| why not answer?
Posted: 7/8/2004 1:15:19 PM | Why do people not answer questions and such on here when they contacted you or the other way around? Are we all not here to get over things, move on in life, or if very lucky find that some one we are all looking for? I for one am looking for some one to build something with, I really dont care if its a lego house for ants at this point but some conversation back would really be nice. Relationships are built by getting to know some one, and to do that you need to talk and take the time back to write or say no. If this gets though to one person I think I have done some good but come on all, explore out there, dont expect people to do all the work for you. If you do that you will be one lonly person.
Gadolinx
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| Re: why not answer?
Posted: 7/8/2004 3:08:00 PM | Amen. I've had the same trouble, but -- well, I may come across as some sort of freak so I can't blame them for being cautious.
I've given up, really. Let the mountains come to Mohammed now. Mohammed is tired of all this walking. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2004 4:04:31 PM | goat are you pouting or in a stance mode?? you know yer loved.....
and as for you gad don't be lumping "everyone" in the same little loop....never seen ya ask me a question and for the most part unless someone's a complete a$$ i answer.....if they turn into an a$$....I BLOCK"M...hehehehe....
just lighten up, and don't sweat the small stuff, if they didn't answer you then it's probably their loss, keep that attitude and you'll find someone worthy of talking with you.....
the old saying is ...... NEXT.....
back to you goat, i think you need an all over scatching and maybe a pat or two, maybe a little rub down would help.....just leme know and i'll help ya out.....i like goats.... :) might even rob a garbage can or two on my way over - oh and yah, i'll bring the beer too.... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2004 7:39:40 PM | Yay!! Rub the goat! Rub the goat!!
I could meet you at the dumpster behind Safeway. Dinner. Goat-rubs. Awwwwful smells.
Why, it could be gosh-darned fun.
Beer is important. It's like correction fluid for dates. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2004 8:38:17 PM | NOW THAT's a DATE!!!
k but I'm changing the meeting dumpster - I had Safeway last time - I think it will be the BP dumpster this time - I'm in the mood for "ribs" and a "boston brute", mmmm mmmm mmmm
oh and i got this great new oil, makes ya all warm when ya rub it and give it just a slight little blow....
now what brand of correction fluid is your pleasure??? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2004 8:40:38 PM | Something dark and angry.....Guinness or McNally's Irish Ale.
Yum. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2004 9:26:46 PM | | okay i can do that....my correction fluid is of a whole different world so i'll bring me some too, not think'n too much correct'n would be needed tho LOL | |
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Posted: 7/9/2004 8:39:26 AM | Done!
Meet you behind the BP at the dumpster this weekend. Bring several garbage bags....y'know...for takeout. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2004 8:44:08 AM | They have trash pickups twice a week, not one. The good stuff is gone by the weekend.
BP's pickup is Monday. Lots of fine fermented stuff in there. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2004 8:54:34 AM | LOL you all are a blast to read. I was just venting some so ignore me hehe. Better here than at my kids, seen my x do enough of that already. I just want some one that sends a message to talk to me other than send them days later. Guess I was asking for to much is all.
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Zee
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Posted: 7/9/2004 4:34:27 PM | Honesty is hard to come by Gad, people are not always what they seem because they show what people want them to see, hmm did that make sense.
I read your profile, Im not looking for a date, but anytime you want to talk about art, give me a holla - love to do charcoal - never thought I would though, yuk it was messy the first time I did it, but the way it all turned out in the end - superb - and do you finish off your charcoal with hair spray, you know what it does to it dontcha' yah ? If not, try it on something you just threw together, and then spray it, and watch the affect ...
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Posted: 7/9/2004 6:49:02 PM | I usually use a substance that doesnt allow the charcoal to get everywhere so i can stack them. Dont remember the name but hairspray does well is what i hear. I do my charcoal left handed and I am right handed. It is a gift that only 2 others that I know of in the world have. For some reason my brain just does it, i really cant explain why. I can paint and draw right handed just cant do charcoal that way lol, go figure. I love my art, its all I really have control over in a over drama world. I just wanted some one real, to share my life with and thought I had that, damm bipolar just threw that all away and there are many things that have kept me from going on with other dates. I was disabled years ago by the military and just learned to walk again last year, but I am running now and almost back to where I was when it happened. All I get told is " i cant love you as much as you deserve ". What kinda of crap is that right lol. Well I learned what she meant, she cant settle down with anyone. So now all my friends are either trying to get dates with me or the other and I cant, they are my friends plain and simple. I dont want to be known that they got with me cause they saw i was this or that in my marriage and they want that from me. It is not fair to them or to me, so I been looking though these and so far the forums have been the best so far. Ok thanks for the vent, felt GOOOD. I will write some more later, need to do some things before I lose my mind, hate it when the kids are not here. They are my whole life and when they are gone its me and my computer.
