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 Verissa
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 1
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I've met a wonderful man. I find myself falling deeper and deeper. He is everything I never knew I always wanted. And yet we haven't met face to face. Is it...even plausible...to fall in love without ever meeting someone? The thought of their touch burns you up, the thought of their kiss makes your knees weak...and oh my, the thought of holding them in your arms is too good to be true. I tell him my weaknesses and he makes me feel strong. I tell him my faults and he thinks that they are cute and I'm wonderful. How can someone make you so happy and fulfilled when you've never laid eyes on one another? Is it possible?

 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 2
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:32:24 PM
NO...it is not. Sorry...simple answer. Sadly...I'll get my ass handed to me for this one..but until you touch the person..they are nothing more than a fantasy. You can develop feelings for someone..but keep in mind...it takes a physical connection before you know for sure it is true love.

Let the bashing begin :)
 all about laughs
Joined: 4/18/2005
Msg: 3
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:32:41 PM
I do beleive it can happen... and what a way for it to happen... getting to know someones personality that much that you fell in love with them... I would have to say that is very cool...

Best of luck and hope it works out for you guys...
 Garf
Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 4
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:35:35 PM
Who knows.

It's possible, but it's incredibly unlikely.

Stranger things have happened, I would suppose.
 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 5
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:38:20 PM
No bashing from me Smile, I agree with you. I think you can get to know someone, find you're compatible, feel alot of the same feelings, but until you actually meet them, you just never know if you'll have chemistry... if you even connect on a real-life level. The net is just so shitty for that.
 nembatha
Joined: 5/5/2005
Msg: 6
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:38:36 PM
nope :) untill you meet them
 darkcloud
Joined: 11/20/2005
Msg: 7
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:40:35 PM
ok verissa, we have a yes, a no, and a maybe

take your pick, and follow your heart.
 optimistichappylady
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 8
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:42:14 PM
Yes it can and does happen. I know first hand. You know everyone is so against online dating but think about it. If you live a distance from each other and cannot immediately meet you do what? You talk. You talk probably far more than someone who you would normally date. In depth conversations that give you the time to learn to love the person from the inside, not from the outer shell as you usually would.

The person I am talking about though turned out to be a conartist. I did not find this out until long after we met in person and eventually moved in together. (spent 1 1/2 yrs together)

So though I say yes it can happen, I also caution you to keep your eyes wide open because usually the things that seem too perfect to be true generally are.
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 9
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:43:49 PM
I just wanted to wish you well. Yes, I am taking the easy road and avoiding the question.
I missed the part about how long this "relationship" was and why the two of you never met.
Carrie
 Iron Wolf
Joined: 10/11/2004
Msg: 10
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:44:02 PM
Make that two maybe's. I'm trying it now, & also very unsure of how it's working.
 squirrly
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 11
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:44:39 PM
you are missing a vital piece of the puzzle....the part that you use all your senses for. I saw a scientific study on the chemistry of love and evidently smell is one of the biggest things which triggers something in the brain.

I do believe you can find compatibility and like-mindedness which can be really wonderful because its the part of love with stays forever since the physical part will change with time. Still, you need to physically connect too and that is not a sure thing just from finding you connect mentally.
 figment
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 12
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:47:02 PM
Dumbass.

Of course it is - look at any guy and his porn.
 arlie1969
Joined: 2/7/2006
Msg: 13
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:48:07 PM
it aint happening,no telling what this person is actually like ,danger will robinson ,danger....
 optimistichappylady
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 14
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:48:33 PM

Dumbass.

Of course it is - look at any guy and his porn.




That would be lust not love.....there is a difference
 graciebella
Joined: 1/17/2006
Msg: 15
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:49:19 PM
I think it is incredible you have met someone you can relate too and find happiness on a soul like level. There is no doubt in my mind that you can fall in love with some before actually meeting them. For me its all about the soul connection without all that sexual stuff that can sometimes get in the way of really knowing how you feel about someone. There's no doubt that can come later... hehe! I wish you complete happiness!
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 16
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:50:45 PM
Well...the other danger is that even though you chat with this person you have no idea what they actually are..and go to some of the threads about liars on here. Not to be a buzzkill..but I've talked to guys who seemed perfect...their pics were nice...until you find out the pic isn't even them...and they look NOTHING like they said they did. When looks shouldn't matter...lies do...so trust me...you need to wait before you profess your love...until you physically meet.

