| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 5:27:51 PM | My partner bought me an expensive diamond ring intended as an engagement ring but I broke it off with him before he gave it to me. We got back together and are now living together in our own home. While we were split he gave the ring to a woman he was seeing as a friendship ring. He got it back off her and gave it to me.... he told me up front that she had been wearing it. I will not wear it as an engagement ring but am thinking about wearing it on my other hand. It's a beautiful ring and I know it was always intended for me but I worry that it may always remind me of our split or of her for that matter. I'd like to hear from anyone who has an opinion on this... particularly anyone who has accepted a second hand ring from someone. | |
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osh42
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Joined: 10/18/2005
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 5:34:56 PM | | you sound unhappy with it. why not ask him to give it back to her and accept a new ring instead? This arrangement sounds like it hurts you, and him getting the ring back has to hurt her also. Get a new ring and you both win. | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 5:48:05 PM | The only second hand jewellery I've ever worn has come from my family (ie--grandmother passing away, things like that). I don't think I'd want to wear a ring an ex had ever worn though.
Why don't you try checking at some of your local jewellery stores though, a lot of them are willing to make trades on rings, so perhaps you could find something that you will actually enjoy wearing and not be reminded of the past this way? Just a suggestion, good luck! | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 6:57:31 PM | It's a ring. Wear the thing. Who cares if some other woman wore it???
I'm gonna assume that he had sex with that other woman he was seeing and that you are having sex with him now.. Do you want him to get another Penis? | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 7:05:32 PM |
why not ask him to give it back to her
Well ok, first off, why would he give an expensive diamond ring back to a girl he broke up with???
I understand what you are saying, I wouldn't feel right wearing the ring after she wore it.
I say trade it in and get a completely new ring, or keep it, and keep wearing it on your right hand as you are doing and wait for a new ring. Its not just a ring, its what it signifies. | |
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 7:43:43 PM | | I'd see about having it restyled, to represent the change of your relationship. That way you still have the ring that was originally bought for you, but it is new and rebuilt, like the relationship itself. | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/13/2006 10:21:45 PM | If you admire its beauty, then wear it and enjoy it. It was something which was almost lost to you, like your relationship almost was. It has been restored to you, like your relationship has been. It's not a reminder of the split - it's a reminder of the reunion because it would never have truly become yours without that reunion. I think that it is special that it was originally purchased with you in mind and that you are able to wear it now as it was intended that you should.
Don't let it be a reminder of "her", let it be a reminder of "him" and how special it is that you are reunited. It's a symbol and a talisman of your relationship - invest it with positive imagery and power!
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 12:40:15 AM | Now I see nothing wrong with taking a second hand ring BEING that he is not passing it along to any girl who walks along. If you buy a ring that has been loved before- ok thing... If he gives you the ring then takes it back then gives it to another girl and then gets it back and then gives it back to you?? No...
Maybe redesign the ring? | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 3:29:20 AM | You get what is coming to you....to pick up where you left off...if you had not broken up with him..the ring would have been yours and you would have been engaged...SO NOW>>>
you heard he had a new girl probably just playing around to show you he could replace you.....and you wanted him back...so he broke it off with her to come back to you..
SSsssooo?? do you really feel that you should get a new ring? When he forced the girl to give it back>>>>>tacky....so very tacky....but you deserve no ring honey..just be happy he took you back..nuff said... | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:47:24 PM | | I have to agree with justasofty lol, when my ex and I got engaged, I found out later that the ring he gave me was from his sisters first failed marriage lol. I am by no means materialistic, but, I would really have liked to have a ring that was mine. I wouldnt care how big the stone was in it, just knowing that it was from someone else, never felt like it was mine in the first place. | |
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Catwm
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Joined: 3/1/2006
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:22:42 PM |
Do you want him to get another Penis?
Place them both in "Boiling, Scalding Hot Water", that ought to sanitize them enough to wear both, ....one on the outside and one on the inside !  | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:25:32 PM | I don't understand why he gave it to her, when it was meant for you. Even after you broke up, he should of sold it or something, not give it to her !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I would not wear it
sorry...... but.....thats how I see it
good luck to you | |
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:33:22 PM | | when rings are exchanged or given it is to show the love and or commitment , vow or promise one has made to the other the ring signifying that I could not take or accept a ring from a man that he had recently given to another woman agift is a gift too all woman upon breaking up please keep your ring if you dont want it sell it pawn it whatever do not give it back to your ex. and men if you get the ring back same thing sell it.. just my opinion | |
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Joy.
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Joined: 6/26/2005
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| is it ok to wear a ring worn by another woman?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:34:50 PM | No way, no how. Nothing good can come from a recycled ring whether it was originally intended for you or not. I'd rather wear no ring at all.
He sounds quite fickle not to mention cheap. | |
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