| | Why Is the Female Orgasm So ComplicatedPage 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | Why is it that there is such a differnce from women to women in achiving orgasms. Men can come in just about any way of position. Just in the past few years of girls I've dated. One needs a vibrator while having intercouse to cum. Another the only way is oral with fingers. Another oral without fingers. Then there is find the Gspot. Then there is don't try and find the Gspot because pressing it makes her feel like she has to pee. My last two encounters were one girl could only cum in the dogging position while the other only came when she was on top. Then I read on here that some girls never achieve orgasms while having sex. Only whne the masterbate with their vibrator. | |
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Golda
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:36:29 AM | Conversatioin after a toss............
Him) arrrrrrrrrg ( rolls off ) that was great baby.
Her) ( rolling onto side ) you're done?!?
Him) Oh yea boy was that what I needed
Her) You allready came!?!
Him) Didn't you?
Her) No!
Him) Why?
Her) you didn't finish!
Him) Yes I did
Her) I wasn't done
Him) honey, we started at the same time, I've finished with no problem.
The problem must be with you.
Sorry ladies It's early and the coffee is just kicking in, but the sarcasm knows no bounds.
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:38:10 AM | | Well not everthing you read is true darlin and everyone is diff....women are just a little more complex than men....but wouldn't it be boring if we were all the same? | |
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Golda
| | Joined: 2/26/2006
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:43:38 AM | This is one difference we can all live with, as women!!
The ability to experience many orgasms in a very short amount of time because the male body is simply not wired this way. Men need a rest period between orgasms before they can have another one.
So, take note – every woman has the ability to achieve multiple orgasms! | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 4:49:46 AM | Whats wrong with taking the time to explore the diffences, anything worthdoing is worth doing well. Every step to the big "O" has it's different tastes, movements and sounds. Sex should not be a race to and end.    | |
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ahhhh
| | Joined: 1/14/2006
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:15:01 AM | Hey rick,
I think it just depends on the girl....I have no problem getting off and I have great orgasms! :) I think the problem comes in when the girl starts thinking too much. They start worrrying about what they look like, what the smell like, what they sound like, etc. They just need to relax and breathe...
as for different positions...that will never change -- the fact that every girl is different, every girl has different likes/dislikes. It's okay to ask, and it should be fun right? So why really worry about why each girl likes it different ways and just enjoy them! | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:30:43 AM | | So MICHELLE...if I'm going down on a girl and I tell her she tastes great and her body looks hot....that will ease her mind and possibly make it easier for her to cum? | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 7:45:08 AM | | Every woman is different Rick. Just take your time and explore EVERYTHING. Have had a lady or two say "oh, I only finish this way", don't take thier word for that. That means "I've only finished THIS WAY with my other partners". Roll up your sleves and get to work. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 11:23:44 AM | | wtf, c'mon rick, get real for our sake if not your own, please. | |
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| Why Is this posted HERE
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:58:49 AM | Well, since men have to orgasm to make a baby, man was made to achieve orgasm.
Women, otoh, don't need to climax to get pregnant - the clit is there for pleasure only, but it's not essential to baby making if she orgasms. | |
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skoob
| | Joined: 1/10/2006
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:00:01 PM | | rick...do you have problems cumming? no? then who cares....just do what i do...cum and go to sleep...let her worry about her problems. | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:04:17 PM | | Yeah all women are different....I haven't been with too many men who can get me to cum...or they dont care....but for some reason my Dog hits it just right....doggy all the way!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 12:11:44 PM | ohh i DO hope that doesn't mean what i'm now visualizing...
ick, just ick, bestiality.
now, doggy style is another matter, entirely... | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:12:02 PM | | Us women tend to think to darn much. Our brains need to just shut off so we can enjoy ourselves. Most of the time its not even thinking about what I look like that gets in the way...its more day to day life that pops into my head. | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:50:03 PM | | The purpost of female orgasms is pick the best sperm. If a woman has an orgasm, she retains far more sperm than if she does not have an orgasm. Therefore, if her mate is inferior to another man she had sex with she will orgasm with the superior man and fake orgasms with her mate. That greatly increases her chances of getting pregnant by the superior man and giving her a child that is likely to be superior to a child by her mate. | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 1:41:51 PM | Sheesh, Don! First, you start bringing biological science into this you're going to shut down all the fun posts! Second, you bring up the possibility of cheating women and now this thread is going to go all off topic in a hurry. Finally, you make mention of a "superior" male - I have yet to see women here acknowledge the existence of such a creature. I've only seen references to "average" guys, nice guys, and jerks.
And I have no idea why the female orgasm is so complicated, but no doubt there are other studies on this topic somewhere ... gotta google this ... | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:12:42 PM | Since I have been accused on another thread of publicly discussing my sex life on a site...I figured wtf might as well continue lol....
The female Orgasm is not complicated in the least...... just have your partner communicate and show you, where to do it...how to do it and when to do it and trust me she will have many......
Oh and by the way its all individual...when you say a man can cum in anyway, thats not correct.....some men cant cum orally (I know this one for a fact) etc etc. It all depends on what you like and what does it for you and like I said its being able to just tell the other person what you want!!!
Don I seriously doubt you believe what you said at the very beginning...one look at someone like you could make a woman cum....geeeeeeeeeesh!
