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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 11:20:51 AM | Yes. They wanted something particular in life and I could not give that to them. So let them go so they could find somone who could.
Still talk to them now and again, cousin of a good friend. She actually found her current b/f on here and they are going strong by the sounds of it. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 11:30:56 AM | I don't know....I have never done that I guess....but I do believe that you can find anyone who can fall in love and not want to leave that person ever for selfish or selfless reasons, but to find someone who can love a person very deeply and yet let them go for their happiness is very hard and rare.
Why did you bring this up though OP, it's kind of a depressing thought...anyway have fun! | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 11:38:20 AM | Good question sayonara7, I do apologize for the depressing subject matter but I ask because I have recently done just that.
It's the hardest thing I've ever done to let the man I love and who loves me in return go.
I just wanted to know if I was alone. | |
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EB1
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Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 6 | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 11:43:12 AM | I feel your pain nipoleon, what ever became of her? What were your reasons for doing so?
I know the man in my case refuses to say good bye as if to keep the door open just a crack but if someone is too scared open the door fully I have to walk on past. | |
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Joined: 2/23/2006
Msg: 8 | |
| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 11:51:53 AM | | i did and then everything turn to lies after that cause she figured it was in "my best interests" sometimes i dont know what part of the brain they use to come up with these notions | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 11:56:44 AM | Very simple giggles.
We were young. She wanted to go to Julliard music school.
I had no idea, at the time, that relationships that special were so rare.
She left, after a while got married, and past from my life.
If only I'd known what I know now. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 12:02:58 PM | I broke up with a girl once, and realized I made a big mistake. Grass appeared greener on the other side, but in fact it was pretty brown.
But she found someone else who truly loved her, and I let her be. Better off with him rather than someone who was (at all) undecided. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 12:11:13 PM | I had a similar experience when I was very young. He had his whole life planned out ahead of him but when he asked me to marry him. I got scared. I broke his heart. Many years later I bumped into him. I could still see the pain in his eyes.
I often wonder if having my heart broken and being single all these years is my karma for breaking his heart. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 12:37:39 PM | | I am about to let my present love go because I love her enough to ensure that she doesn't get into trouble. You see , she is married and if we continue this relationship, I know it will only be a matter of time before we will get caught. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 12:49:51 PM | yes, I have.
I just finailly realized that no matter what I wanted to feel, or how much I wanted them all for myself, it was just selfish, when you can see they would be better suited to someone else.
I had to just bow out gracefully and walk away. Slowly but surely I started talking to them less and less till I saw no more of them. But I still think of him everyday. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 1:57:47 PM | | Yes I have,,,,, It was my wife of 15 yrs,,, We were so in love , so good together,, and to youngwe stayed together even after our son was born, seems that when he hit his teens ,she started wandering, coming in late , drunk. late nite phones calls , I loved my wife like no man would ever understand, she was my life,,My very soul and breath I let her go cause she never got to live her life ,experience it ,when she left my son and I she picked up another guy , I worked with him, . How do you tell your son? I didn't , ,, he loves her , but don't respect her for tearing us apart, .He is grown now ,on his own and I must say to any single dad that is raising your kids alone,, You can do it!! Oh Her? she is in debt up to her azzhole and looks older then the hills at a young age of 38...........I let her go,,, cause I loved her to much to to say no,,,,,: | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:10:44 PM | Yes. Well, we let each other go. Religious issues of all things.
It's only been since last August, we were in contact a few, extremely painful times. But as of now, we haven't spoken for about 3 months.
It's not only the loss of love, it's the loss of your best friend and companion that is so devastating.
I still sometimes think that I will never get over him. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:21:15 PM | Absolutely. Loving somebody is wanting the best for them, and sometimes the people we love need to go do things with their lives that they never could with you. It's a very hard choice to make, but do you let them go and watch them become everything you knew they could be, and watch their lives be the best that they could be, or do you hold onto them for dear life and watch them die?
What's nice about these sorts of choices is that you never have to stop loving them or have feelings change and face all of that bottled up anger like you do with a nasty break-up. You know you're doing it for the best. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:33:01 PM |
What's nice about these sorts of choices is that you never have to stop loving them or have feelings change and face all of that bottled up anger like you do with a nasty break-up. You know you're doing it for the best.
It didn't work that way for me. Even though we still love(d) each other, I had/have lots of anger over my loss. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:41:00 PM | "Absolutely. Loving somebody is wanting the best for them, and sometimes the people we love need to go do things with their lives that they never could with you. It's a very hard choice to make, but do you let them go and watch them become everything you knew they could be, and watch their lives be the best that they could be, or do you hold onto them for dear life and watch them die?"
And if you let them go, but then they start to die? | |
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dido1
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 22 | |
| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:43:29 PM | | i had to let my relationship go,and it was very painful.He got clean,and the only way for him to stay clean was to be with someone in aa,thats what they told him.Its funny because i am not a big partier,so instead of fightin against it to hold on,i let him go. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:58:04 PM | | Yup I have, my ex of 12 years I knew it was time to move on in life I loved him to death but I knew our relationship would never get better because we both had issues with each other. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/29/2006 3:01:59 PM | Yeah, I did. She wasn't ready for the relationship, needing to deal with some old issues and a past relationship. I encouraged her to work that out, and we both knew I wasn't the one to help with that, though I thought she was pretty nearly my ideal match. It was very difficult to let go, but it was the right thing to do. We stayed vaguely in touch via email, though.
Six months later, she came back, having resolved her issues. We have been together for nearly 6 years, and it has been VERY good! | |
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