| Families and getting along
Posted: 4/11/2006 5:47:06 PM | How does your family get along? In my family there is about 28 of us
6girls 1boy(siblings bro and sis inlaws grand kids). I spend more time
with some than others but still we all seem to get along ok.
My husbands family is different. Parents devorced yrs ago but still get
along. Both have new mates. As for the kids (7boys 1girl) until this week
half weren't talking.
One brother left the family 20 yrs agochanged his name. One wouldn't talk
to the other. Mother and daughter didn't talk for 7yrs. I could go on and on
but you get what i mean.
Anyways last week my brother inlaw died He spent 3/4 of his life in a wheel-
chair. everyone loved him he had a way with people. He was the only sibling
that got along with everyone. One wouldn't go to a gathering if so and so was
there His wish was to get everyone together and getting along.
Well I just spent the last 2 days watching everyone together. Mom and daughter
embraced and said "I love you"! At the end of buring merv we all went to the home
town bar for a drink in honor of merv.
And although we probualy won't all be together till the next funeral they are all talking.
I hurts to think it took a death to bring them all together.
How does your family fit into this? do you get along fight etc...? | |
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Tatguy
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| Families and getting along
Posted: 4/11/2006 6:46:11 PM | Sorry about that. You sound as if your in deep thought about regrets. It gets me thinking too.
Yes, I'm the blacksheep and loner of my family. I prefer to party and live life as if I may die tomorrow. Lately I've been thinking about staying put somewhere. Somewhere that I can afford too, because the good times were not cheap.
I have family all over Sask, and BC, and some in the States, but I never seen most of them since the mid 70's. I used to party with my Dad until he quit drinking and became a grumpy old man. He is the only immediate family member I have seen since 1996. I have spoken to my younger brother a few times on the phone, but I keep missing him whenever he is in town. My older brother is an alchoholic and an 'instant as@hole", so I havent had any use for his company, and my older sister is just plain 'strange'. I really think she lives a pretend life. I havent spoke to them in years and dont even know where they are.
A couple weeks ago I wondered if my Mom was still alive, so I called my daughter up and got her email addy. I will send her an email sometime soon.
I used to be close to my cousins and stuff, but Ive been driving these highways now for so long that I lost touch with everyone. When I would take holidays, I would travel the world instead of visiting relatives.
I hear through the grapevine when someone passes away, but never in time to be at the funerals.
I have close freinds that are more like my family. I try to make it to their funerals at least.
I dont regret my life so far. We only live once, and I wasnt wasting that for the life of a zombie. | |
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| Families and getting along
Posted: 4/11/2006 7:23:50 PM | My sympathies to your family in your loss.
Yes it is too bad how sometimes it takes a tragic event to bring people together.
Perhaps the closeness, that was experienced during the past week, may carry on. | |
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| Families and getting along
Posted: 4/13/2006 3:57:34 PM | Thank-you everyone for your condolence. It helps.
After I started this thread I kept comming back to see
who had posted and what was said. Almost like I needed
to read something. Not sure what though. I started to
add a post over & over, since I first started this but for
some reason I would start typing and just couldn't go on.
Road Hammer sorry about your family I can relate to
what has happened with your family alot. I guess as
long as you have kept some contact with family members
& you truly are content within your life for now thats what
really matters.
I would encourage you to email your mom soon as you never
know what will happen tommorow. I'm sure my inlaws are
going through some sort of regets for lost time with family
members.
I'm just having a hard time dealing with all that has gone in
the last while. I went to a funeral sat and tues my bro-inlaw
died. I'm not sleeping well, getting mirgrains. My 3 1/2yr old
daughter is having a hard time getting through understanding
her uncle isn't comming back. Hubby is just like a kid and needs
me just as much.
Sorry for going on & on!!! Anyways lastnight I slept great for a
change. I woke up feeling somewhat better then I have in the
last while.
My bro-inlaw lived in an instituion. It's a very big place. He had a
store there to. Just after lunch I get a call stating that the staff and
other residents wana have a momorial for him next tues. Now here
i am getting all worked up again. Just when I thought I was starting to
feel better they do this. They want family to go. Hubby is saying he
can't go through that again. so I guess it's me that will be going.
We already had a furneral only a few people from there came. I feel
more could of just came to the funeral.
Then we could just move on....
Tjhanx for listening as i babbled on!!! | |
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| Families and getting along
Posted: 4/16/2006 9:16:04 PM | Both sides of my family are pretty close which was why it was so weird when I married my now ex. Her family didn't spend a lot of time together, and as a result she never wanted to come along to my family get-togethers. She came to one or two, but usually I was sent off by myself. Obviously one of the reasons we're divorced... didn't exactly get married to do things alone.
But yeah, we don't see or talk to each other every day, but it seems like every couple of years we're having a family reunion with one family or the other. And it's not just my mom and her siblings (that's our Christmas, Easter, and Thanksgiving gatherings), or my dad and his siblings (that's the odd weekend out at someone's cabin) with these reunions. It's my mom's uncles and aunts, her cousins, their kids... and with my dad it's the same thing except even his dad's cousins and their families come. Mom's side is usually around 120 - 150 while dad's is usually around 200+ (French Catholics, go figure... crazy breeders). It's kind of tough to get to talk to everybody, but we give it a valliant effort over those 3 days. The best was 4 years ago when my grandpa's brother took us on a tour through Estevan and Bienfait telling us about his older brother and his rum running exploits. Fun times.
But yeah... watching my ex's family... I'm certainly glad I've got the family I've got. They are just lonely and miserable people. They're families aren't all that big to begin with and they just quarrel over petty stuff... usually money. I just don't understand how they can be that way... but I guess that's because I was just raised differently. Really sucks to be them. | |
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