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 cst27

Joined: 1/28/2005
Msg: 1
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/2/2005 2:34:22 PM
We males the Good ones we are invisble , each girl who looks at us looks past us not at us , they seem find one treat them wrong , beat them up , take their money , yell at them with passion and than tell them they love them and do it all over again.

what is Term Good man , is it being loyal and faithful , is it Caring and Loving, is it being Charming and romantic , being understanding and show Love compassion , to express are interself , being Honest and Foward even though we make mistakes , and we are not Perfect but ones who does the damage gets the woman well we wait on the side line rotting away wondering fi we be alone for rest of are lives , i do understand there are guys out there does the same they are no diffrent those who does it to us the Good men that go out there way to be evrrything they can be than be sorry one and lazy ones that can;lt seem make life has it is , to hide underneith their bad selfs and to destroy some one else life to make their better, and for woman who uses guys for sex toy or money need to find one of the those who treats every one like crap and se how it feels , but woman out there seeks these good men to keep looking we are out there.
 Fifi47

Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 2
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Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/2/2005 2:37:34 PM
Good men are not invisible. Good women DO NOT like the men you described, since we have more self-esteem than to let a man treat us that way. Seems as if good men are always saying that good women like bad men, but the good men don't seem to like us good women.
 Missy

Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 3
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/2/2005 2:47:52 PM
Maybe its a case of wanting the badboy that's really a goodguy deepdown...just like a guy wants a goodgirl that knows when the time is right to be a badgirl.
 sirniceguy

Joined: 2/9/2005
Msg: 4
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/11/2005 2:51:43 AM
they can only see whats in their heart and what they want to see.
therefore a good man is invisable ,its natures way of protecting the nice guys!!!!.
no great loss so why worry about it
 Missy

Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 5
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/11/2005 6:27:25 AM
Good men are not invisible, neither are good women and NOBODY is perfect.
If you feel that you are invisible, maybe its time you looked at the reasons why you feel that way and do something about it.
 shadowdweller

Joined: 12/20/2004
Msg: 6
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 3:26:32 PM
Good men ARE in fact invisible. We are all over the place. We shop the same malls and grocery stores you do. But when we try to approach you because we think you are a nice, fun person, we are given a brush off that could cure dandruff. That's why I do not approach women any longer. If they want to talk to me, the chance I will brush them off is small as opposed to vice-versa.

All the good women I have ever known have ended up with the 'bad boy'. Why? Is it because he's gonna be more willing to sleep with you on demand? Throw money around like it's going out of style? Because he's a challenge: You know he's a good guy, but you want to attempt (read: waste your time) to bring that sub-atomic speck of goodness to the surface? Yeah? Good luck.

In my random observations, I find that the above case is more common with women in their 20's to mid-thirties. After 35, most women are looking for next to any guy to settle down with. I know this because I have many friends between 25 and 50 who I observe whenever I'm out with them. My friends don't have as many problems with committment as I do, which makes it fun to watch.
 hapcamp

Joined: 2/8/2005
Msg: 7
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 3:34:28 PM
You can buy special glasses that let you see the invisible men. They are advertised in the back of comic books like the x-ray specs for seeing through clothing.
 Sundown32

Joined: 12/25/2004
Msg: 8
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 4:35:27 PM
There are alot of us good men out here bud. Have you checked out some of the things these shallow girls are saying on the forum ? Anyway I found a geat gal here at plentyoffish.com and I intend to make good on everything I said to her. shes a wonderfull
person and I hope you can find one like her.
 klakalou

Joined: 9/3/2004
Msg: 9
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 6:32:36 PM
hey im a good guy. in terms of respect, discipline, manners, and the like. ive been single my whole life, and i dont see that changing anytime soon...but then agan i live near detroit, and theres nothing but trash over here
 Fid Copya

Joined: 1/13/2005
Msg: 10
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 6:49:36 PM
I was going to post, but Missy said it best in msg#5.
I'm a good guy and I'm sure as heck not invisible.
Looks like I posted after all.
 RainKing

Joined: 9/29/2004
Msg: 11
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 6:50:51 PM
I believe the invisible part comes from hesitation to approach those ladies you are interested in. I know all about being brushed off like cat hair. I learned very early on that I will never earn conquest (relationship not domination) through a well planned offense. My best bet has always been to throw up a wonderfully weak defense and let them come through.

In other words, let them make the first move. Very passive I know, but it has worked for me. I'm not invisible...I'm in stealth mode.
 miss music

Joined: 1/18/2005
Msg: 12
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Two possibilities come to mind.
Posted: 2/12/2005 6:55:51 PM
One possibility: Maybe some men who think they are "good" men are as self-deluded as some of those "GREAT" singers out there who audition for "American Idol". Thus, they can't understand why all the women of the world aren't at their feet, adoring. They can't understand why all the women of the world aren't saying "WOW! You are SUCH a GREAT guy."

