| My guy is moving away and I don't know what this comment means...
Posted: 4/7/2006 2:38:05 PM | | The guy I have been dating for only three weeks but have known for 5 months is moving away. (It's a 33 hour drive away). Anyway we both were afraid of rejection and that's why it took so long to admit we wanted more than friendship for each other. Anyway he's leaving tomorrow and I talked to him yesterday on the phone. I appolozied for crying and getting emotional. He said I just can't get upset about things or else I'll get upset about everything. What does this mean. At first I thought it meant that he didn't care about me at all and so he wasn't going to get upset about me but then I thought it meant he cared so much about me he can't allow himself to think about it or it will upset him to much. So what do you think this comment meant? | |
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| My guy is moving away and I don't know what this comment means...
Posted: 4/7/2006 3:00:28 PM | Sarah, it could possibly mean one of two things:
One: It could mean exactly what you said . That he would get upset because you were upset , and he feels bad about leaving you . It may have been a tough choice to take that job, and he feels bad about it already.
Or two : He feels guilty about leading you on, and knowing how much you care about him , makes him feel worse.
Only time will tell, you will know in your heart if he is the right person for you. You are a great friend and are very beautiful on the inside and out, and any guy should consider themselves lucky just to have you in their life. | |
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| My guy is moving away and I don't know what this comment means...
Posted: 4/7/2006 3:11:25 PM | Lots of guys on here are for the short term thing..they don't tell you..and want no ties..no strings..just have some fun/sex and head on out..I think a lot of guys usually have a -going out of town- story..they use it when it's time for them to fly...usually 4-5 months is average for the short term guy to break it and go on to the next gal who happens to be 33 hours away..
Too bad we don't have automatic "sonar" to figure it out... but been there done that...and it hurts like heck...I cried for two weeks before I straightened up and then it happened again..the same year..does not get any better..it's a shame guys on single sites do this all the time and the rest are wondering why women are always "paranoid" that they are going to cheat on them when you keep getting these jerks messing with our hearts... | |
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| My guy is moving away and I don't know what this comment means...
Posted: 4/7/2006 5:26:45 PM | You know, instead of coming on here and asking us you should have looked at him, tilted your head and said "Huh?". He may have been able to explain it a little more clearly. As for my opinion, it would only be a guess. Call him up and ask him what he meant.
Edit: How could a guy leave a girl who likes Bon Jovi? What is the world coming to?? | |
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| My guy is moving away and I don't know what this comment means...
Posted: 4/17/2006 10:34:30 PM | | Sarah I know exactly how you feel. This exact thing happened to me not to long ago. He also moved 3 hours away from me. I was told not to get upset about things also. A month before he left, we had a long talk, which then made me cry, and that's when I was told don't cry, cause it just makes it harder. He said that seeing or hearing me cry, made him even more upset, which then made me more upset. Guys hate seeing girls cry, it makes them feel worse. The way I would take that comment would be, he cares a lot about you he just doesn't want to see you upset. Maybe other people feel differently, either way, good luck! | |
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