| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:39:15 PM | I have been on PoF for about 3 weeks now and I have been unfortunate to meet only weirdos and perverts... There are any real guys out there who are 'nice and normal'? I don't mind normal guys but why does everything have to revolve around sex now a days, you chat with someone for 3 minutes and already they are expecting you to 'do it' with them. Is it really wrong to want to meet someone and see if sparks fly first before kissing, much less 'doing it'...
please let me know if I am the only one stuck in my own little era or if there are still people out there who are looking for something else first (before sex).
thanks.
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/8/2006 10:50:33 PM | just be thankful for the ones
that show you who/what they are within
3 minutes
there are MUCH freakier,weirder,SCARIER
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Joined: 6/26/2005
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/8/2006 11:00:56 PM |
I have been on PoF for about 3 weeks now and I have been unfortunate to meet only weirdos and perverts
Well it says up there under your photo that you just signed up two days ago so I'm assuming it's been a rough couple of days if it seems like 3 weeks. There are many VERY nice men on this site so just be patient. You'll find each other sooner or later. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/8/2006 11:28:36 PM | | i'm a nice guy! I wait atleast 5 minutes before bringing it up! Nah, just kidding. Be patient, hon. for every 100 idiots that you meet here, you may come across 1 guy worth giving your time to. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 12:09:39 AM | Well, I consider myself weird... socially I'm a little different. 
But seriously, there are guys out there who don't want to just 'do it' with you. Personally, I consider myself a decent guy, and if I met a girl and we hit it off, doing it woudl be something far off down the road. Guys like myself are a minority, but we're out there!! | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 12:10:36 AM | hahaha, yeah, there are lots of weirdos & freaks. but i've met lots of regular people too. well, as "regular" as i like 'em :)
and what's with the Underwear Talkers?!?! i can't be the only one who gets the Underwear Talkers... | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 1:08:19 AM | The only comment I have to your question is .. .. watch out for the Frank and Beans
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 1:23:17 AM | It's sort of like the Boxing Day sale in Canada...if you're at the back of the line
when those doors open you'll be disapointed at what you'll find left on
the shelves when you finally enter the store.
...damn, that would be me! 
....nah, just kidding - I'm actually taken.....LOL!!!!!
There's a freak out there waiting for a girl like you....don't worry. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 1:56:13 AM | Understanding and seeing the signs of a fruit loop is the name of this game. There r far more of them then there r normal, pay attention to where they r leading u, and take charge if u want to turn the conversation around. If it doesnt work, there is this little thing called DELETE! Very handy tool in this case. I was a rookie once apon a time, lol, i took the whacko's seriously at first, then i got offended. U know what i found out, it's not worth getting upset over. Be as u r, dont let anyone invade that part of u, on here or in real life. Just pay attention to how u word things, give them an inch and yes, they will take the mile right out from under u. As for the gal who stated your arrival date, we all know this computer thing can make mistakes, i have been on here for 2 mths and it only shows me as maybe 1 wk. This whole thing can be fun, if u sit back any enjoy the ride, like all roads, there will be bumps, go with it and hang on tight. lol. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:29:33 AM | Definitions of an on-line "Player"
There are many different types, but if any of these sound familiar to you, "red flag" them.
Married - The most common type of Player is without doubt the "married" one, but who never tells you he is married. "red flags" to look for - won't give you his home phone number only his mobile, won't give you his address, can only chat to you during the day ("red flag") is talking to you from work rather than from home.
Married, but - wife neglects me, no sex life left , etc."red flag" in most cases the only type of relationship you will have will be a "dead end" one.
Mr. Blowhard - definitely a "red flag" - all he wants is an audience to listen to and believe his bogus stories of danger and bravery, or he has a promising career, brilliant future etc., but all snatched away from him due to an accident or serious injury. He needs your sympathy, and when you get tired of listening, he'll just move on to find a new audience.
