you who posed the question. | |
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~iiCe~
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Joined: 7/26/2005
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 9:14:35 AM | | Actually, men can be stalked. My friend was, and had to come stay at my house for a while. Made me a little nervous, but he was my friend. This wierd chick not only vandalized his cars and home, she contacted his employer and anyone else she could find a number for. He even got an irate call from his mother asking why she hadn't been invited to the wedding, and at least his "wife" had the decency to call and let her know. One night he and I went out to play pool and she came into the bar and started up with me thinking I was her competition or something. Apparently she had chased off a lot of his previous dates with this same behavior. Me, I just laughed at her, started hanging on him, and made her crazy enough to do something really stupid, which landed her in jail. Point is, it DOES happen to men once in a while, I just don't believe that this guy has 2 women after him at once. If he actually does he is too stupid for not having found a way to put an end to it, which would also make him a write off in my book. | |
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:41:24 AM | No Phone=Huge Red Flag!!!! The internet is a place you need to be cautious, but if he's taking it to that extent he needs to get off of the internet. There is a very fine line between cautious and paranoid, he crossed it a long time ago.
If he's not comfortable enough to give you a phone#, it means at best he doesn't trust you/has serious baggage, at worst....well everyone else has gone there already. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:52:47 AM | He's married, Hell I have been stalked and to a point still am being followed around this site. But I was still able to give my number out. I didn't stop incoming calls from anyone. This is a line where he doesn't want you to call him just in case someone else picks up the phone. Have you been to his house ? knows where he lives ?
A friend of mine was seeing a guy, he was very interested in her, but he never gave any info out. One day they are at a mall and he buys a second cell phone, just so she can call him -- bells are a ring'in. Anyhow she found out where he lived, decided to surprise him and low and behold, his wife is out front doing some work on the flowers. Got his home phone number, called the house, while parked in front of it, wife goes running into the house to get the phone and she tells her while breathing heavy " Can you tell &%^%& that I have started without him OH GOD OH GOD !!!! tell him I need him here right OHHHHHHHHH NOW !!!! "
10 mins later he shows up home, wife rips him in front of the house, he looks over the wife's shoulder and see's my friend in her car laughing her head off.
Married men are married and I will say - AS STUPID AS HELL !!! | |
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/12/2006 3:55:09 PM | Well, if it's not true, you don't want to talk to him because he's a huge liar and most likely is juggling a number of women.
If it's true, you don't want to talk to him because if he has a stalker and he's that afraid of her, you should be afraid too. You don't want to wake up and find [insert name of your pet here] boiling on the stove do you?
Hopefully in the future, you'll have no problem telling guys "Wow, that's a shame. I hope everything works out for you" and then going on your merry way when they tell you something that smells fishy. | |
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| Is he just not that into you if he says he is being stalked so I can't have his number?
Posted: 3/15/2006 3:07:31 AM | Some people are naturally cautious and suspicious. Some take everything at face value, and see the best in everyone..fortunatley or unfortunatly i am this type. I wasted many years ignoring signs. whilst watching my friends..giving thier guys hell..for no obvious reason.. mine continued to take me for granted..thiers cam back for more abuse.
So which type gets the respect?
Try not to be an easy target... for this type of *** hole.
TRUST your gut instinct everytime. If he has nothing to hide..he will reasure you and be there for you with honesty. If its comlicated..dont go there, lifes too short! good luck. | |
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