| What exactly is "Dating Material" in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/13/2006 12:47:02 PM | I am just posting this cause it was a question that popped into my head. I mean, noone really knows for sure what is going on in someone elses head as far as who they do and do not consider "Relationship Material."
Here is an example to go more in depth on what I am asking. I have had casual flings with girls before, but when I want to go to the next step and make it serious some say stuff like this
"Your fun to hang out with, and we have a real good time when we are "together", but you just aren't the image of someone I see myself in a serious relationship with." Or something along those lines.
I changed a few words to make it more appropriate for this forum, but you all get my drift I hope.
I have had my fair share of relationships as well as flings, but how is it possible to be good enough for one thing and not the other?
What I am basically asking is, what is the difference between good enough for sex, and good enough to date? | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/13/2006 1:00:39 PM | | Great question!!! Unfortunately, I don't have the answer to it. You see ... I find myself in the same situation and have often thought of this very question ... ((Heavy Sigh)) ... Is it something we're doing?? Saying?? Not doing?? Not saying??? Ugh!! | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/13/2006 1:23:49 PM | I guess this is based on what people expect. It can be based on looks, salary, religion, sex and whatever else. I have heard people talk about marriage material. LMAO I asked about that last month. So, its funny to be honest. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/13/2006 1:36:55 PM | Dating material: Sexy ne'er-do-well arrives on loud motorcycle for evening of irresponsible fun.
Marriage material: handsome enough guy who fixes the screen door when he gets home from work, and thinks you're beautiful even when you've been doing laundry all day. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/13/2006 3:34:33 PM | | Well. I was thinking that maybe people when you meet them in persn are basicaly nice. So if you meet someone and there seems to be no sparks you might agree to meet them again without really wanting to go further. You also don't want to hurt their feelings and/or you may genuinely think of them as a brother/sister/friend type. My question is How do you know before you meet someone who is playing games? like why go so far as to plan a meeting then never show or follow through on plan to call to plan a meeting? | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/13/2006 4:41:54 PM | | I would assume that the person feels that you are good enough for the rack or to party with alone, out of town somewhere, during the summer at camp or whatever, but you are not someone they would want to introduce to their friends or parents for whatever reason. Maybe you're the wrong religion and the parents are bible thumpers, maybe the person is from money and is afraid their friends/parents would see you as being from the wrong side of the tracks, maybe their doinking you because you look just like their ex that dumped them and if they show you to the friends/family they may be afraid you'll get called by the wrong name, or they will get crap for not being over the ex, etc... Hell - there could be tons of reasons.... And don't laugh... I talked to a girl online once for over 2 hours before I finally said "can you tell me your first name, I feel like this is really impersonal and I would like to use your name in the conversation". When she found out my name was Don she very politely apologized to me and said she didn't want to continue pursuing me because her ex was named Don also and her grandmother whom she lived with had alzheimers and it would be too confusing for her! That was just too real of an excuse to be a simple blow-off... | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/14/2006 9:43:03 PM | This is a hard one to figure out but the common denominator is you.
Start to take a closer look at the type of people you want to see / sleep with.
YOU can be more discerning in who you see and not let others make the decisions for you.
Be brutally realistic with yourself and make a list of what you are wanting in a long term partner. Then keep an eye out and see what happens!
good luck. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/15/2006 11:23:30 AM | I appreciate all the input from everyone. I have thought about a few of the opinions before, but never have been really sure wether or not I was making the right assumption.
I guess what I have always considered "Relationship" or "Marriage Material" has been people that don't usually fit the profile. I tend to get into relationships with people that society sees as "bad" or "un-usual". Anyone else to me just seems to be to close minded. Perhaps it is just because I haven't met very many open minded people in my life though.
Anyway, I would love to hear more from everyone. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/15/2006 11:35:11 AM | It isn't a job interview, saying the right thing shelp, but if you ever been in this situation you'll know what im talking about. Your eyes meet, and there isn't a glimmer of distaste from either side, the conversation flows without even trying. Nothing they say annoys you and vice versa, everything seems to end with a smile which comes as natural as the day you were born.
This in my eyes is the Fire of lust and finding someone on the same level as you. Marriage material comes later on, because during a relationship 2 things will happen, 1. it will dull, you'll get bored of each otehr and the flame will diminish. OR it will get stronger. the flame will burn even brighter and your love will keep growing.
Also when you do find that person one thing that happens is neither party gives a shit less what anyone else around them or in their lives have to say. You cannot be swayed, mind changed or anything, and for the time you are together, its only the 2 of you in the world, nobody else.
Its not something you can prepare your self for, (mind you take care of yourself to keep your own self confidence up) but when it happens it happens. yea thats my View
Jeff | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/15/2006 2:12:51 PM | | The best dating material is silk. It's soft, touchable and yet easy to clean afterwards. The worst dating material has to be polyester. Nothing says "No second date" like a guy sweating up a storm in a polyester shirt. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/15/2006 3:54:57 PM | Dating material for me is a woman with a great sense of humour, intelligent, independent and likes to do things.
I am not one to want to stay in and be home all the time and do nothing. I love to laugh and joke around. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/15/2006 9:37:01 PM | " I tend to get into relationships with people that society sees as "bad" or "un-usual". Anyone else to me just seems to be to close minded. Perhaps it is just because I haven't met very many open minded people in my life though."
1) Don't think about what "society sees".
2) Go out of your way to find open-minded ppl. ( your profile says you draw and write. Surely, there's got to be some women who share these and other interests with you.)
3) Don't sleep with a woman unless you really believe you can have something with her.
4) Set your on rules with women ( let her know what you expect of her). To many of us spend our lives playing by someone else's rules.
To make a long story short, "dating material" is what talos sees as right for him regardless of what others might think. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/15/2006 11:07:51 PM | "To make a long story short, "dating material" is what talos sees as right for him regardless of what others might think."
I know what "Dating Material" is for me. I just am interested in hearing the different opinons of what it is. I actually don't have trouble finding women who are open minded, just women who are both open minded and faithful. Basically trying to figure out if it is something I am doing wrong or what, cause every woman I have fallen for in the past has cheated. I do appreciate your advice though. Thanks Blue46 | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/16/2006 6:32:46 AM | "Basically trying to figure out if it is something I am doing wrong or what, cause every woman I have fallen for in the past has cheated. "
Oh...ok, then read point 3. Unfortunately, the quicker you can sleep with a woman, the odds are high that she's not only done this b4, but will probably do it with someone else while with you. The longer she takes to sleep with you, the odds her cheating on you are lowered.
Note, this doesn't mean she won't cheat, but the odds are lower. | |
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| What exactly is Dating Material in everyones opinion?
Posted: 4/18/2006 3:59:56 PM | | I know how that goes unfortunately. I think the reason that most women do cheat is because in many cases they just get tired of waiting for me to be ready. When I do finally feel comfortable sleeping with a woman I often wonder if things moved to quickly, because the relationship quickly grows into a highly sexual one, and the romance dies away. Long story short, things become based around sex rather than an emotional connection. Maybe I am just complaining to much though. | |
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