Another possibility: Maybe the definition of "good" is relative. Thus, one woman may think you're a "good" man but another might not. So, again, you don't get noticed by some women.
 Fid Copya

Joined: 1/13/2005
Msg: 13
Two possibilities come to mind.
Posted: 2/12/2005 7:05:39 PM
YAWT!

@miss music: You know I like you and I know that you're totally hot for my bod, but for some strange reason I find myself actually agreeing with you to some degree. ;)

I think it's people who are timid and perhaps actually aren't very interesting who say that they are the 'good guys'. I'll go so far as to say that many 'good guys' are more insecure and clingy than others. The comparison is often to abusers or other 'bad guys' - that's too b&w for me. So sure, a person can be a 'good guy' since they're basically innocuous - doesn't mean that they're any more interesting than biege paint on an ecru wall.
 squeak365

Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 14
Two possibilities come to mind.
Posted: 2/12/2005 7:12:03 PM
A good man is in the eyes of the beholder....

One woman's GOOD MAN is another woman's OK MAN...

In other words, what a guy sees as A GOOD MAN may be totally different from what the woman he is looking at thinks is a good man...

Squeak =\./=
 RainKing

Joined: 9/29/2004
Msg: 15
Two possibilities come to mind.
Posted: 2/12/2005 7:18:49 PM
Exactly! Don't judge a book by its cover.

It's not the cover but the content that makes a man. This doesn't help you with the invisible part of your question, but maybe you will be happy with the woman that has the time to find out what you are all about.
 squeak365

Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/12/2005 7:20:51 PM
This does not happen to just guys either...I have felt invisible for years...finally I just decided I am going to be myself and if noone comes along, I am ok with that...altho I really truly do want someone in my life...

Squeak =\./=
 gooberDanny

Joined: 12/14/2004
Msg: 17
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Two possibilities come to mind.
Posted: 2/12/2005 7:27:31 PM
Amen Squeak... well said. If you think you are invisible I believe there is a reason for it. Its pretty easy to make yourself visible if you do something like walking around with no clothes on... lol. You will DEFINITELY get attention if you try hard enough. I believe assertiveness (though not always) will get you where you want in life. I really think that we allow ourselves to become visible, so just do it bro!! Peace
-Danny-
 squeak365

Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 18
Two possibilities come to mind.
Posted: 2/12/2005 8:32:45 PM
do something like walking around with no clothes on...

hard enough




These two comments in the same post...woohoo...

I just hadda....

Squeak =\./=
 RainKing

Joined: 9/29/2004
Msg: 19
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Posted: 2/12/2005 8:48:53 PM
LOL. That would make you anything but invisible. Or would it? Sorry....Slap me down now!
 stormycs

Joined: 11/14/2004
Msg: 20
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Why good guys are invisible
Posted: 2/12/2005 9:25:30 PM
It's nothing more than a numbers game. The "Bad Boys" keep approaching women until they get one. They know that mostof the time, they'll crash and burn. While a nice guy, when he gets the brush-off, is like "How can she do that? She doesn't know anything about me!!" and get depressed, and don't approach another woman for the next month.
 Fid Copya

Joined: 1/13/2005
Msg: 21
Why good guys are invisible
Posted: 2/12/2005 9:29:25 PM
Bingo! Circle gets the square.

Practice makes perfect and helps build confidence.
Another trick is to assume rejection before asking but not feel bad or care much about it.
Take the rejection with the same feeling as you'd have if the corner store was sold out of your brand of gum.
 SMITTY75

Joined: 11/6/2004
Msg: 22
Why good guys are invisible
Posted: 2/12/2005 10:16:05 PM
Thats easy to say but what if your shy too! After being rejected you might have a hard time to get the courage to ask someone for there number!
 malstyne

Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 23
Are Good men Invisble
Posted: 2/12/2005 11:28:32 PM
Lots of good men have no self esteem and women don't like that at all. You might be looking at the wrong aspect of the problem.
 CEC93013

Joined: 12/28/2004
Msg: 24
Are Good men Invisble???*J*???
Posted: 2/13/2005 1:35:27 AM
YES GOOD MEN ARE INVISIBLE TOO YOU!!!*J*!!!
 jimi77

Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 25
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Are Good men Invisble???*J*???
Posted: 2/13/2005 1:51:24 AM
dragonn sounds like you you hit a home run with that post.. i agree
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