| | Dating while unemployed?Page 1 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | After being out of work since August of last year I finally landed a career position this past Thursday. Kind of funny that in some people's eyes I would have gone from a loser to a winner based on a job offer. If you are out of work for any period of time people will form opinions that you are lazy or whatever. I honestly didn't think it would take that long for me to get a job, but I quit my previou job at a bad time and going into the holidays and end of year I found that the opportunities werent there. Had interviews here and there up through January, and the February was getting calls left and right, but still no final job offers. Finally one of the best opportunities for me called me and actually had me do a few tests to see how good I was at the job, I nailed them and got the job.
Honestly I was putting off dating until I had a good job just because I know how people perceive the unemployed, especially someone who has been unemployed for more than a month. And it lowered my confidence as well. I find myself starting to feel relly good about myself now, amazing how you can wake up one day and after 8 months of questioning yourself, frustrating circumstances, and trying to live within very short means it all changes in a matter of minutes.
Aside from all that I wondered if anyone else has put dating on hold because they were unemployed? | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:05:44 AM | | Yeah, everyone wants to be with someone who's happy, motivated and successful, so it makes sense that people on a dating site would look down on the unemployed. Nothing wrong with that. Congrats on the new job though! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:07:21 AM | | i was unemployed till last year and i never been able to get a date cuz i didn't have a job. now that i have a job, i still cant get a date cuz i work at WalMart and before then, i couldn't get a date cuz i was a dish-washer at IHOP. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:12:03 AM | | Of course, part of being ready for a relationship is putting your house in order. When I moved to the City I live in now, it took awhile to get to where I wanted. Now I am there, life is much better and you feel better about yourself. Good luck on you new job! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:19:15 AM | Unemployeed for eight months why couldn't you have taken a lesser job in the meantime?
Congrats on your new job ! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:21:36 AM | | I won't put dating on hold but I will tell a woman that I'm either in-between gigs or by choice, out of work. But if I'm in between job contracts, the priority is getting work. The "by choice part" would be where I had enough in savings to live off. That being said, I think both sexes want their date to be employed because they have that feeling the significant other will hit them up for cash. Would I date a woman who doesn't have a job? Sure, why not? | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:27:10 AM | | how can you date if you have no job to even buy a coffee,unless you have you own place . | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:30:06 AM | | you can still take walks, ride bikes. stay home and watch movies or TV, ext. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:31:04 AM | | I tried a number of lesser jobs. For some odd reason employers don't want to hire people that they know wont be around for a whole year. I had less luck with lesser jobs than I was way overqualified for than for jobs that I was underqualified for. A college degree works both ways I have found out. When people get the feeling that you are overqualified for a job they wont give you much consideration at all. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 9:42:22 AM | | As long as he was motivated to do something with his life I would be fine with temporary unemployment. Money is not everything. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 10:14:33 AM | this is just more proof women dont want stay at home fathers =)
all they want is money money money!
*cough*
I'll go hide =) | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 10:38:06 AM | Your right trooth, The reason some employers will not hire you for short term is it costs quite a bit to train someone. They want to invest thier money long term. I was never really out of work, I did go for the lesser jobs. Just did not feel happy enough with myself to date. So you did good, life changes from time to time.
(Slips Indigo a twenty, get a job)  | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 11:07:14 AM |
I wondered if anyone else has put dating on hold because they were unemployed?
Can't say I have. I don't tend to see a relation between matters of the heart & a wallet. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 11:34:23 AM | | Yeah, I didn't have a job for a little bit last year, and definetely didn't go looking for any dates or anything like that. I will state the obvious: it's easier for an attractive woman to be unemployed, though, there's still less of a stigma with that. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 11:38:46 AM | I have been through the whole being out of job and looking for work thing. I'm currently doing that now even. So, yeah, it makes no difference to me if a guy has a job or not. When I see a person, I am not searching for dollar bills. During my job, cause I made good money,I would pay for lunches and dinners for guys, or go dutch. I see no problem in it, and that is not why I am hanging out with the person in the first place. I find it sad that anyone does that.
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Posted: 4/15/2006 11:59:13 AM | Well...are we serious here, is the question really "Why can't I get a date if I am unemployed?"
This rates up there as to the Forum "Why would a woman wear a sexy shirt to the bar?" It's like asking "Why don't people want to date single parents?" and "Why do some people lie and cheat?" I know that we all think that we are all original, wonderful catches with much to offer, but someone also has to want what we have to offer. The challenge is finding this person that can put up with us, and us them. Certain traits up the chances, and make this easier to find....like
Having a job
Being attractive
Owning a home
Owning a car
Being kind
Being funny
Dressing well
Being fit
An education
The abitity to hold conversation
Nice skin
Nice teeth
A genuine caring
Good spelling(a trait I do not have)
Ect.....
If you have all this or are all this and still can't get a date...then write a post about it...to all others KEEP TRYING...it has to be the right person at the right time...I know I am still waiting for my John Doe at 1500hrs....
Tara | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 12:26:05 PM | I've become unable to work for medical reasons
Does that make me ineligible to date and worth less because of it?
I think not. Should I meet someone that could take me as I am at the moment, I would have no fear it was my money she was after. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 12:43:44 PM | | I too was laid off for a while and decided to pull out of sight and concentrate on getting a job..but then once I found another job..I spent a lot of time re -training and putting more hours than I am required ..now I am just observing until I can some time to actually spend time with someone..my coworkers are on this site and having relationships off and on..I have met some friends on this and other sites..but they are also busy so we email..each other and making small talk..until it's fine with me for now.. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 12:54:50 PM | indigo rose,
Unemployeed for eight months why couldn't you have taken a lesser job in the meantime? I think working at 7-11 or McDonalds would make one look worse than temporarily unemployed, between real career jobs (unless you're barely 20 or something). :)
I've been in the same boat -- My friend and I, a couple years back decided to start our own company, which got off to a bad start due to the initial connections falling through. It took an unnecessarily large amount of time to get it going, and when it started going some, we moved out of our apartment and instead got an office downtown, but moved in with our parents for a while (ouch!).
Despite having a nice office, it certainly hit our personal confidence, for good reasons. Being conservative with our money (keeping most of it in the business account), and with our temporary living situation -- owning your own company ends up sounding like you're unemployed, to those who doesn't know you or what your business really is.
It has finally grown with a great reputation, but the past couple years were embarassing! It was certainly idiotic to consider dating a fine woman in such situations - not due to time, but due to what it seemed like in most eyes. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 2:17:50 PM | | For me it was more of a self confidence thing, and I know how much self confidence plays when you are dating. Thanks for all the replies. I know a lot of issues like this is in our heads more than reality. I grew up with a script that based a lot of a man's success on having a job, holding a job, and then beyone that the more money you make the more successful you appear. I don't really care about money myself, but I have learned the value of a job in providing stability for yourself. I wont take that for granted anymore. I guess it is a part of growing up for me. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2006 2:28:55 PM | | we all experience "life changing" experiences...whether it is purposeful or accidental. $$$ should not be a factor...but employment is~ | |
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