| | do you bring flowers?Page 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | am i just meetin the wrong guys ?...what ever happened to the true gentlemen of the world.. i dont have a problem buyin my own coffee...or even his coffee sometimes...but..since when did men stop bringin flowers?  | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 8:57:46 AM | | I've never brought flowers on a first date; it's cliche and makes you seem deperate. People seem to want casual, no-pressure first dates. Later dates I sometimes bring flowers, but not always as it would just be routine and not something special. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 8:58:18 AM | They haven't stopped. You just haven't been finding the right ones lately. If only they knew how that one little gesture puts them in a brighter light for us. I'm not saying it's the be all and end all....but I personally like it when a man treats me like I'm special and he wants to do something to show how special he thinks I am.
I often bake cookies for them to show them how special I think they are. It's a two way street! | |
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| do you bring flowers?
Posted: 3/22/2006 9:11:15 AM | I am definately up on the 2 way street. I love it when a woman shows that she thinks I'm special and I try to find little things here and there to return the favor.
However I just couldnt do the bring flowers on the first date thing. Later on in the relationship I brought a potted plant, does that count? | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 9:19:56 AM | I'd rather have chocolates or a stuffed animal.
Flowers die. :( | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 9:30:14 AM | Ive met some good guys in my lifetime... and 1 great guy... but flowers were never included with any of them... (maybe its me?)
yup - we like them
yup - they know we do
yup - they may even acknowledge they know we like 'em... want 'em... hope for 'em...
but last time I received flowers "just because" was 3 years ago...
so what can you do? some guys are good with that stuff and some just arent... me thinks most arent... doesnt mean they arent great guys.... just not as thoughtful as we would hope.
as for the first "meet & greet"... treating for a coffee is good enuf
as for the first "date" (whichis the second meeting)... even just a daisy would be sweet.
but that how women think. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 9:38:14 AM | maybe you could mention it to "him" on a 3rd date, when letting more of yourself be known...
Most men tend to ask about past relationships (ie- how did you get to this point) and that's a great time to mention about how some particular guy didn't have that "thoughtfulness" of giving flowers, just because he felt like it...(amongst the other things he wasn't or didn't turn out to be).
This lets potential "your guy" material know what you like in a relationship without sounding like you are demanding anything. You can also mention how you do similar things for your man.
 BTW - at least every couple of weeks a big bouquet of flowers end up in the house for my lady!...just because i wanted to let her know she means something to me | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 9:43:47 AM | I wouldn't want flowers but it would be nice to have a woman bring me a boquet of wrenches or something .......  | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 9:47:55 AM | | I wouldn't bring flowers on a first date especially if its the first time you are meeting someone off the internet. I have learned that many are not in person what they portrayed themselves as on the internet. There have been some where you meet for a coffee and I stay just as long as it takes to drink the coffee as I am polite and just can't up and run even though I have wanted to (amazing how fast I drink that coffee that day, lol). Some call the first meeting a date while I and others called it a first meeting to see if there is going to be a date. I will say this that if I am dating someone I do like to bring them flowers with little thoughtful notes inside but I do it out of the blue when they are not expecting it. There is many other little thoughtful things i do too as the relationship gets more serious. Anyways I just like to go with the flow and take things as the come. I am in no hurry to jsut jump into a relationship just to not be alone. Have a good day all... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 10:09:13 AM | | if meeting off the net: no flowers first date, If known eachother fr a bit before first date and the girl is someone who genuinely appreciates those "little things" maybe a single rose---if she loves it, in the future she gets more flowers and little things. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 10:20:17 AM | For some reason I feel showing up with flowers on a first date sounds to desperate. Maybe its me, but first dates are for feeling each other out. Throwing in gifts or flowers just skews things and possibly could put people off.
I always treat, no going dutch in my book, so I think thats being enough of a gentleman...no??? | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 10:46:51 AM | lol...thanks for all your comments..hints...and suggestions... gotta go bake some cookies..*smiles..and then i guess im off to the florist to buy my own flowers....and some bulk wrenches...lol..*cheeky grin
first meets and first dates are 2 different things...but if there is a second date...or a third perhaps?? im so bringin a wrench...you comin with flowers??
btw...
my favorite color is blue...and i like wild flowers over roses....all time favorite flower is an orchid..but dont expect those (well till you are so totally captivated by me that you want nothing more than to please the lady of your dreams..haha)...as simply said earlier...a daisy would do....pull over to the side of the road and pick one...but not outa that old ladys garden around the corner cus she may have her dogs attack you...haha...
bringing flowers does not mean your desperate...bringing rubbers means your desperate...
take care all.... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 11:03:54 AM | | I have wild flowers in my garden I can cut for you then | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 11:53:15 AM | The last "first date" I went on, he brought me a red rose. I love it. It's half dead, but it will never completely die, as it is in my freezer.
He's NOT desperate...he sweet. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 12:06:04 PM | | flowers on a first date? that would be weird. but they sure are nice later on in the relationship especially when they are for no reason at all. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 12:37:02 PM | | The last guy who brought me flowers saw the horses eat them! Its just me I know, but I would much rather have a gift that reflects me! Bring me a bale of hay or write me a song for Valentines day! I like the thoughtful little things not the same ol stand by that all the gals get!! ........HD.... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 1:03:44 PM | thanks for the hints Jeannie, Now if you'd only do the cofffee date with me. lol I know what you want, how and where to get it, now all I need is a time and a place. Any ideas?.   | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 1:11:37 PM | I have had flowers given to me on a first meeting, it did seem kinda weird.
But one man did it in a way that made it seem really special.
Once we were finished having coffee and chatting, we walked out to our cars and he went to his vehicle and brought out a flower and gave it to me. I thought that was a really good way for him to let me know he enjoyed our time together. It will always be a sweet memory, even though a few days later he decided that we live too far away from each other to date, we have remained chat friends. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 2:06:31 PM | | I'm so glad for this thread! I thought I was the only girl who didn't get flowers "just because" :) I get coffees but what is it with guys and flowers? Like Fluffy said, we like em, ya know we do... but we don't get em? how come??? | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 2:10:58 PM | WOW...a lot of my dates have brought me flowers on the first date
I think it is nice that they do that..
second dates i have also gotten flowers
i think the jesture is sweet... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 2:18:46 PM | I'd probably be a little put off by flowers on a first meeting - mostly because I REALLY don't like the idea of a first meeting as a date, and it makes me nervous when others do.
HOWEVER - I love the idea of 'just because' gestures. Anything from a hug out of the blue to a surprise cup of coffee in between classes to a fistful of buttercups when you're just meeting up for a movie. Ahhh... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 2:19:15 PM | | I do buy flowers but not on a first date. It is one of the ways to show your affection. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 3:25:27 PM | Sir Wisdom, I don't recall you ever buying me flowers..
I have bought flowers, not on the first meeting though...and I have to agree that it is a show of affection. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 3:28:12 PM | I don't think anyone would deserve flowers on a first date, it can create an awkward time when first meeting, getting flowers etc and what if you aren't even attracted to eachother? waste of money.
I did get some pink daisies back in feb from a cute boy on our first meeting, I did blush but it was sweet because we had talked so long and he knew my favourite flowers. But anyone else I can't see bringing me flowers unless I've met them before. | |
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