| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 5:44:06 PM | Would you? If you could do it all over again and have a kid with that special person at this age would you? Just thinking about the idea makes me smile as I miss the times when my child was a baby and all the work that went in to it.
I got thinking about this the other night when we were on Bowen Island and in my mind I said yes.
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 5:53:01 PM | | Its really up to you and whatever your preference. Are you willing to have children living with you until you are 60? If so, then go for it. I personally would be happy just having babies over and over like they did in my grandparents day. I'd keep going until 40!!! If I could afford that many!! | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 5:55:20 PM | ummm...let me see...
NOT $*&^%@? LIKELY
...but then, been there not going back
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:00:37 PM |
If you could do it all over again and have a kid with that special person at this age would you?
It's never too late to adopt a goat. | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:19:23 PM | | Well I havent done the kid thing...but changin diapers Ive discovered is not really for me. My man has 2 girls and one is still in "pull ups" oh how nasty! Id sooner clean the barn! If he wants to change it...all the power to him! I kinda feel Im too old now anyways, the whole "mommy" thing takes a really special kind of person and I dont know if life has made me too bitter now.... good luck to ya Biz...(dont do it)...oh did I type that? oops sorry! | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:42:12 PM | not me, thanx!
our 'combined family' consists of 3 with no diaper-changing necessary and we plan to keep it that way.
once around with the sleep deprivation, colic, etc. was plenty for this momma. love the kids to bits, but I enjoy the growing independence I have gained far too much to start at square one again. | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:50:28 PM | K ladies is all the (I won't do it again) because the guy was never around to help out?
When my kid was born I was the only one around.......diapers.....bottles........holding him in the middle of the night......no sleep. My ex was always working, I gave up everything for my kid. The bond was worth it and that means everything to me.
I guess that's why I would go through it all over again as I loved the baby days.
Doing 2 yrs of Pre-School all by myself......being voted in as V/P by 28 mothers. It was a parent participation Pre-School and it was a lot of work but I loved it!
My little guy is 8 yrs old and the struggle has been a hard one but every moment was worth it and I would do it all over again in a hearbeat with the right person. | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 7:15:04 PM | | I'd be scared to be honest. Birth complications increase after the age of 35. You'd have to ask yourself, if I choose to have this child, am I prepared to deal with one with special needs? I'm not suggesting it WILL happen but the risks are higher at that age. If you're prepared to be onboard, regardless then all the power to you. All children are wonderful. :) | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 7:22:56 PM | My opinon...I have an almost 18 yr old son, and a 5 yr old girl. Being a single
mom makes it really tough at times, he is graduating and she is just begining
and I am 43. It is hard for me alot of the times. Cars and teens etc. then a 5
yr old I have to make sure gets to kindergarden. So basically I am saying
can hardly wait for FREEDOM 55...hahaha.. joke...anyways think about it, it
is hard in the long run, thought I was free another what 10 years ahead of
me for sure....smiles | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 7:31:15 PM | | I was not there but we were there. tho it was 38 and 40. as others have said been there done that not again | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 7:34:01 PM | | I'm 39 and my son is 19 and my daughter 16........to start all over with a baby might be crazy but i have thought about i, it's just most my friends r having kids now and I think about it but than it's like what am i doing it's almost freedom 55>>>kidding........it's something to think about especially when your 39. | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 7:46:44 PM |
K ladies is all the (I won't do it again) because the guy was never around to help out?
nope. he actually was around in the infant days and helped out a lot with diaper duty, etc. I have just found it easier in a lot of ways, to parent on my own. sure...there have been days when having a little backup or 'time off' would have been awesome, but I think there are a LOT harder (and less rewarding) things in life than being a single parent! | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 7:48:13 PM | And for the guys that were there every step of the way with the children.........would you do it again?
I'm not talking about the guys that did the job thing and came home and kissed the wife and crashed and played with the kids on the weekend. I'm talking about the guys that gave up their dreams and decided that the kids were the way to go................ | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 8:00:39 PM | i personally don;t know if i would do it, it would really depend where i was with my life at the time but i dont see a problem with it
considering that my parents were
turning 30(mum) and 34(dad)the year i (now 19)was born
turning 32 and 36 the year my sister (now 16) was born
turning 35 and 39 the year my younger brother (now 14)was born
turning 37 and 41 the year my youngest brother(now 11) was born
my parents are now 48 and 52 they still have 6 years until they can start thinking about my baby brother leaving therefore i dont see the problem with it but i dont know if i would do it | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:24:23 PM | __I can not see myself raising a child (I did not use the word "kid" to avoid some confusion. LOL) starting at 39. I am now 52 and I can not see myself having enough energy to keep up to a teenager much longer.
__Bizie, you will be in your late 50's when your child will leave the nest. How will you do it?
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:41:28 PM | Bizie,
How can any of us make a judgement on that. Do what is right for you. 39 isnt old yet if you see yourself floating around on the Mediterranean at Freedom 55 well then perhaps you should think about it.
Starting over for me would be a horrifying thought, but then I'm 47 and have been there and done that (oops and I'm female therefore probably not the best idea).
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:41:45 PM |
Bizie, you will be in your late 50's when your child will leave the nest. How will you do it?
Hey Doc I've never really thought about my kid leaving the nest. I've always thought that my door is always open for him and anyone else to walk in and sit at my table.
I guess I'm the type that leaves the door open for my child no matter how old he is. I've never had a great bond with my parents and I want that all back with my child. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 8:56:13 PM | Well Bizz... this is totally up to you my friend... Just think about YOUR
future.... not that I don't love my youngest but it sure puts a damper
on reality at times then again it makes you stronger too... so best of luck
to you.... | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 8:56:21 PM | I admire anyone who has their door open for their child at ANY age and doesnt expect their child to "leave the nest" just because theyve turned 19 or 21... I know a lot of friends who were "kicked out" so-to-speak just because they were 19-21 years old. I couldnt really figure how one can do that to a son/daughter... but seems to be parents who do that.
Really age is irrelevant as to when you have a child as long as you prepare yourself for it. Im very happy that Im outta the diapers stage - I dont know how I did it at times, I had all 3 in diapers at one point. But it certainly does get tough when you get older to "start all over again"... I just found out this wkd my x-h will be a father again (with his gf) and he'll be 50 yrs old when the baby (a half sibling to my kids) is born. | |
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| A baby at 39..............
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:08:20 PM | I'm 30 and sooooooooo very done having babies.. I can't wait to be a grandma, then if the urge hits, I can dabble in the diapers.. I'm not anxiously awaiting freedom, as I really don't know what I would do with myself.. I can't remember how I managed to stay busy before my kids.. ahhh those selfish days... I think it's inside of you what your answer is. Kids are amazing, stressful, little balls of poop, and I wouldn't trade it for the world!!!
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Posted: 4/10/2006 9:15:24 PM | yeah...the math kinda gets to me.
39 years old + 18 years (minimum) of raising and supporting the child = 57 years old when they move out.
in other words, they move out...and try to find a decent job so they can afford the old folks home they're going to have to put you in in a few years. | |
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