| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 3:11:40 AM | | Just curious...is there some messed up gene is us being female that we tend to fall for the ones we can't have? There is one on my mind, all the time...but I KNOW he is basically off limits. Not one of my typical "buds that are my bros" but someone I met and think the world of...Is is just me or are there other's out there that seem to want to suffer too? Or is it just a "safer" thing in our minds so we don't have to "deal"..? | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 3:30:16 AM | | So does that make it "safer" too (on a man's part)? And sometimetime we DO know which we can't have, why still do we fall? I feel like a dumb girl asking or even caring.... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 3:41:46 AM | Theoreticaly, it's totaly possible that Prince Charles might happen along and fall in love with the most humble farm girl and marry her.
There's not a few humble farm girls who are banking on just that sort of thing.
We men are supposed to be the getters in the equasion, and we occasionaly make fools of ourselves when we cant get the one we want.
The more we can't get the object of our desires, the more attractive they become.
We don't feel any better about it than you do. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 4:26:38 AM | | Yeah i hear what you are saying. I think at some point we all chase someone we know we can't have. Either we do it for a reason or we do it without realizing it but it always happens. Usually its a sign we aren't ready for the real deal though. We chase them because we cant have them and we know deep down that if we could have them it probably wouldn't be as good as we thought it would be. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 4:27:48 AM | I agree Sassy.......
I guess my question in this thread would be.........what makes him off limits? If he has a gf than yes he is off limits. Is it just b/c you think that you are not good enough/worthy of him? Than if that is it, you need to change your way of thinking. Be positive/confident (as well as you can) and simply take the CHANCE! Going through life wondering if it could ever be will eat you alive, you need to put your neck out there and give it a shot. You may be very suprised at the outcome, he may be just as into you as you are into him.........
This has happened to me..........trust me, take the chance. (again depending if he is involved with someone or not)
Best of luck mustang | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:06:52 AM | Ok my neck is out there and it is agonizeing she has feelings but then she doesnt know what to do because she is involved and not happy were she is but is not sure what to do she thought it would be easy and its not I have told her that I should dissapear but she does not really want that. I feel there is hope at times but then I dont because of my feelings for her are strong and I am consumed by it all and I feel that I should walk away but cant what do I do I have not had these feelings for a long time for anyone I want to take a chance and I have but the ride is up and down I guess I will walk away when I cant handle it any more.
If only we knew what path to take it would be so much easyer in lifes journey. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:41:52 AM | ^^^^^ But if we knew the path we should take, there would be no journey.
We are made up of the choices that we do make, the chances we take. Everything worthwhile in life, especially in a relationship standpoint, has a good chance of causing us a great deal of pain. But then, when it does work out, it make it all the more sweeter.
But, in regards to the thread so far, sometimes there are times when the cost is going to outweigh the rewards. Is it worth it to you to take the chance? Then by all means, do so. Heck, you never truly know you cannot have it until you try. Best of luck to all that are reaching out for the sun, may it never burn your hands too much to scar you!
Wow....is it just me, or is this post just all over the place?  | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:43:21 AM | I don't know what it is ... but I know the feeling I am doing it right now ... I mean even parts of my heart say hey you love that guy don't give up now. I think my situation is bit different because I put up barriers around me when hes around so I don't get hurt. And it's not like he's taken or anything just not ready for dating. And I know its just not ready for dating or he would be gone and wouldnt get so dang jealous of me having other men around. But I still talk to other men and keep trying to move on. I know its wrong but if I can just get him out of my head I would be better off.
Biggest part is I know my life isn't easy for anyone to walk into and be with me right now I have a baby on the way and one here on earth that is so wonderful ... thank god she took after mom. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:46:12 AM | | Maybe your 'picker' is broken. There are probably some very good therapists in your area who will provide for you some very effective counselling. Maybe fix this broken 'picker'. There is a reason for choosing the 'unavailable'. The reason is inside you and can be corrected. Might be a learned behavior and can be relearned to behave in a more healthy and happier manner. I wish you well... | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:54:29 AM | No one is off limits........any man can be seduced if you really put your mind to it
I'll agree with that statement 100%, and honestly I think any woman can seduce any man even if he is married.
What I'll disagree with is that...you WILL win his body, but you won't win his heart if the feelings aren't mutual....
Mustang: Seems to be the story of my life...ugh! | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:04:13 AM | Sassy I agree with you and most of the others. Suduced Nah!!! Hell we can be had or I can. Married yea but I still can be had. Why I am a man  Se females are like and island yhuo can't bring nothing you can carry to them they already have it. Thats just my theory works some times. Also men are men Females just need to show. We don't really care about the rest . I just read you post TEE wow you are soooooo !!!!!!! right . | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:16:35 AM | TEE:
"I'll agree with that statement 100%, and honestly I think any woman can seduce any man even if he is married."
^^^^^^ I’ve never seen a statement that was more pro and anti woman all at the same time. Is what you are saying is that while there is no man that any woman can not get but at the sme time there is no woman that can keep a man happy? | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:20:36 AM | *shrugs* I know I can be seduced....Hell...I am male after all....
But I must say that it takes someone special and wonderful to make it past the seduction. There is nothing unattainable...but there are those that we should not be going after. Made the mistake before...Heavens know I will probably do so again. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:38:21 AM | Look on the bright side. Sometimes the ones we CAN have aren't worth having.
I think that eventually we will find our match if we hang in there long enough, though. I am in a very good situation right now with a great guy! Best of luck to you! | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:44:03 AM | | ok..here is my thought about it..You just are not ready for commitment with the right one..this guy is for sure safe,because he is off limits,this way you are not commited into a relationship..whenever you are ready for love,real love again,you will find the right one.You must be feeling not so good about something in your life and that is where you feel the need to suffer,you feel that you don't deserve the best in life.We all deserve the best and this guy is not the best for you..Move on before you get hurt and get stuck in this painful cycle. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:53:22 AM | All men can be seduced?
Sounds like an excuse being given to a partner to justify a man's indescressions.
"I did it because she seduced me", is a load of crap.
I'd say any man with that weak kind of character can be seduced.
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Fashion, I think your "falling" is a way for your mind to keep those feelings alive in you.
You may see a married man that has all the traits you would really like, including fidelity! As soon as you have an affair with him, he's lost his fidelity and not the person you imagined.
Fantasies like this feel very real and are normal and as stated before, if he's married don't act on you're feelings, it will just hurt everyone involved. If he's single, let him know how you feel. May you can have what you r thinkng you can't. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 7:00:54 AM | You're only falling for the ones you can't have if you are pursuing people out of your league.
Naturally we are attracted to people who are better looking, smarter and for some people richer.
We all get email from people we don't find attractive. So I guess people are falling for us as well. | |
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| Why always fall for THE ones that we cannot have?
Posted: 4/15/2006 7:11:02 AM | | For all the women who are claiming any man can be seduced. I think you mean any scum anc be seduced. Many men I know wouldn't cheat no matter the beauty of the pursueing tramp. | |
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