Hit & Run Player - another "red flag" usually the younger guys just practicing or fine tuning their chat up lines. You will probably receive love poems, links to the most romantic places on the net etc. Very easy to believe they really love only YOU.
Body - Surfers - These guys are easy to spot. The broach the subject of sex early in the relationship. - They are only looking for sex … phone sex, cyber sex, pictures, videos or real sex.
The Globe Trotter - Single/married players who travel for a living. They usually have a laptop as well as access to computer at home/work. They are looking to find women who live "on their appointed rounds" (easy to find doing an advanced search of profiles). They them IM or e-mail you saying they are intrigued by your profile etc., and how much in common you seem to have. After they have you chatting a few times amazingly they will happen to be in your area next week and could they come and see you. Once hooked they can add you to their visiting list (saves spending lonely nights in an hotel!!).
Mr. Big - They usually own their own business (they use that as "bait" which we are meant to translate as "I'm a good catch". Or they may let it slip early in the relationship that they own their own business, or they claim to be a lawyer, a doctor or other highly-paid professional. Now think about it. The same as us women, men want to be loved for themselves, NOT their assets so this man needs a "red flag" too. Can you really believe that a real Professional man would have the time to hang around in chat rooms.
The Sympathy Dog - He gives you a long sob story and then everyday there is a new crisis in his life. All he wants from you are daily "pity parties" - just don't fall for it.
Then we get onto the more serious Players,the real Con men who can cause you enormous emotional distress, harassment and stalking.
The Control Freak - He will also have a sob story and use your sympathy to manipulate you to get his own way. Stories you might hear - has a bad heart condition, or needs a kidney transplant, has cancer but it's in remission. These supposed afflictions are for the purpose of "control" .. whenever you step out of line, the following reaction will occur: you added to his depression and he's feeling suicidal, he starts getting chest pains, he has to go on dialysis, the cancer comes out of remission. Using your feelings of guilt, he will quickly have you back under his thumb again.
The Guilt Trip Player - If you don't fall for his MO which he has worked so hard on, then he will throw a temper tantrum. You will probably receive an e-mail from a supposed friend/relative informing you he committed suicide, implying it was over you of course. Then this friend/relative will keep contact with you for weeks to come with details of the funeral and how devastated the family is etc. Or you will be told he was in some terrible accident and is dying (and you are supposed to feel very guilty about how you treated him. (Shame on you! LOL)
The Freeloaders - This type of player is looking for financial support. He will woo you and then suggest something like "I love you too much to take you away from your family and friends, but I am prepared to move nearer to you." "Could I stay with you for a bit to check out the housing situation/job situation etc.". Big "red flag" comes to stay with you, has no money, alcoholic, drug addict says he'll change if you will just stick by him, help him out for a bit financially. Once in your home - you will have a real job to get him out again.
The Cyberpaths (Online Sociopaths) - These are the worse of the bunch…. This type always looks for the easy to bait, vulnerable women, widows, newly divorced, women recovering from a recent heartbreak etc. They lurk, using different screen names, in the widows, divorced, Al-Anon or mature chat rooms (40's, 50's 60's) They start out romancing you like a player does, but it's for an ulterior motive; they become obsessive and then they become the online harasser, the stalker … or worst.
