| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:06:54 PM | It's been said by a lot of people here that they don't want someone who's not ideal in bed and that they don't want to "teach".
So how is one to gain experience then?
I'm not going to go into my history in detail, but I'll just say that...it's been a while since I've kissed or made love.
I'm afraid that I'm rusty. And when I do get into a relationship I fear that I may lose someone I really like because of it. Hopefully she'd be understanding, but there's a chance she won't be based on what I've read here.
What am I supposed to do? Look for a casual partner or get a hooker? I'd really rather not do that since it would go against my morals. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:09:23 PM | | thats not the answer..why risk disease? if someone likes you, or loves you, they will bare with you, but then, its your responsibility to get better. Also, sex is about catering to her/his needs, you do that, and you can t suck at it... my 3 cents | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:10:01 PM | i'd go casual... never pay for it.. LOL
Truth is, what most people want when it comes to this is someone that is relativley compatible. The 1st time or 2 is always a learning experience between two people, but... you can usually tell if theres gonna be compatibility or not.. Sometimes it just a matter of working the bugs out (and i don't mean crabs for all you pervs) and sometimes its never gonna work no matter what ya do. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:10:05 PM | | well you're rusty not completely ignorant, most men that care for their parnters pleasure are prized posetions even if they're rusty, believe me man better to be rusty but interested in pleasing your parnter, than a selfish man that doesn't.... | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:24:13 PM | | I wouldn't rush it either. If the person you're with isn't patient or doesn't allow you to get use to being with them....I'd say that would be the wrong person to be with. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:31:37 PM | I'm not with anyone yet. I just worry about it when it happens. Sex I'm not as worried about. I know what I like and what women like. It's that first kiss that scares me. I don't want to screw it up, y'know? I want it to be special. Especially with this one girl I really like. If something happens between us, I want to be ready. And I am very interested in pleasing her.
Yeah, no hookers or NSA stuff. That's not me. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:41:25 PM | Someone else said it is like riding a bicycle...you never forget.
When the time comes, for you to make love with that special lady, for the first time, the chemistry and romance will be so extreme, that you will melt into eachother, and everything will be perfect.
I assure you.
When the time comes, to have that first kiss, you will lean into your lady, push her hair back from her face, stare deeply into her eyes, and lower your lips onto hers. The moment will be perfect, and there will be no turning back after that.
Good luck. :) | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:44:44 PM | Should I give her tongue at first or no? I want to just blow her away. I worry about my braces too. Yes, I'm 32 and I have them. Hey, I procrastinate, and I want to have nice teeth.
I honestly can't remember my last kiss. :) Yes, it's been that long. Don't ask. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:47:58 PM | | I had a vision of Jaws from James Bond for a second. I'd say no to the whole tongue action...at least...not unless it gets really intense...start slow and just be aware of her reactions as you kiss her. If she's willing to go hot and heavy...let the tongues fly...but if she's just enjoying the moment of the kiss...keep the licker locked back. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:48:39 PM | Not horny..just romantic :)
I wouldnt slip her the tongue. Well, perhaps a bit, but not right away.
You will find, when the time comes, that you will know then what to do. You can never plan for such things, it happens naturally. The more you plan, the more it wont happen exactly as planned. Make sense?
Braces..not an issue. I have kissed men with braces, and it isnt much different.
Good job wanting to have perfect teeth, that is admirable. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/6/2006 9:52:04 PM |
I had a vision of Jaws from James Bond for a second.
LOL! I get that a lot. Actually, you can't notice them right now. At first it was bad.
Hey, my folks wouldn't spring for them when I was a kid, so...
Thanks everyone. I feel better. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 2:53:15 AM | | Hey bud, go slow, gentle and easy/soft. If she wants it different, she'll let you know then and there. Approach this hard/strong or rough, and though she might not say anything, if its not "her thing", she'll be gone. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 9:13:10 AM | Relax. Somethings you instinctively remember and each woman is different so no matter what relationship you get into it will be a learning experience. You will have to explore and communicate and find out what she likes in order to satisfy her.. Don't create problems that do not already exisit.
You know the fundementals. Your body will remember the basics. There are somethings you never forget. Just like riding a biker. :) | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 5:13:50 PM | most of the so called experts say to pay close attention to what the other person does to you because generally people do to their lovers what they want done to themselves
but anyway if you're talking about relationship here surely you will have talked to the person in question and hopefully discussed these matters to some extent so you're not just jumping in blind...like they say communication is the key
and the best of luck with the prospect
Dru | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 5:32:05 PM | most men that care for their parnters pleasure are prized posetions even if they're rusty, believe me man better to be rusty but interested in pleasing your parnter, than a selfish man that doesn't....
EXACTLY...
and really, there is no set of techniques that work for every woman. Even people who aren't "rusty" have to learn what a new partner's likes and dislikes are... So you aren't at any more of a disadvantage than anyone else, IMO  | |
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Joined: 9/9/2005
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:05:40 PM | Every woman is different. That's kind of how I figured it.
Hopefully I'll get to be intimate with her someday. It's up in the air right now. If not, then someone else. I want to be the best lover she's ever had. :) She deserves it.
Thanks again.
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dud
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Joined: 9/9/2005
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:09:47 PM | | the fact that you care so much about making it good for her will show. thatll help you a lot. a lot can be said for skill in sex, but i think passion is even more important | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:12:04 PM | wow...
how absolutely refreshing......
wow again...!
no worries...........you're going to rock her socks dude.....!...hooker or not...lol
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:13:26 PM | | Your experience will come from the woman you are with, every partner is different in the way they perform and the things they enjoy. | |
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| Experience and Lack Thereof...
Posted: 4/7/2006 7:38:49 PM | 6,508,378,401
Thats the number of people currently on the planet.
We didn't reach that number because sex is some obscur, mystical activity.
Just go with the flow | |
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