Please dont categorize women all the same... it has nothing to do with the brain and what happened in our past....holy fuck....it has all to do with what a woman likes just like a man.....and no not all men can cum with every kind of sex act....
ITS ABOUT TURN ONS AND TURN OFFS.....
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:21:00 PM | The main reason women's orgasms are different is quite simple.
Woman's orgasm = 75% mental, 25% physical.
Men's orgasm = 25% mental, 75% physical.
See the problem? Men come to orgasm easily, because it's mainly a physical reaction, enhanced by the mental aspect.
However, women... Well, it's all in the mind. It has to do with the intimacy, and can be very easily affected by things in their past. ANY form of sexual abuse or trauma usually means they can't orgasm easily at all. Since it's primarily a emotional and mental thing, and we're all different, then each woman's orgasm is going to be different. How they get there, how easily, what works best, what won't work at all, how many times they can orgasm.... | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:25:36 PM | | I read that the easier a girl has an orgasm, the lower her overall genetic quality. That is, some girls can rub up against a tree and have one, but their children tend to be tree stumps. Not exactly high quality control standards. This is because having an orgasm increases the likelihood of conception. It's the same reason girls who sleep around aren't respected as much - they tend to have random children who will likely not survive. In a nutshell, sluts go extinct. The opposite is true for men - male virgins go extinct while a dominant male can impregnate many women. This is why we have the so-called "double standard" that promiscous women resent (i.e. Why can't they brag when they sleep around? Well, why aren't guys who are virgins celebrated like women are? Because men and women are opposite - if you don't believe me, please pick up the tab next time we have dinner). Bragging is generally done when you overachieve, not when you do something that was easy for you (and let's face it, attractive women can easily have sex any time). Destroying your own offspring is nothing to brag about. | |
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| Why Is the Female Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:38:03 PM | Well U took the time to ask so Im gonna take the time to tell ya, U just so happen to hit my profession here. First off ur obviously interested so that means u will take the time to find it, but we're all different, Definitly the women has to know what makes her tick in the first place, funny though that I was just talkin about this with one of my sessions.
Some women can only have n orgasim by the clitoris, n other's g-spot in inner. Its a huge help if she knows by being adventurious herself, but theres alot of women out there that dont even bother, or they think its not right to find out (maybe their not comfortable in finding it in their own privacy),it sometimes has alot to do with up-brings as well as what society reveils to us as whats right.(or maybe lady-like)
To get to the point alot of women need to realize that its not the mans fault alot of the times when an orgasim isnt achieved. The only time its not a womens fault is when the man is all about gettin himself to an orgasim, but hell women if hes not hittin it right tell him or show him, its turns a man on anyways to either watch or being talked to. | |
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| Why Is the Male Orgasm So Complicated
Posted: 3/31/2006 3:41:15 PM | Lack of orgasm of the guy during oral sex could be linked to a 'contrarian' mindset. Most 'gentlemen' refuse to see a woman as subservient; Since the prevailing myth about oral sex given to a man by a woman is almost BDSM in "guy world", Therefore a 'gentleman' will have a difficult time removing his mind from a resisting/contrarian attitude and remembering/realizing the woman performing oral sex on him actually wants HIM on a visceral level.
He's not thinking that the woman is giving him pleasure because she wants HIM; Since he's stuck in the "oh, i don't want her to be subservient" mindset, therefore he's not even getting even close to visceral in his thinking
Simply begging the question: (1) where there's smoke there's fire (does he fantasize too much?) (2) will he be able to get his mindset into a visceral level when performing oral sex on HER, or will he just be down there as foreplay instead of getting her off?
In other words, if he's detached and going through the motions when having fellacio performed on him, what's the chances he's going to be doing the same with YOU? | |
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| This brings a whole new meaning to head ****s
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:33:14 PM | You guys have to be joking right?
Why is it some societies it is a SHAME on the man if he comes first and did not bring his woman to climax? Likely he will die single.
Have you ever seen a man who calls his wife angel and touches her often, and yet SHE is the one hungering after him? No lack of sex in that marriage let me tell you!
He turns her on. And if she is turned on there is no stopping a woman. And THAT is more pleasurable for a man in sex.
A woman can be turned on in many ways..not just the clitoris or G spot. I am starting to think a guy who lacked enough sex wrote the books and is trying to work out a sure fire method to get it.
A man thinks in a straight line, one thing at a time (biological fact).
A woman is by nature multi tasking (and also thinking)
You have to be able to focus her mind in one direction and get tunnel vision happening. THEN go to the physical aspects of sex and it will be great.
You have to tease her mind and her body and arouse her first.
When a man is aroused he has an erection which makes sex possible. Without an erection it is not possible. And sex does not happen.
What a shame there is not a NO WAY thing for women until a certain stage of events. I won't have sex UNTIL I am aroused and I EXPECT good sex. And so it is good for us both.
How tragic is it that a man who is aroused just 'pokes it in' and hopes something happens.
Your penis guys is the thing that says YOU are ready. But without intimately knowing your partner and having given her pleasure many times with that particular tool, do not expect her to get excited at the mere sight of it.
In fact if it not pleasurable for her....expect the opposite. She has to do you a favour by letting you have it. Ewwwwwwwwww
Who would want that? | |
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