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: why not answer?
Posted: 7/9/2004 10:22:28 PM | lol i draw left handed and I am right handed - im not famous though
:OP
love painting, have used pastels, but not as cool as charcoal, and try the hair spray, let it dry of course and stacking will be easier. after they dry put some wax paper between them or even clear wrap, works good as a cover, and it gives it a really nice finished touch to it, I have one now with clear wrap on it in a frame on my wall, its great.
*I love my art, its all I really have control over in a over drama world.*
I havent painted in a long while, and miss it, its one of those things that takes you to a place that no one else can go, and you do not have to let anyone in...
*All I get told is " i cant love you as much as you deserve ". *
People say things to make themselves feel better.
Take care of yourself, and CONGRATs on becoming physical able again to run and do all things you like to do now.
*Ok thanks for the vent, felt GOOOD.*
The best thing about this forum, is you can pretty much say what you will, but venting is always best when its done in a thread, and not with children. GOOD choice.
Z
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Posted: 7/9/2004 10:36:29 PM | | hmmmmm i guess ppl. r not willing 2 give it a chance | |
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Posted: 7/14/2004 6:47:02 PM | There could be different reasons why people do not answer. You seem like a nice enough individual (your profile) but for instance, I personally do not want to date a smoker. So, if a smoker wrote to me, I wouldn't reply.
Why not reply with a reason? I already clearly mention I prefer non smokers in my profile, and I have found if I write back in any way, the person tries to have the smoking not be an issue. It becomes a waste of my time (I only have a certain amount of e-mail time per day) & their time, and frankly, a pain.
It could be age preferences as well. I have made clear which age preferences I prefer, yet still get messages from men outside (sometimes waaaaaaay far) of this.
I carefully read all preferences before attempting to contact someone, and have not contacted some that I would really have liked to, because I didn't meet some quality of their preferences in a potential partner. So, not paying attention to or not respecting profile preferences can get one a non response.
If you are sending messages to those where you do meet one another's preferences, well, keep trying.
Sometimes if chemistry doesn't feel like it is there, some will not reply. Though, more and more, I think people are beginning to place more emphasis on the inside of a person, beyond a photo, and are willing to at least try to get to know them a little. Hmmm... or maybe this is only an age thing, & I'm getting old lol....
I have to say that I had a real eye-opening experience regarding attraction that was mental, emotional, spiritual at the ouset, and that completely made the physical attraction what it was, and wouldn't have been had I only went by that.... which was wildly alive!
It can get discouraging for sure (it does for me as well), but it takes consistency and patience for everyone (give or take some "lucky" circumstances) to find that special someone.
Key is not to give up & to keep at it. Unrelenting, healthy persistance *has* to pay off at some point.
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Posted: 7/14/2004 9:22:08 PM | Hey Gad I seem to have the same problem. I've contacted a few people and only recieved one response and that person turned to be extremely shallow and dismissed me after he saw my picture. *rolls eyes* I guess, you just have to keep trying and eventually you'll find someone who's interesting and whom you'll get along with. Forums are a great way too meet friends and also to vent out your problems. If you need someone to talk to or anything you can always send me a message...I'm a good listener...even if it's just over the internet.
Oh, if that's your daughter in your picture she's very cute! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2004 6:27:21 AM | It was very funny that I wrote that, got about 30 emails the next day and they dont stop ! So meeting all kinds of interesting people now, guess I didnt ask to much just didnt give it time like i was suppose to i guess lol. I have found some people that are shallow also but have also been talking with some people that have been really great people and have made a difference for as to why I should stay typing and talking. This so far has been a great way for me to meet some people, even though they all live a LONG way away and not sure on that yet, but letting things go and see how they work out. Well time for school lol, finish my last projects in the next 2 weeks i hope lol.
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: why not answer?
Posted: 5/26/2008 2:02:05 PM | I personally think it is bad manners not to reply to anyone.
Even if you are not interested in them in any way surely you all agree its bad manners not to reply.
Maybe your the lucky ones who have loads of mail everyday. I have made good friends on this...havent met Mr Right as yet.....but hey I live in hope.  | |
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