Also a Cyberpath, the Emotional Hitchhiker - They generally look for their "sheep" in rooms that involve emotional support widows & widowers, divorced etc. (really sensitive vulnerable people). They will start out as being this great and wonderful guy who has also been widowed or divorced and is in a lot of emotional pain. They will use two different screen names (pretending to be two different people) - one who is a man falling in love with you: the other, a man who just wants your friendship. After they have you madly in love with them, then they will fake their own death. You will receive an e-mail from a family member or friend informing you he: died in a car accident, sudden heart attack etc. Then, using their other screen name, they will hear first hand of your reaction: hear all you grief and complete devastation, getting a complete "high" from your emotions. OR they may tell you they just found out they have cancer, terminal - of course and drag it out for six months or se, getting daily "highs" from your sympathies and your heartbreak. When the "highs" start to falter, then you will receive notice of their "very painful" death. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:43:54 AM | | no...your new at this so let me give you a tip...this is a free website..so you have to pre screen yourself - don't give out personal information too soon..some people that seem nice and normal could be NOT..so chat-e-mail..for a bit and then the phone calls..until your more comfortable with that person..if they rush you..it spells T R O U B L E..don't rush into relationships too fast..take your time..after all you have the rest of your life to be happy.. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:46:33 AM | VERY GOOD LAZYBOY..IS NOT THAT LAZY..DOING FISHY HOMEWORK...A PLUS | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:54:20 AM | Hi, I read your profile just to see if there was anything in there that was attracting these people the want to have sex so fast and I found it under First Date you wrote the word
( ENCOUNTER) take that word out it means sexual encounter to alot of guys | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:59:37 AM | VERY GOOD LAZYBOY..IS NOT THAT LAZY..DOING FISHY HOMEWORK...A PLUS
I'm a little more lazy today since I found my mouse....but you wouldn't have known it. I can cut and paste lake crazy now!  LOL | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:01:41 AM | Weirdos and freaks....Two things that bring me so much amusement!..
I luv them!! | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:12:15 AM | | ^^^ me too!! I am partial to weirdos and freaks....always good for a laugh. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:13:31 AM | Ok,YES you are right.. I actually had to put this exact comment on my profile..I have been here only 4 days and in that short time I have met many,many guys that do that.
ONE guy I chatted with on IM said within 2 mins of saying hello to me,I want to meet you! OMG please! What is this a brothel?
Another asked me a few questions,fave colour,fave food then next question fave sex position?! I said READ my profile! Last sentence in particular.
I could go on and on in the brief time I have been here I have met many,jerks... BUT one or two nice guys that I actually chat with regularily.. Nice so far we will see LOL!
But ya,I know what you mean,where is romance,where is kindness where is the polite conversation it is like these are lost these days.
Good luck to ya hun and just remember,if fate allows it you will meet a nice guy as I hope I will too.. 
Good luck to you,
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:13:59 AM | | yes squirrly.......you have to love the free entertainment | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:21:11 AM | | Very true newgirlfromtexas..encounter means no strings-no rules..change it to DATING..that way they know the rules.. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:52:20 AM | I've got Trolls and Weirdo's... you mean there are Freaks here too?
Are they actually classified separate from the Weirdo's? I want to have an accurate profile. | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 11:26:56 AM | --------------Welcome to the madness-------------------
I'd suggest you run and run fast but I know it's too addictive . | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 11:37:22 AM | join us!!!......to run is useless!!
join us!!...join us!!...join us!! | |
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 12:14:11 PM | I have been on POF for 3 weeks myself. I encountered a very agressive guy who insisted on meeting me after I had told him I prefer to get more aqauinted via hotmail first. I finally agreed to meet him because his profile and his visuals seemed pretty normal on the webcam. We were supposed to meet at Ikea - I did not hear from him at all! I became very concerned that he could a criminal using POF for a gate to pull a scam or something. Thinking: Did he watch me and get my liscense plate to find out my address?, or what! I still have not heard from him. I hope he is not a criminal!
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| Weirdos and Freaks
Posted: 4/9/2006 2:38:22 PM | THANK-YOU ALL SOOOOOO MUCH... especially the Guy Guidelines from Lazyboy... Lol.. I'll keep them in mind. and thank-you NewGirlFromTexas for that part about "encounter" on my profile. I have removed it.
thank-you all for the feedback and suggestions/advice.
this by far has been the best experience from POF I've had soo far.. and by the way my profile is 3weeks old, I'm not sure why it's showing different? hmmm....
anyway, good luck to all and take care!!
cajoes | |
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