EZP
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Joined: 10/26/2005
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:57:16 AM | if he's un-experienced prolly have some problems is that department...
nothing wrong with a man that has a healthy appitite for sexual experiences and knows how to treat a womans body... turns me on much more that a man who doesn't know what he's doing. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:01:50 AM | Well, some men do understand our bodies, but I believe that has to do with experience. On the other hand, some men don't always know what to do. I've learned to tell them what I want and what I like. But there are those men that just really don't care if they hit the right spot or not.
Per my experience not all men like the same things either and we don't always know what to do. Communication seems to be the key no matter what. Even if it is just sex. | |
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EZP
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Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 5 | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:07:15 AM | I wanted to see a few post before I weighed in. I don't think many men are aware how females bodies work. Add to that a lack of communication (or assetiveness) on the womans part and many men can become slow learners. I have always been curious, took it upon myself to educate myself about things I don't understand. Also have had the benefit of some patient, instuctive partners. Think I am finally coming around. I do admit though, I have a lot to learn.
I think the biggest thing some men miss is the emotion tie-in that many women have to sex. Unlike many men who are more visual and physical. My 2 cents......... | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:08:28 AM | | it helps when the woman is comfortable enough to tell them man what feels good and whatnot, different people get off on different styles of different things. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:08:39 AM | | Yup; unfortunately the heart (in my case) is attached DIRECTLY to "those parts" | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:15:23 AM | I think...(in my own experience anyways) that the first time you're with a man....he's just fiddling around. Trying to find your spots, so to speak. But the more you're with that man, the more he becomes in tune with your body.
And then if you separate ways, and he hooks up with someone else....he goes back to fiddling for awhile. Until he becomes in tune with that woman's body... | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:15:37 AM | | boys and guys fiddle around.... men know thier way! | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:18:58 AM | | Yes I understand how a womans body works and I have the tool to prove it. | |
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EZP
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Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 11 | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:20:57 AM |
boys and guys fiddle around.... men know thier way!
Not all men...can't tell you how many women friends I have spoken to (some even married) who have told me their man is still fumbling around trying to learn. The good lovers are the ones who pay attention and learn.
and he hooks up with someone else....he goes back to fiddling for awhile. Until he becomes in tune with that woman's body...
but if he is already passed that learning curve the process should be quicker...don't you agree? | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:30:44 AM | wouldn't you agree though Ezp that those guys aren't men, and are still boys or simply guys?
These are the same kind of guys who will ask thier wife if thier in the mood, then climb on her (without getting her wet and aroused first), hump away till they get off... then roll over and fall asleep! I had a fwb who was in a situation like that.... pretty sad if you ask me. | |
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EZP
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Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 13 | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:35:23 AM | wouldn't you agree though Ezp that those guys aren't men, and are still boys or simply guys?
I would say that is a very accurate assessment.
I think that attitude could also overflow into the WHOLE relationship. If they are not giving in bed, they are probably not giving in the relationship. That whole emotion/sex tie-in thing I eluded to earlier. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:35:37 AM | | All women's bodies are different, and we all like different things, so ALL MEN FIDDLE around until they find out what we each like. That is the best part of the first few times you have sex. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:37:18 AM | | ezp that is so true!!!! I couldn't agree with you more, we need the emotions too, not just great sex to be completely satisfied. No matter how artful you are at lovemaking, if there is no feelings of the heart, or at least a connection..........I don't think it will be as fulfilling. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:39:36 AM | | To some degree yes, men do not know what they are doing beyond tab A into slot B. Really that just makes sense, and it is genetically hardwired into us. I took it upon my self to get educated. Ha Ha I know what you are thinking. I read the joy of sex, I asked my female friends very candid (and now that I think about it) rather uncomfortable questions. (Guys, I cannot stress how important it is to have a female friend you can trust) In many ways I still have no freaking clue what is going on. My advice, ask them what they like. I know it's wierd. The biggest thumbs up I ever got though was when I discovered how to tease. Good sex is like a concert, if the warm up act does not rock, the concert is going to be ok to good. But if the warm up act is great, the headliner will be unbelieveable. the one thing I heard from most women was the guys went for the headliner to early. Now keep in mind this is a very small cross section of women. This strategy could just serve to piss some women off. I dont pretend to have the answers, I just share what I have learned. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:44:36 AM | ezp that is so true!!!! I couldn't agree with you more, we need the emotions too, not just great sex to be completely satisfied. No matter how artful you are at lovemaking, if there is no feelings of the heart, or at least a connection..........I don't think it will be as fulfilling.
But sex can still be great without the emotional attachment.
From my experience, many men don't really care how a woman's body works. They think they know everything already. If you try to give directions or suggestions, they don't listen very well and most times continue to do things the way they always have. Their release is what is most important to them.
I know there are exceptions to this type of man, they are just hard to find. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:50:24 AM | each woman, just like every man, are different, and the way each of us responds to sex vary. We DO learn with each partner, not from the beginning, sure, but we learn to use all the knowledge we've managed to acquire to suit this man/woman we're with. And we learn by asking questions or exploring.. ;-)
But yes, some men don't have this crave to learn. They do their job and even if they are actually trying to lead a foreplay it's like they've just read a first page of a manual and are happy with it, and after a few minutes they're done with it, assuming that if a girl begins to moan she's already had her share of fun... 
Fortunately, there are not many of them... | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:56:27 AM | "They do their job" "it's like they've just read a first page of a manual"
Making love to a women that you really care about is not a job. It is all about wanting to learn what your partner wants, needs and enjoys.
Secondly real men don't read manual. | |
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EZP
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Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 20 | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:58:47 AM | From my experience, many men don't really care how a woman's body works. They think they know everything already. If you try to give directions or suggestions, they don't listen very well and most times continue to do things the way they always have. Their release is what is most important to them.
Happy to say I do not resemble this remark. I wish more women would give direction/instructions. The big thing to me is moans are great, but let me know when you are there and don't let me stop if you're on the verge or not done (orgasm that is). Communnicate. Also. I don't get mine and roll over. A great deal of my 'release' is the knowledge of having pleased her. Then my O can be even better.
Fortunately, there are not many of them...
So are you saying you think most men are good, knowledgable, and attentive in bed? | |
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dud
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Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 21 | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:59:21 AM | | a bit of both i think lol. but exploring's part of the fun, right? | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 9:59:41 AM | Communication is a key to a great sex life - discuss, explain, experiment, ask questions!
Deep passion usually guides you when you are in love as well. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 10:03:20 AM | Well I must have had the luck to meet mostly those attentive in bed :-)
But it might be connected with my good skills of choosing the right ones lol
and Al, pls, sure I agree with you, Im thrilled to know you belong to the better part of the male population...
that's why I wrote 'some' | |
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dud
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Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 24 | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 10:16:42 AM | | maybe im just clueless, but i dont think theres too many bad spots on people's bodies when it comes to being touched. ok, who's got the manual? lol | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 10:37:15 AM | | Very true, you can have a great sexual experience without emotions.............however if you have that connection you won't have to wonder what they like, you will already know :) thus less fumbling about lol | |
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