| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 1:34:12 PM | It has been said that men should not in any circumstances ASK for a KISS.
But there is a problem with this. If you don't ask, how do you know if they want it? You could try to read their body language and all, but couldnt that be risky? Couldnt you end up kissing them when they dont want it, or perhaps getting into legal trouble if you kissed the wrong woman while you 2 were on a date?
The same goes with anything, holding hands, kissing, cuddling, touching certain areas, etc.
Maybe asking takes away from the moment or the mood, but it seems it should be necessary.
Also, shouldnt women perhaps be the ones to ask for the kiss, and to make other physical moves? That could make her feel more secure and less intimidated by the man if she's the one doing the asking. See this thread:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3759075.aspx | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 1:37:05 PM | | No, never ask for a kiss.. ya look lame if ya do. Just lean in, if she moves, then yer embaressed for a sec, but atleast you took anitiative. If you ask, then it just looks kinds.. I dunno.. lame.. only my oppinion | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 1:57:37 PM | | Y9ou might think thats sweet, but whats next?? Is it still sweet when he asks if he can go down on you, or when he askes if he can put it in now. Shows a lack of imagination in my humble estimation. Sometimes you gotta just go for it. Ya can't win if ya don't play. | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:01:55 PM | hmm I don't know, but some girls like it when you say.
'come here, let me a kiss'
Now if they slap you it isn't my problem. | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:18:19 PM | | The little things guys do to figure out if they can kiss ya without being rejected add to the intrige for me. Asking for a kiss is like writing and discussing an itenerary before sex and negotiating more foreplay... meh.. | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:46:47 PM |
Maybe later.... never ask for a first one... I perfer my guys to have balls :P
Balls can get you into trouble.
Why would you want to risk making her uncomfortable just so you made yourself look 'courageous'??? | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:49:43 PM | No, never ask for a kiss.. ya look lame if ya do
I disagree. Some of the nicest..warmest..most focused and beautiful kisses I have ever had have come after we were very close and I KNEW that she wanted me to kiss her. Asking her....made her know that I very very very much wished to taste the splendour of her pretty lips...and sensualities. Seriously though...in this....I think "timing" and "tone"...are everything.
This technique seems to work best when you're pretty SURE she wants you to kiss her..but need to solidify the fact that you both desire this super sweet sweet contact.
My heart drops out my stomach when she says "yes" in that ultra breathy feminine way of hers....while her mouth is opening...for me.
mm hmm; I'm a boy who loves a pretty kiss. | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:51:10 PM |
The little things guys do to figure out if they can kiss ya without being rejected add to the intrige for me. Asking for a kiss is like writing and discussing an itenerary before sex and negotiating more foreplay... meh..
But once you two are already an item, its different. You know she wants it from you, so you can kiss her, grab her, and do all that stuff.
I mean its seems smart to ask before your first time doing something. Otherwise, couldnt you face legal trouble? Like what if you 2 were making out, and you reached for her butt and she freaked?
For some people body language and those subtle signals are too complicated.
I disagree. Some of the nicest..warmest..most focused and beautiful kisses I have ever had have come after we were very close and I KNEW that she wanted me to kiss her. Asking her....made her know that I very very very much wished to taste the splendour of her pretty lips. Seriously though...in this..I think "timing" and "tone"...are everything. This technique seems to work best when you're pretty SURE she wants you to kiss her..but need to solidify the fact that you both desire this super sweet sweet contact.
My heart drops out my stomach when she says "yes" in that ultra breathy feminine way of hers....while her mouth is opening...for me.
mm hmm; I'm a boy who loves a pretty kiss.
Why should you wait until you are 'pretty SURE she wants it' before asking? Could you ruin your chances in the future if u were to ask when you "thought she may want it" ?
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 2:58:43 PM | Depends really,but i dont think it wise to ask.You lose spontaneity when you ask....jmo...
Edit:And we all know that women love spontaneity....Right????... | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 3:01:13 PM | I usually ask...
Lets the girl have the chance at refusal... I would hate to move in and have her joly her head or something and break my glasses... then I would be pissed... he he...
I have found that never have I been rejected when asking to kiss... they have thanked me for asking... | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 3:07:53 PM | | I love getting asked for a kiss. There's something very erotic about it. Now, not every time, of course...but that first time. It lets you ponder the thought for a brief moment and gets the heart racing. | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 3:23:01 PM | | I don't like getting asked, it puts me on the spot: "Hmmm-- if I say yes, I'm too easy, if I say no, I'm not gonna get the kiss....". I say go for it and if the woman doesn't want to you can always tell when you're virtually kissing a clam. When I say go for it there is usually a million clues that she's waiting for the kiss, like staring at you or fumbling for keys or biting her lip a bit. Pay attention boys! | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 4:10:48 PM |
But once you two are already an item, its different. You know she wants it from you, so you can kiss her, grab her, and do all that stuff.
I mean its seems smart to ask before your first time doing something. Otherwise, couldnt you face legal trouble? Like what if you 2 were making out, and you reached for her butt and she freaked?
For some people body language and those subtle signals are too complicated.
If you can't read the body language... well... I guess it's safer to ask. I prefer someone who wouldn't but it's not like I'm gonna hate someone who did! I did the last first kissing... teehee.. although I'm good at reading body language...
Guys sometimes wait waaaaayyyyy to long to even ask... I've probably already done the kissin by then... that's just me... and no... i'm not asking... screw that.
Ummmm..... If I'm already making out with someone and they reach somewhere where I don't want them to touch I grab their hand and put it somewhere where it's allowed to be. It it moves back they get told not to do it.... 3 times... well... I don't do slow learners so I'm probably out anyways. :P
I know... it's probably good to be paranoid about date rape and stuff because lots of guys aren't concerned enough and it's a tough tough world to be a sexually active single guy in.... however... it's not hard to figure out when she's not into it if you're paying attention.... but ok ok... if you're dense just ask. | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 5:21:43 PM | When a boy asks to give you a kiss, it's not the least bit lame. It's cute and sweet. And, the woman very rarely say no.
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 5:28:29 PM | I think it's so cute when i a guy asks to kiss or something!! As long as he does it right!! I think that's cute.
I once had a guy say "what would you do if i kissed your right now" and i thought that was super cute!!!  | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 5:37:29 PM | I've always done the pause thing... make it obvious that you are coming in for a kiss, but give her a second or two to pull away if she doesn't want you to.
Sex is another story... I have ALWAYS asked before penetration with someone new, even if the all the obvious signals say "yes". Ya' just can't be too careful  | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 5:49:43 PM |
I find it absolutely charming and adorable when a man asks if he can give me a kiss....yes
I've been asking you for months....I dream of those lips.
 moo | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 6:22:53 PM | I think there's something really sexy about a guy saying "I'd love to kiss you right now"... | |
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| One should not ask for a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2006 6:38:36 PM | I think a man asking for a kiss can be incredibly sexy.
Not that whiny desperate begging, but simple desire combined with good manners.
Oh yes. Me likee. | |
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