| Holding Hands
Posted: 4/15/2006 7:51:35 AM | | When meeting someone for the first time, Going to dinner, then for a walk, Is it bad to hold hands? | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 7:54:19 AM | | Usually it would I'd say because it's hard to figure out how the other person feels about ya. But the way I see it, it's a great test to see how she respond to the gesture and most of the time body to body feeling even if its hand tells a lot more than what comes out of someone's mouth. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 7:54:36 AM | Depends on the woman, and how it's going. I've done it on a first date, and it's fantastic. I was with someone that didn't like holding hands, and doing that again was like recharging my soul after the battery had run down.  | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 7:57:12 AM | Actually a touch of the hand signals to a woman that you are interested - its up to her to either touch back or gently pull away in which case her message is "not yet". Give her time to find her comfort level with you but don't be afraid to make those first gestures. Touching her hand is a lovely gesture and if she is interested she will end up touching your hands back - from there hand holding will be the most natural thing in the world.
Best wishes on your journey,
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:00:33 AM | | harry020- Holding her hand would only be a bad thing if she was trying to escape! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:02:22 AM | Are you kidding me? Most of he women I've gone on first dates with LOVE to hold hands and so do I. It's all good according to us. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:13:05 AM | | If the date is going well and you both sense a good connection then holding hands is a nice, sensual gesture. A lot more romantic then trying to ram your tongue down her throat too, lol. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:16:26 AM | | harry - I can't think of a single reason why it would be a bad thing??? If you're unsure ... you can always ask her if it's okay. Just my thoughts! Best wishes to ya! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:33:23 AM | | Awww, I can't see why it's a bad idea either. Unless, she's uncomfotable with the idea. Otherwise, go for it...if her hands are by her sides, just lightly brush your hand upon hers. If it's crossed across her chest...don't bother. | |
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| Holding Hands
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:34:04 AM | | harry- Another thing you could do if you're unsure, is just hold her elbow-skin since she won't feel it anyway... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:47:24 AM | Holding hands is NOT bad at all!
Why would you think so, did you try and did she pull away? Or just hypothetically speaking?
Of course everyone is different but if I'm having a great time and liking the person it is the sweetest thing you can do. I think it eases the tension a bit also. I've been on dates wondering..."does this guy like me? I can't really tell, I mean he's nice we are talking - he SEEMS interested"....then he'll grab my hand and I know for sure!
(I've also had a former first date grab my hand and kiss it, that was very cool too).
The whole sweaty palms thing can be embarrasing if you are exceptionally nervous, but hey - get over it, we are only human! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:52:18 AM | When you holding hands it shows a mutual attraction, friendliness and level of comfort. If you first hold them then and soon let them go, it is not a good sign. It is also a good way to test if there is real chemistry.
SpunkyLady | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 8:55:39 AM | I would like to hold hands with the coors light girls, that would be really cool. Like hold there hands in a hot tub or something. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:02:11 AM | holding hands is amazing!!!! again, like everyone else says, go with your instincts, but use good judgment. most girls are gonna love it!!!
luvin: i've also had a guy kiss my hand...it's very sweet!! (major points for the guys!!!!...just a tip )
<3 irish | |
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| Holding Hands
Posted: 4/15/2006 9:09:18 AM | | Holding someone's hand is similar to kissing them on the forehead. I like to reserve the action for a person I honestly care about. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:25:23 AM | ^^honestly care about, how about the ones that you dishonestly care about?
Holding hands is a polite gesture, in crowded places it's sometimes necessary. It's definitlely romantic.
I am amazed how some people on PoF equate hand-holding to Public Displays of Affection. These same people have no intimacy issues regarding sexual intercourse on first dates, to them that is like hand holding and hand holding is like marriage. There was a post on this a few months ago. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:46:07 AM |
how about the ones that you dishonestly care about?
There is no such thing...not in my world. Poo on you if you're that phony. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:48:40 AM | __Holding hands becomes automatic for this guy.
__I do not think of it but at some point in the evening, like going from the restaurant to the night club, we just do it. Most times it just feels right. The same with the first kiss, I (we) do not think of it, it just happens.
Doc  | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:52:35 AM | | Go for it, you never know where it could lead. But always be a gentleman, at all times. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:56:18 AM | this is off topic, but when someone tells me "here's my honest opinion", what it get me thinking is geez what are their dishonest opinions, you know, what they'll tell you to manipulate you. so poo poo on you cnote for thinking i'm phony.
personally i can care about someone enough on a first meeting to hold their hand. it's polite and not terribly intimate. it shows genuine interest and that you are caring thoughtful person, it's not a comeon for sex or attempt to publicly "own" someone. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 10:00:29 AM | as long as you're not shoving her hand down your pants or anything!???
Holding it as a gesture of caring is fine. Holding it to be dominant is only fine if she likes it! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 10:01:09 AM | I didn't say YOU were phony, the "you" was to be taken in an unspecified context. All I meant was that I don't have dishonest feelings, and those who do have serious issues that they should take up with a psychiatrist.
Now go play with your bike. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 10:01:33 AM |
it's not a comeon for sex or attempt to publicly "own" someone
*Obi Wan Kenobi voice* Remember... Always be a gentleman... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 11:03:11 AM | NO way it's not bad - I want you to hold my hand - it's so sweet. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 11:13:43 AM | I would be pleased to have a guy ask me if he can hold my hand on a first date...After that just taking my hand as we stroll is wonderful..But then I am feely touchy kinda gal.I love hugs and hand holding,Some people might feel that their space has been invaded if some one grabbed their hand, with out asking.........  | |
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