If you meet..and you both click..then let the love happen..but don't put so much pressure on it until you meet..or you are putting him on a level he may not be able to jump up to. Good luck.
 Rouxx
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 17
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:51:18 PM
Nope. I'm with "Smile" on this one.

Is it possible to fall in total FANTASY lust over someone you've never met? YES!

Is it possible to fall in "love" with someone you've never met? YES......because it FEELS like love but is simply total FANTASY lust..........

Do I wish you luck? YES!
 Lost-prodigal
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 18
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:52:25 PM
I have been made into a believer... I hardly believe it myself... but I can not deny how I feel about her. It is so possible to fall in love with someone you have never met.

Just as I would hold reservation to the concept of perfection... this is likely the closest thing I could relate to it. She is "pure" light in my eyes.

What you give plays on... what an Irony.
 ~iiCe~
Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 19
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:57:16 PM
There is only so far you can go with someone without having met them.... I can't love someone whos eyes I have never been able to look into... so much can change when you meet someone in person.. we have all seen the threads on that...
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 20
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:58:53 PM
^^^^^ that's my mantra! Unless I have actually touched you and you I, there will be no words of love spoken.
 Whyspers2u
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 21
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 7:59:55 PM
No. Be infatuated with yes definitely. But love, not possible. Love should be built on respect first and foremost. This involves a time committment. Infatuation however is exactly what you describe - that feeling that this person is so wonderful (does he kick at stray cats?), has no faults (is he the pull the blanket up over your head and fart type?) and is all you dreamed of (does he throw a hissy fit at the teller in the store because he had to wait too long?).
You cannot possibly know this person in their entirety(sp) without meeting them and spending time with them.
 arlie1969
Joined: 2/7/2006
Msg: 22
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 8:01:11 PM
touch me smiles ,touch me^^^^^^^^^
 Verissa
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 23
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 8:11:55 PM
I know that he's not 400lbs and looks like Quassi Modo. We're due to meet in...Count down...14 days! And I'm smitten. That would be the reason I asked for feedback. I've always found that when things seem too good to be true, they usually are. And I, after the hell I went through in my last relationship, should be less optimistic...but something feels right...where every other time something seemed amiss. So if he showed up being 400 lbs looking like Quassi Modo...well it would certainly put a damper on our sex life...and NO Procreation for sure...but I adore him for who he is. Can you fall in love with a person...not a body image? It all goes to your perception of humanity. Ahhhhhhhhhhh...the question is boundless.
I can't imagine the blanket and fart thing, and he is far too patient with me and my hissy fits to be any of the other things...but thats funny. I'm ok looking and he thinks I'm a goddess...I'm a bit insecure and he says thats ok because I'm here and you don't need to worry about my going anywhere..most men would freak if they saw a woman 2 kids never married ever even really lived with anyone and they'd run for the hills...or get that deer on headlights look...OH MY GOD YOU HAVE WHAT? like its a disease to be independant. I'm floored and amazed at the patience this man has had with me for the past few months. I'm a wreck and he calls to tell me I'm perfect...tell me that can't be love..or at least become love?
 Moreno1982
Joined: 11/30/2005
Msg: 24
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 8:16:12 PM
It's possible to fall in love with the characteristics of that person (the IDEAL man/woman), but I don't believe it is possible to fall in love with that person. For example, I am in love with someone right now who doesn't even exist in this world, but who knows, perhaps I will meet that woman, but chances are that I won't.
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 25
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 8:16:27 PM
Ok let me ask you this...what is your biggest turn off?

I'll explain. Mine is gross teeth...green/yellow/metal filled what have you.

I've met guys who were nice...but never smiled in their pics...then you get there to meet them..and they have the jacked up grill...add to that some kicking breath...and you have instant turnoff to me. It's not a shallow thing..it's a eww thing...I don't want your tongue in my mouth if you don't brush your teeth. So..I'm saying...that even though they were rocking my world...after seeing the jacked grill...my world was no longer open to being rocked.

I'm saying be careful...don't fall too quick...keep your head about things. And believe me...I am crossing all my fingers and toes that it works out for you! :)
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