| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:23:14 PM | I see a lot of people in here complain that they are alone.
What if someone told you you would die if you didn't meet someone within a year.
I think a lot of us wait way to long to really find the right person.
We take very few risks, I won't lie, I want to go out with this girl from this site, but am I really trying everything possible to meet her? 'nope'
So in the end it's really our problem that we have no one with us, so I'll stop complaining and hopefully you will too :)
Life should be about taking risks and going for things that might scare us, maybe something great will come out of it. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:27:01 PM | There are 3 magical words in life. Simply put GO FOR IT!
Life is about taking risks, doesn't matter if it is in business, friendship, love, or even having children. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.. Every time we get up in the morning, we should view life as an adventure, we will make mistakes, but we should learn from those mistakes, and keep moving forward. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:29:14 PM | Yeah, but some of us need to really try harder.
I mean I know someone who was 28 'my age' and would complain that she never found anyone. Now she's 40+ and still alone.
She just doesn't try hard enough, doesn't go out...
I think I will try harder 'starting ...........
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:33:52 PM | I'm not entirely afraid to be alone....in fact this is the first time that I am actually on my own to find out about....me.
I think it's a matter of not settling for just anyone in order to resolve the loneliness. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:34:06 PM | It's true, what Patrick says. We complain that we are all alone, we don't like being alone, we WANT someone to cuddle with us watching late night TV after the kids have gone to bed. But do we reply to those messages we get from "jane" on PoF? Or do we send the message to "Joe" that we keep on our Favorite list but never mail too.
Why do we do this?
Cause we don't try.
I'm gonna keep on tryin.
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:34:48 PM | | Most people on these sites really don't have a clue on how to meet and keep a good relationship..most have issues and baggage too great to keep a relationship going..I have friends on this site and it seems that the more they try...the more they become disenchanted with the cyber singles ..they end up going bowling, playing cards..etc..I am but an observer... | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:39:22 PM | I don't neccessarily equate being alone with lonliness...
If I were to meet somone who really interested me,then ,yes,I'd try my best to keep a relationship going.
But,remember,it takes two people,both willing to make this effort. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:39:28 PM | What if your happier alone?
Before the ex came into my life, i was perfectly satisfied with my life. I was happy being single and happy being who i was.
She came into my life, without me even looking, just showed up. And now i have to work to get back to where i was before, happy being single.
I don't "try" because i don't want to force anything to happen. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. If i am supposed to be alone, i guess that's what i will have to deal with. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:40:54 PM | I could be wrong......it's happened before.......but I really think that if
you can't be happy alone........you probably won't be happy in a relationship
either.......there's a big difference in wanting "someone" to be with, and
wanting "the right someone" to be with. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:41:53 PM | hmm happier alone? no such thing.
Tell me that when you're 60, tell me that you are happy alone.
It's great to have someone next to you, especially later on at life.
But it's harder to meet the older you get.
So sooner is better. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:46:23 PM | I think as you get older, it's more important to have good friends and to keep active. I like the freedom of living on my own that I'm not sure if I could ever have another person living in the same space I do. Yikes that doesn't sound too good  | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:55:39 PM | That does sound kind of wierd.
Not so much "happier being alone" as much as happy with myself.
I keep myself busy, keep things on the up and up. When i am 60, my 6 year old will be 36, she will have dumped me in a home by then, and have taken all my money.
I can't say that my relationship made me happy, it added to my life and made me happier, put that extra glide in my stride. But my life won't end without that relationship being there, as much as i thought it would. It's sad that it ended, and i truly hate the way it ended, i wish it were different, but, that's the way it's got to be i guess.
Most of it is due to my negative attitude towards woman at this point. I am thoroughly convinced that i am intended to be single. It doesn't bother me a bit. The only time it bothers me is when i am fresh out of a relationship, and miss the idea of spending my life with someone. That's when i am upset about being alone.
I come here, and i rarely do a "search" for a woman. I mostly read the forums, simply because wit and sarcasm are two things i like, so if i see them being witty or sarcastic in a thread, i will check them out.
The forums are fun sometimes, but i guess i kind of get depressed constantly seeing things like "Nice guys finish last" or "Why are men such a**holes?". I'm a nice guy, and i know i am not going to finish last in this race of life. And I am not an a**hole unless i want to be.
It's just wierd i guess, i find humor in life. The worst thing you can do is tell God all your plans, he'll just laugh. What's going to be is going to be, there isn't anything i can do about it. Forcing a relationship isn't going to make things work any better. I will take the risk when i want to, when i want to get to know someone better. But for now, i am just happy being by myself.
What sounds really bad is i come on here, read what some of the guys say, like you Patrick, and think "Man, that guy would be cool to drink with!" I guess i visit a dating site more to find friends than i do find a lover. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 6:23:08 PM | | I am on a self-imposed dating hiatus. Tried one rebound and it was a disaster. Totally my fault. Oddly though, I find it easier to meet new people when I take away the whole dating mystique. I can relax and not worry about where its going. Things happen more naturally. I meet new people and never worry about the sting of rejection. Plus I can appreciate who someone is rather than how they would fit into my life. It rocks. Very liberating. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 6:25:52 PM | | you almost have to be thick skinned to date. Because until you find the right one, it's all about rejecting someone or being rejected. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 6:33:49 PM | | Can we really blame people for not trying harder? So much rif-raf out there... I'm sure it gets tiring and down rite annoying. I remember being in a relationship that sucked and feeling alone.. and I remember leaving that relationship and just being on my own alone... the on my own alone was 100% better than the former. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 6:38:44 PM | | kaos, I couldn't have said it better. I was in a sucky relationship also and now I'm on my own and I love it! I suppose that's why I don't understand the desperation I see here. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 6:43:30 PM | | Patrick, I don't talk to anyone I don't want to meet and soon. You really can't tell if you like someone online until you meet them in person. You are just wasting your time and mine if you don't want to meet soon. It is better to meet and know for sure, then if it is not right, you are free to move on to someone else. Guys, it is worth going an extra mile or two, driving a little bit, even flying to meet someone, you could be passing up just the perfect woman. The worst you can wind up with is a good friend. | |
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