| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/22/2006 11:56:44 PM | i have been freinds with this girl for a long time and we have both just found our selves with out partners so SHE segested we help each other out and we both disided that it was just that, wasnt going to go any were from just a booty call. now i have found she keeps asken if i want it to go further and asken if i love her and that type off stuff .what the hell do i do on one hand i dont want the booty calls to stop but thats all i want it to be no more. dont want to losse her as a freind eather ???????? | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:06:14 AM | Tell her you have decided to be abstenant...(man i can't even type it with a straight face let alone spell it) that you want to find your inner self...tell her your so glad she is your friend and ask her out for a beer... or you could always go with the I am experminting with the oppsite sex line to... Otherwise your basicaly screwed...get rid of the booty keep the friend, booty is easier to find then friends. GOOD LUCK.. Dancing | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:24:57 AM | Ah, this is a question for the ages... Must be right up there with "is the tooth fairy real" and "does the easter bunny really lay chocolate eggs".
So "y cant a booty call stay a botty call"??? I wish I could tell you the answer to this one mrchev, but my daddy never sat me down for this talk! And if he would have, I'm sure it would have ended in dissapointment and perhaps a few tears on my behalf... But honestly, I'm just happy he told me about the Easter Bunny... I would've hated to have bitten down on one of those "chocolate nuggets" one day only to find out later in life that... this is (u get the idea) | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:42:59 AM | The inevitablity of any booty call or friends with benefits scenario is that someone gets emotionally involved. It sounds like she has gotten that sorry your screwed.
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:45:38 AM | well seriously dude it's not your problem. seems like the terms were already areed with before you even started and now she wants to change the rules. the only thing you can do is be honest with her. if you lose her as a friend because she wanted more, that's not your problem. hopefully you will be able to talk it out and salvage the friendship. best of luck to you. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 12:48:08 AM | | carrie, i've never been in a situation like that, but i think 2 people can have sex and still be friends. i've had friends that have done it and things were fine. really depends on the people and the situation. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 1:00:01 AM | i couldn't do it. that's why i would never try. my emotions and feelings always get rapped up in it. there is no such thing as a booty call for me. you hear people talk and for the most part, that's all it is, is talk. most of them don't have a clue. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:11:43 AM | | mrchev, look her in the eye, and tell her that since your last break-up, you have been incapable of love .. and the only thing stopping you from turning gay, is her loving booty .. tell her she is the best friend and booty a man could wish for .. and that you wish for your friendship to last forever .. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:18:16 AM | | The problem with using other people for just sex is that some people catch feelings. Time to move on and try to let her down gently and maybe she'll remain a friend to you. That's for her to decide, but it seems your mind is made up that you don't want the relationship, so that's better than leading her on and letting her think it means more to you than it does. I'd much rather keep the friendship over the booty call. You got your hand for a quick rub out, but you can't go out and party with your hand like you could a friend. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:22:00 AM | | should've had a talk with her before it got to the point where she's asking if you love her. ya someone will always develop feelings usually it's the woman, but men are not immuned to that either. someone always gets hurt if they don't see it for what it is from the beginning. sometimes it evolves into more, but not often enough for it to be encouraging. you need to be honest with her now and tell her that you care for her as a friend, but you don't feel the physical relationship is more than what it is. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:36:00 AM | | Yes, see I speak from my own experience on this. I had a woman lead me on and let me think that it was love when all I was good for to her was a good f*ck now and then. I finally told her that I couldn't do it anymore cause I wanted/needed more from her and she was gone. So, give up the booty call, move on to another and try to make this one your friend or try to make it work in a romantic sense. Either way, just having sex isn't going to be enough for her at this point and you should, as a friend if you're a decent person, respect her needs too. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:36:37 AM | | watch "when harry met sally"....its not possible to have sex with a friend and not have one feel for the other....just not possible. now it IS possible to have sex with an acquiantance (one whom you know, but do not talk on the phone or hang out with much)...sticky situation you've got...sad to say that the friendship will never be the same, if not ruined. i wish you luck in sorting things out!! | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:54:02 AM | I just gave up my booty call! I wanted more and I gave him an ultimatum. Big mistake? Who knows.
Now I don't get any booty!! Boohoohoo
But to be honest, I wasn't letting my heart open to meet someone that I could get serious with. I decided to go with that choice, and now I'm definitly able to meet someone and try for a the real thing. I think it's better to let her go so she can find herself a soulmate..
That would be the nicest thing you could do for her.. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 7:24:44 AM | cause it all depends on what u did in the booty call relationship. If you cooked dinner together, or allowed eachother to sleep over at eachothers house etc....that is basically what u allow a boyfriend or girlfriend to do so its hard for a woman to not want later on to go deeper or more official.
If you are serious about making it a booty call, you have to leave all hte things that you would do in a real relationship OUT. So first of all a booty call is only really gonna stay a booty call is it is an aquantance not a old friend (since a relationship a deep one has already been there for some time). The idea is to get in and get out, JUST SEX not sleeping over, or cooking romantic dinner before or anything crap like that, or woman and the odd guy will get confused over the relationship. A booty call relationship usualy has to be dealt with in a cold manner, have sex then kick them out the door. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 7:38:44 AM | If you're having sex then you're more than just friends
Personally, I would find it creepy to be having sex with a so-called friend - if I want to have sex it's because I'm hot for someone and I don't have the hots for someone who's just a friend. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:09:10 AM | | You were longgg time friends and then moved to the booty call thing. She already had feelings for you it was bound to come to this. It was doomed from the start. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:11:25 AM | number 1... anyone who asks ...
do you love me or don't you love me?
[ is off base and needs counceling ]
number 2 ... if you think sex without emotionl attachment will just continue
over any length of time ... you need counceling
number 3 ... friendship with women only works until you have a g/f
then it goes on hold
but you better not hold any one of them except the g/f
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