| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 12:14:48 PM | My best friend of 25 years started dating this guy last fall. Since then she has gone from being a wonderful mother, a great friend, a good housekeeper, and a ton of fun to;
Leaving her kids alone all the time and lying about where she is and when she will be home, she doesn't show up to pick them up and do things for them when she says she will, she doesn't call any of her friends, her house looks like a hurricane hit it, and she is neglecting all of her other responsibilities. Whenever a group of us invite her out, she brings her love-interest along, and all they do is grab each other everywhere, I mean pecker, crotch, tits, ass, they have their tongues down each other's throats. It is disgusting the noises that they make, groaning and heavy breathing. I had them over to my boyfriend's for supper, between my boyfriend and I we have 4 children from 13yrs to 3yrs, as well as we had other family and friends over with their children. All they did was grab each other and make out. I find it very disrespectful to do this in public, all of my other girlfriends and their friends have decided that we are too umcomfortable with this around our children. We are embarrassed when we go out to the point that we do not want to ask her to join us. As her best friend I have tried to tell her that make out sessions in front of the children is unacceptable! Their constant groping makes everyone edgy... but she doesn't seem to understand.. What can I do (short of Beating her over the head with a cast iron frying pan) to get her to see that she is destroying her relationship with her children, her friends and her family (which is MY Family cuz we pretty much adopted her 25 years ago) for this SLEAZY GUY, who doesn't respect her enough to keep his hands out of her PANTS in public, and that he treats her like a trashy whore(and is making her look like one too) | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 12:21:32 PM | All you can really do is tell her honestly that "they" are making everyone uncomfortable. That you love her and will be there for her, but seeing as she can't respect the fact that her childish behaviour is upsetting everyone, you will be happy to either have her come to events alone, or you will call her when this guy kits the dust...and we all know he will.
I guess everyone gets a "be goofy" for a while free card. and she's cashing her's in right now. I would do everything for the children. Invite them to function without her. Say, something like, hey, we don't have to worry about their behaviour....and goodness only know they need a little normal in their lives right now. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 12:37:05 PM | Yes, but how do you help her to see what she is doing?? This isnt like her at all..
I mean.. She screwed him on the couch in front of her children! | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 12:43:42 PM | You cannot change your friends behavior.
Felanie, it sounds like you communicated your thoughts and opinions about your friend's behavior to your friend. If she does respect your rules in your house, do not invite her to your house.
Sounds like she's real needy of attention. Don't give her any. Distance yourself from her. If she asks why, tell her that her behavior when she is around her boy toy is discomforting, and that you won't feel like being around her until she either changes her behavior or discards her boy toy.
It's too bad she would throw her 25 year friendship away just to continue to act like an ass in public. That's sad.  | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 12:46:43 PM | Felanie,
Your friend is insane. I know some pretty eccentric people but no one what would have sex in front of kids.
That is "call child protective services" time. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 12:49:45 PM | I can't.. I am so dumbfounded by this behaviour, I can't imagine what is possessing her,
I would like to do something about her children, but I can't have them taken away from her. I love her, she is my best friend and I would do anything for her. I just don't know how to proceed. I don't know if she thinks I am just trying to be mean when I tell her that behavior is unacceptable, or if she truely thinks she isn't doing anything wrong | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 1:05:42 PM |
I can't imagine what is possessing her
Drugs? Your story sounds alot like what happened to a good friend of mine, it was like she changed overnight. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 1:10:32 PM | dont take this wrong but your best friend sounds a little sleezy herself....
as she is going right along with the program.
so there is nothing you can do.
its her business.
If it offends you, stay away from her until they break up | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 1:20:07 PM |
I can't.. I am so dumbfounded by this behaviour, I can't imagine what is possessing her,
I would like to do something about her children, but I can't have them taken away from her. I love her, she is my best friend and I would do anything for her. I just don't know how to proceed. I don't know if she thinks I am just trying to be mean when I tell her that behavior is unacceptable, or if she truely thinks she isn't doing anything wrong
I’m sorry but that’s complete crap. What she is doing is CHILD ABUSE. You know about it and by keeping silent you are guilty too. These kids don’t deserve this. It would be completely different if children weren’t involved but they are. Grow a backbone and REPORT her. It’s clearly the wakeup call she needs. If she still refuses to do anything then obviously she doesn’t deserve to have those kids.
There’s something else I want you to think about. Child molesters frequently test the limits before they act to see if it will be easy to get away with it. Do you really want to be responsible when this guy acts on it? I’m telling you it’s not a question of if he will act on it but rather when.
If you think I’m being overly harsh then so be it. Someone needs to think about the children. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 1:22:36 PM | | OMG.. do you really think so? The girls and I were talking about him and we all think he is creepy and he reminds all of us of a child molester!!!!!! I just thought this was some kind of fancy, cuz we all think he is disgusting. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 2:04:13 PM | | We are all presuming it was sex, they were under the blankets on the couch, and both of their pants were on the floor, they couldn't get up to greet us until they put their pants on. Yet her 13 yr old daughter was there on the other side. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 2:07:51 PM | I'm with gothy on this one too. She needs a reality check and that might just be the way to give it to her. They will take them and they will give them back and check to make sure they're doing allright. Having sex in front of your kids is most certainly child abuse. If you love her then do her that favor! Offer to take them until she can get them back.
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 2:21:47 PM | OMG.. do you really think so? The girls and I were talking about him and we all think he is creepy and he reminds all of us of a child molester!!!!!! I just thought this was some kind of fancy, cuz we all think he is disgusting.
Just report her. I wouldn't give her a warning. She'll cover her tracks and that won't solve anything. I know far more about abuse than anyone should ever have to. I’ve worked for CPS and I’ve seen firsthand within my family the toll abuse takes on children.
The point is; do you really want to take the chance that I could be wrong? Someone has to think like a mature, rational adult and it certainly isn’t her. If the father of the children is involved in their lives the kids will go to him or another responsible family member. She needs a slap in the face so she starts thinking like a mother and NOT like a hormone. When you make the choice to have kids you HAVE to put them first and your social life has to take a back seat to. It’s a pity some people don’t get that and it’s horrifying that children frequently have to pay for their parent’s lack of judgment and overwhelming selfishness.
I didn’t have much of a social life until 3 years ago when my daughter turned 16. I chose to bring her into the world so it was my responsibility to make sure she came first. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 3:14:26 PM | | You feel she is dating a sleaze, yet he isn't just doing the things you find sleazy on his own, she is doing them equally, therefore they are both sleazy in my mind. Maybe it took someone like him to bring the real person out in her. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 3:20:41 PM | I would never have thought she was a sleaze after 25 years of being best friends.
This is NOTHING like her. I have never seen her this .... almost brainwashed.....
None of our friends can believe this is her...It isn't making any sense. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 3:37:57 PM | She needs her head examined...
The call to the proper people may be a thing you need to do.
Also if you can get her alone try to talk to her for a second and let her know that she is making this big mistake an she is going to loose so much for this LOOSER!!! Try to remind her of who she used to be
Then you need to turn and walk . The next move is hers, and if she screws that up then do what is best for the kids.... | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 4:05:02 PM | archdemon it's right it is time to call child protective services
you say that she is dating this guy who is a "sleaze" but she is one her self if she let's him do all of that in front of the children and everybody else
you need to bring her back to reality | |
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