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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/27/2006 7:55:04 PM | Like Uberteddy , I would say it would depend on the diability and my own ability to deal with it. Whereas I would like to help, I don't want to be condesending or patronizing about it. This also may sound weird, but many with birth or sever physical disabilities are actually very intimidating to me. The appearance of me backing away from such a situation is more from a sense of helplessness than of revulsion. Lastly I would admitt that this is a purely academic exercise as I have never been in this situation.
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/27/2006 8:02:53 PM | | It would depend here too...I work with the disabled, so wouldn't be willing to date someone who needed a lot of care. That would be like never having a day off if things progressed. I have nothing against disabled people, and actually am friends with a lot of my clients. If it was a slight disability that only entailed use of a crutch/cane or whatever, that's no problem. If it was someone who needed help getting into/out of a wheelchair, or needed to be bathed, etc....then no....I just couldn't do it. | |
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j-roc
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Joined: 5/24/2005
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/27/2006 10:03:22 PM | | For me it would depend on the disability because in a dating relationship I want someone that can go snowboarding, mountain biking and someone that can satisfy me in bed. I don't think I would want to sacrifice those things. On the other hand if I did have a great relationship with someone that i cared for deeply and something happened to make him disabled I'd stand by his side. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/30/2006 9:55:36 AM | My ex was an amputee. He was wounded in the Bosnian war. We dated for over 5 years.
When we met, he had on prosthetics so I didn't really notice. When I asked him to dance, he told me he had didn't have legs.
It was an issue for me in the beginning, because it was not something I had ever given any thought to. When I saw how mobile he was and how independant he had become, it gave me great admiration for him.
It is true that he was not able to participate in a lot of "active" pursuits, but we did do a lot of things together that we both enjoyed.
I know it's hard to believe, but in time ... I did not think of his "disability" when I thought of him. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/30/2006 11:12:11 AM | Depends on the disability. What type of activities can you interact with? What special needs are with your disability? I guess it depends on the level of physical functionality. You say in your profile that you are a professional and unattractive woman with a disability. So, you are intelligent--Good. Unattractive is a subjective statement. Disability, how limiting.
Having said all that, would I have a relationship with a person with a disability? The answer, possibly. There's too little information to make a decision.
My previous vocation was a nurse. I have known a person who married a Quadriplegic, and they had a very good relationship. So, it is not entirely out of the question. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:42:59 PM | | I'd do it in a heartbeat! Just because somebody's disabled doesn't make them any less of a person. Most handicapped people, in my experience, have more personality than non-handicapped people. So yeah, if somebody with a disability wanted to go out with me, I'd say bring it on! Let's see how much trouble we can get in to! | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:05:57 PM | I have a physical disability. I was born with a neural tube birth defect called Spina Bifida...I also had hydrocephalus which is excess cerebar spinal fluid on the brain. We all have CSF but I have too much. The CSF acts as a cushion for the brain against the skull. SB latin for "Broken Spine". Basically the spinal cord is in two parts...a top half and a bottom half...and the message from the brain to walk for example can't get down to the legs so you end up paralyzed in the legs and have no feeling or use of them.
Ok now that the health lesson is over let me get on with the question......
Years ago I dated a women with the same disability as I have. It lasted about 6 months. I ended up breaking up with her because I had a very hard time with it. It was a lot like looking in a mirror and you know if you do this you often find something you don't like about yourself which was seeing my chair and all that goes along with it. 9 years later I am in a very different place mentally and I could probably handle it if I met a woman who was disabled and was interested in dating me.
Having said that I'm not looking for a woman in a 'chair but if she were to appear in my life I don't think I'd discount or overlook her because of her disability. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:17:44 PM | Hi there bookyone,
Well I guess this is a challenging question. For me have a disability , but that is not the sum total of a person. We still have desires and need like any-one else. I guess there is the question of compatability of either 2 persons party the dating. I think intellectually many aren,t prepared to accept the challenge of dating a disabled person, but yes we still date as as any-one else, cya  | |
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Joined: 5/26/2006
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 3:55:02 PM | | I have read a lot of these messages and some say they would date if it was not to involved. And one said she could not date because she was to active in the bed and didn't want to hurt anyone. LOL please hurt me. I am kidding in a way. Yes I am disabled and have been all my life but I can assure you I can and will outlast a lot of these abled body guys out there. Not all but I can most. I hear guys all the time having sex and as soon as there done they are ready to get up and go do something else. I am a guy when I give it my all I want to stay and let it rebuild and do it again. I have been known to go 13 rounds one night but that is when I was young but willing to try again. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 4:29:26 PM | I WORK AROUND IT ALL THE TIME. IAM A CNA AND LOVE MY JOB. I DATED SOMEONE FOR A WHILE THAT HAD WENT IN A DIEBITIC COMA. IT HAD HAPPENED A FEW YRS BEFORE I DATED HIM. IT LEFT HIM PRETTY SCARED UP ALL OVER. THEY THOUGHT THEY WERE GONNA HAVE TO TAKE HIS LEGS BUT HE WAS LUCKY HE ONLY LOST HIS TOES. HE ALMOST DIED WHILE IN THE HOSPITAL.
I GENTLE RUN MY HAND DOWN HIS BACK ON HIS SCARE AND RUBBED HIS BACK. AND I GENTLY PLACED A KISS ON HIS BACK. HE SAID NO ONE HAD EVER DONE THAT BEFORE. HIS FEET WAS HURTING SO I TOOK HIS SOCKS OFF AND LOTIONED THEM FOR HIM. HE WAS EMBRASSED ABOUT HIS FEET. I TOLD HIM TO BE THINKFULL HE HAS THEM AND HIS LEGS. PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE NO MATTER WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE, THEY HAVE A HEART AND FEELINGS.
NO ONE HAS A PERFECT BODY, SOME MAY THINK THEY DO. THANK YOU, ANNETTE | |
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AnnMF
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Joined: 3/31/2006
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 7:46:52 PM | I had a sweetheart once who was partially disabled. He'd been paralyzed on the right side, but could walk (not run). I would have married him, but the relationship ended for different reasons.
I married a wonderful man 3 years ago. I didn't know the extent of his disability till later on. But I loved him and we dealt with it until it got fixed, but he died last year.
A disability isn't going to stop me from being friends with someone, but now I would much prefer to have a partner who can do the same activities WITH me.
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